If anyone knows about evolving, it's Jeffrey Combs.
If anyone knows about evolving, it's Jeffrey Combs.
Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:
My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.
Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.
I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.
She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.
I've known other people who do that.
I just feel like any name change that you don't need (i.e. you're transitioning) is just more bother than it's worth.
If Matt Walsh wasn’t openly a male supremacist I’d say it should be turned around on him.
Every time I see one of his shit takes on here for a moment a think of the actor Matt Walsh and think “oh no the funny guy is a shitbag?!”
But no it’s always this other asshole, at least I hope
There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.
Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.
If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.
It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it's only the husband's name on the marriage certificate.
If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).
You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers
So curious what your first name is.
Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.
I love everything he's done, but going back and watching Enterprise was great because he's SO great in that show everytime he shows up.
When discussing marriage with my girlfriend (now wife), she mentioned not wanting to change her name. I told her this wasn't acceptable - I expected her to change her name. But she repeated not wanting to change her last name. I told her she misunderstood, I didn't want her to change her last name, I wanted her to change her first name to "groupofcrows property", she can keep her last name. She did not accept this. (Yes this was a real conversation, yes we have been married for 7 years, no she did not change her name)
gonna take a while... he looks like he hasn't gotten around to evolve into the homo habilis yet.
Are there even many other countries besides the US that do this? aAways found it the weirdest thing.
I believe most countries in Central Europe do it. But it’s also possible to take the wife‘s name of course
I don’t mean this as a “gotcha”, but my understanding is that in the vast majority of places where marriage doesn’t change names, the children are still always named after the parent with an outie. I just want to push back against this “western bad” meme.
They do it in other English-speaking countries for sure.
Asking with curiosity and respect, for those in the "keeping my name" camp -
You were given your name by your parents, and most often the surname is the father's surname.
Most of you adopt nicknames or pet names which change over time (what your family calls you vs your friends vs your colleagues)
Why is it a really big deal to you? Is it being asked / expected to change your name by a societal norm / being told what to do? Or the effort involved in changing it?
Source - male, changed my surname when I moved internationally, married, and wife's family expected her to change her name to mine because we were starting a new family and that would be the family name.
I didn't give a shit because my surname isn't my family name, it's one of my middle names, so it seemed arbitrary, and said so to both her and them.
Wife decided she would change her name and our kid has that name too. It was an absolute pain in the ass to do for her because she's lived here for much longer than me so had more things to change, so I understand not wanting to deal with that. But years down the track - everyone seems happy - reading through these comments tho many of you view this as wrong??
Generally, women are expected to change their last name to their husband's last name when they get married. It's viewed as wrong because it's needlessly patriarchal.
I'm in a similar boat of my name not being a big deal to me (also male). However, if a name is arbitrary, why should you change it? If it doesn't matter whether it's your original name or the name of your spouse, why on earth go to the trouble of changing it in the first place? "That's how we've always done it" has never really held much water for me as an argument. If it's of merit, it should stand up to scrutiny without the appeal to tradition.
However, to many people, names aren't arbitrary. From a historical point of view, marriage used to be considered a transaction of property, and a woman's last name had the connotation of ownership. Were I a woman, I would find that quite abhorrent, and even though that connotation has diminished I still don't think I could stomach it.
For some specific cases, names hold recognition. I'm a singer and have friends & mentors for whom performing is their full time job. To change your last name after building name recognition can do serious harm to your fame, and thus income. So most of them in that situation will retain their maiden name for job security more than anything.
I almost kept my maiden, but now it's an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo's because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.
Sometimes, it's really that simple. My husband didn't care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.
Spend 500 Candies to evolve your Wayoon into a Shran? [yes] [no]
The compromise is clearly to swap last names with each other
I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea
That seems pretty common to me as a Californian. However two couples I know greatly regret this decision because they both had long names to start with and now they can’t fill out any forms successfully.
It's fiancée. Fiancé is male.
Today I Learned! I had no idea there was a difference. Apparently they are pronounced the same, it's only a written difference.
But it seems like in English fiancé is becoming a gender neutral term
So is it a red flag, then, that my husband did not take my last name? And if it's a gay couple, which one is complaining?
I'm more surprised that he took the time to use an accent mark. Either a copy-paste to make sure he got it right, or lots of extra time changing his keyboard back and forth.
Or he knows the ascii representation of the symbol (https://sites.psu.edu/symbolcodes/windows/codealt/, it also works under Linux, the shortcut is crtl+shift+u and requires the unicode representation as a hexadecimal).
There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:
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She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.
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She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.
My ex took my last name, because he had siblings with children and my family name would have died with me. It was a gift to my father that his* grandson would carry the family name forwards. And no, that wasn’t a red flag – we were married for 30 years.
My wife just didn’t want to change hers, so I changed mine instead. No need for a particular reason.
- Who cares
I'll admit when I was in my early 20s, it was a point of contention with one girl I was dating. I was young and stupid, my mom took my dad's name, etc.
But by 30, wiser, less prone to drama, I was solidly in the "who cares, do what makes you happy" crowd.
My wife kept her last name. It's easier, and less confusing for her clients and networking.
