Being completely unaware of anyone else:
- Standing in doorways, using your phone or having a conversation
- Talking loudly when inappropriate, when I’m in pain at the doctors, I don’t want to hear about your roses
- leaving your shopping trolley blocking the aisle sideways in the supermarket while looking for your stuff
- driving down the middle of the road so everyone else has to pull over, when there’s plenty of room for two cars to pass
- stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is
- riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians
As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Hell is other people”.
stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is
That's my new pet peeve. The thing is I don't remember seeing people do this in the past and certainly not frequently, but now I see it all the time. Mind-boggling selfishness. I think Covid rotted everyone's brains way more than we realize.
I can't find a source right now, because I just woke up and I don't want to, so (Trust Me Bro, et al, 2024) but there's a chance that quote is actually about Nazis!
A lot of French people referred to them as "the others" and would often speak sort of semi-codedly about them in writing and such so as not to piss off their new overlords. So that line may well not have been "I'm such an introvert that being around other humans is like being in hell" but instead "hell has delivered itself to my doorstep in the form of goose-stepping bastards"
That's not at all what the quote is and neither is the top level commenter's interpretation, and I think it not being these is pretty obvious if you read No Exit. The point that he was making (and this is putting it crassly because I know jack shit about his Heidegger-based phenomenology) is the presence of other people forces us to be self-conscious, to regard ourselves as the object of someone else's perception and judgement. That's why Sartre goes out of his way to say the room (their jail cell in Hell, effectively) had no reflective surfaces, so that the character's perception of themselves could only come from the people they are stuck with (this doesn't entirely make sense, but I am pretty sure it's what he meant). You can read him talk about some of the premises informing this by checking out his writing on "The Look," like is quoted below this comic.
So it's a slightly obtuse point about intersubjectivity that people have turned into a cutesy way of talking about their own misanthropy. It's probably more emblematic of the meaning of the quote how people in this thread, original commenter especially, are talking about silently judging people for this and that action.
Or as Daria said: "On second thought, hell is myself."
Or stepping off an escalator and just stopping right there to get their bearings.
- riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians
Gotta include the ones riding at night in black/dark clothes with no reflectors or lights; be it using the crosswalk, against a 'do not cross' or in the middle of the [car] lane, ignoring the bike lane.
You left out blasting across the road at full speed.
Up-voted for the apposite Satre ref.
Aka inconsiderate people
If you cannot chew with your mouth closed and you are older than 6 years, you should not be allowed to vote, operate heavy machinery or have children.
Or guns.
There's a word for not being able to handle this: misophonia
It seems that for some people (myself included) it generates a primal urge.
Or use cutlery properly.
I agree, but the one person I knew who did this was a rich asshole. He had zero fucks to give.
'It has chemicals in it'
This use of 'chemicals' as something inherently bad just makes it sound like they're parroting some scaremongering tiktok.
I had this talk with a member of my family. Water is a chemical, salt is a chemical. Just because you don't immediately know what it is, doesn't mean its bad.
"Passive income" if you describe yourself as having a passive income, I want nothing to do with you.
Passive income is a myth - all income requires labor... if you're getting income without putting in labor then you're stealing someone else's income.
Do you have a 401k?
I don't because I'm not working in the US but I do have a retirement fund. I can critize the system we live in and those that revel in exploiting it while also realizing that if I completely eschew investment I'll be a pauper. I'm not going to bankrupt myself and be unable to afford my partner's medical expenses to win an argument on the internet.
I'm aware that the stock market is slicing off income from laborers in an unjust manner - it slices off my income as well... I don't celebrate participating in this system, but I do participate in it while acknowledging how bad it is. It isn't a significant portion of my income and if I could personally will it out of existence I would.
What if I did a bunch of work in the past and I am still getting income from that work, even though I do almost nothing to keep that income coming in now?
You're heart is in the right place, but your conclusion is wrong. It's entirely possible to build a passive income without involving anyone else's labor. Without even getting into things like investment income, which I'm assuming you'll still attribute to someone else's labor in the most abstract sense, there are still plenty of ways to do this. I personally lived off mostly passive income for several years when blogging was big. I created a bunch of blogs myself, did all of the development and design myself, managed the servers myself, and wrote all of the content myself. Then I put a few non-intrusive ads on the sites. When they started generating pretty good money, I mostly stopped working on them. They continued generating decent money until social media killed blogging. I still have one of them, and I receive around $60 per month from it despite the fact that I haven't touched it in over a decade. So, how exactly was/am I stealing someone else's labor?
I created a bunch of blogs myself, did all of the development and design myself, managed the servers myself, and wrote all of the content myself.
Sure sounds like labour to me.
And there is no requirement for labour to generate income immediately. A majority of labour is front-loaded, with income being back-loaded.
I still have one of them, and I receive around $60 per month from it despite the fact that I haven't touched it in over a decade.
Server maintenance and updating code to work with current releases is still “labour”. Because sure as shit you’ve been doing these things… no hosting provider is going to let you go 10 years with zero updates or patches to the website or the underlying framework that allows the website to run. Because failing to do that is how entire hosting platforms