Grow the fuck up. Stop being so needy and insecure. It's a bad look.
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Calling it now. His next movie is "Am I a misogynist?" and in it he will prove that he is indeed one.
Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.
They're certainly going for a look right now.
Yeah, they need to go back to having bald faces and side-parted hair, so we can shun them at long distance.
Body shaming isn’t cool
It's the "hardworking man" archetype that they all like to impersonate.
Shaving is work, that's why I do it infrequently
As a bearded lumberjack-lookin’ MF who isn’t a conservative or a weakchin, these dudes can fuck right off. We do not claim them.
Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.
I took my wife's name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.
Fuckyeah, that's for me! Except marriage itself isn't.
I plan on doing the same. My dad Americanized my family's last name, and because my girlfriend is the same ethnicity as him, I plan on taking her name to undo the damage and go back to my roots.
And don't marry a man who insists you take his. That's a wall of control he's building around you and he won't stop until he's separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it's your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.
If you haven't yet, some day you'll find your Mr. TheDead (if that's your thing)
I've already found my Shaun of the Dead, it's Simon Pegg; unfortunately though, he's taken... and I'm a gay woman. In another lifetime perhaps, Simon!
I'm a woman and paid to change my surname because it was difficult for everyone to pronounce. I can only hope my future husband will want to take my name rather than the other way around. I paid for it, it's kinda VIP now.
I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.
My wife didn't change her last name because we both forgot about it in the timeframe where it was easy to do and now we don't want to putz with it. 🤷
I also still don't have a wedding ring. We just had our sixth anniversary a few days ago.
My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn't care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn't want to change my name, so why should she have to?
Twenty years next summer.
Edit: "double-barreled" just means hyphenated.
What's does double barreled mean in this context?
Just your usual Smith-Jones or Louis-Dreyfus hyphenated name.
I'm not the original commenter, but I think it means hyphenated.
If she changed to your name it would've been twenty five
LOL, I like the thought, but you're confusing "old fashioned" with "time traveler."
What does double-barreled mean?
It's heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It's exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.
How did he do that thing where I heard "evolve" spoken aloud by him?
I thought twitter was text only?
Who cares what name anyone uses .... my wife and I never got married and she's always had her name and we never bothered changing a thing because we never cared. No one cares ... not even the government.
my wife and I never got married
I'm assuming you mean you never had a ceremony?
Aren't you automatically married by common law in Canada after a certain number of years? I seem to remember that was the case with my uncle and his wife. But he eventually had to marry her because she's German and she couldn't get a long-term visa so he could work in the states when he was allowed to return. He dodged the Vietnam war draft. When Clinton allowed people like him to return, he got a job at the Library of Congress. Quite ironic.
Meanwhile, she continued to get paid for Canadian work because she was a professor at the (at the time) by-mail only Athabasca University.
If Uncle Sam was expecting them to stick around, they didn't. They moved back to Saskatoon after he retired. Canada treated him very well. He happened to be pursuing a folklore degree right at the time the Canadian government realized they needed folklorists to help preserve various cultures within their borders.
Sorry for rambling. I need more sleep apparently.
Yes ... that's why I say the government doesn't care ... after a couple have been together for a few years, they are more or less considered married, legally speaking. We thought of a ceremony for a while ... then waited for so long that we just never think of it any more.
I know some same sex couples that have been together for over 30 years up here, they got together years ago as 'friends living together' when the attitudes of same sex couples were still frowned upon. Now after all that time, they are more or less married couples and file their taxes just like every other married couple. When it comes to finances and taxation, governments and economics really don't care about sexuality or sexual orientation, as long as you pay your taxes.
I also know of a friend of a friend from the sixties who lived up north near Timmins who received US draft dodgers during the 70s. A couple of young professionals who eventually became high school teachers and college professors and ended up just living up here all their lives. They did a lot for people and gave a lot of their energy and expertise to people up here ... also excellent folk musicians and artists ... all because of some dumb war they were avoiding. There was some good that came out of those dumb wars the US was forcing their young people to die in for no reason.
Don't worry about rambling ... I always enjoy hearing from you.
Get more sleep ... never apologize for being a Ramblin' Man. Stay well my friend.
Believe it or not, a lot of people care. But it's fine that you don't, especially if it's working out for you.
My new headcanon is that you're ininewcrow's wife, and your comment is super passive aggressive
If it creates such a wall of separation, take her name instead. Problem solved.
It's illegal to change your name for wedding reason in Quebec (Canada). Something that followed the quiet Revolution and distancing government and religion. You don't own your wife. You can still pee on her shoes but it won't be notarized.
Canadian weddings sounds interesting.
To be clear, that's a Québécois(e) wedding, it's not like that outside of there (but would be fantastic if it was.)
Can confirm. Still have my maiden name. Mostly for legality and ownership reasons.
You don't expect Herbert West: Reanimator to be the voice of reason... yet here we are
What a funky timeline
I actually had the pleasure of working with him on a motion comic project once (which sadly never got finished) and this is 100% him. He's a very cool guy in person and this is exactly the sort of thing I would have expected him to say, although maybe not directly to Matt Walsh.
He's also a massive Radiohead fan. I'm not, so I mostly just sat there and listened when he gushed about them at lunch after hearing them on the radio in my car. Thankfully, the other people with us knew more about Radiohead than I did.
He also said one of the funniest things I've heard a pro like him say in a work setting, talking about a movie role he was offered: "I'll do it for $1000, but not if the script is shit."
To me he'll always be Doctor
StrangeMordridThis movie made me a fan before I even knew who he was.
I prefer the old ways. Steve son of Bill 5th generation Help Desk support.
We'll have none of that, Steve Billssonturnoffandonner.
Svenson Sonsysadmindor
I read this in Shrans voice.
It probably even works in Brunt's voice, because Ferengi are more progressive than Matt Walsh.
"Andorian women are far more aggressive than Earth females. She made a... an overture. I had a choice - charge her with assaulting a superior or... marry her for 32 years and counting."
“Grow up, pink skin!”
I demanded (not really) that my wife keep her last name. We have the same first name although spelled slightly different
I've always thought it was weird, the wife changes her name.
But in your situation? That's the perfect reason to do it.
You could also wear matching outfits every day! Like Jean and Gene from The Umbrella Academy season 4Oh man it’s already confusing enough. I’m considering going by my middle name after all these years. My middle name is very Dutch though
The wife changing her name is one of the mildest things inflicted on women in traditional marriage customs. In some cultures when a woman’s husband dies she is forced to marry his younger brother!
When someone you like, also dislikes someone you dislike.
I think you would have to physically fight my wife to make her relearn her signature with a new name.
My wife's first name and my last name would sound really awkward together, which is the main reason why she kept hers and why it never bothered me that she did.
It is annoying to have to explain to people at places like hospitals that we're married even though we have different last names.
Isn't it scary to see the count difference between Matt's tweet vs Jeffrey's reply ? Thanos snap isn't going to cut it...
Screenshot was probably taken shortly after the reply was posted.
The only thing is that it's annoying when you get kids.
Do they take both names? If so, you are just pushing the issue of choosing to your kids. At some point someone needs to drop some fucking names.
We decided our daughter would take my name because my wife's brother had two sons that would continue her family name. And considering my daughter is queer, it's not all that likely she's going to have a kid anyway. Not that we knew that at the time (although I used to joke that I hoped she would be because I wouldn't have to worry about her getting pregnant as a teen).
Edited to clarify.
I enjoy the couples who both change their last names, usually a mashup of the two previous names. That's the ticket.
My girlfriend and I are talking about this, I want her to keep her last name, I want to keep mine, but I also want to share a last name with my future children.
I'm the last male with that last name, which is very unique - basically everybody with that last name is related and we can track it at least 400 years in the past and I want my children to be part of that history. But I also want my girlfriend to have the same, like having our children be connected to her family history as well. So we will combine our names to not sever those connections.
Only part of contention is which name comes first, I like it alphabetically which would put my name first, her first and last name are alphabetically following letters (like A-B eg. Anne Barn or Chloe Detmer) which is also nice, so I am torn about that question :D
I hate hyphenated last names. It’s more of an aesthetic thing though and not really something I actually care about. If I were a kid and had to put a long ass last name on every paper I’d be rather annoyed (my last name is long to begin with)
I'm inclined to agree. Main issue for me is that it's not a sustainable practice and you're possibly making this very problem more difficult for the next generation.
Particularly if you plan to have kids, I think it's nice to have one name. It just doesn't have to be a man's specifically. Name mashups are fun, or simply reversing gender stereotypes. I once went to a wedding where the couple flipped a coin to decide whose name they'd take forward and it was possibly the most exciting part of the day.
Long story short, my wife and I have been married 10+ years. She just changed from her maiden name to mine a couple weeks ago. I kinda miss her old name, it feels weird having the same name now.
I'm Spanish (we don't change names after marriage there), and my (British) partner wants to take my name. Rationally I know that's typical in the UK. But subconsciously, I feel like the people who share last names are siblings. I don't want to feel like my partner and I are siblings, that's so weird!!
The time I got married, I asked my wife not to change her last name because the women in my family don't. (Even if they did, I think I would still find it off-putting. It's my last name. You have your own last name.) She insisted on changing it regardless of what I wanted, and that was the "red flag"...
The joke is on her. She had to go through the trouble of changing it back after the divorce :)
The joke is on her. She had to go through the trouble of changing it back after the divorce :)
That always sounded like a huge pain in the ass to me. People are so unrealistic about marriage so often though. It might end. Many marriages do. Don't do something stupid as if it never will to make things harder on you later.
I knew a guy who had his wife's name tattooed in huge letters on his neck. What a dumb thing to do.
My brother got his girlfriend's named tattooed on his chest as a surprise for her. Luckily they've been married for ~20 years now so it worked out, but that struck me as a risky move at the time.
That always sounded like a huge pain in the ass to me.
She's a doctor so it was even more of a huge pain than usual for her, both times.
I knew a guy who had his wife’s name tattooed in huge letters on his neck.
If he gets divorced, Facebook can give him a list of all the other people with that same name.
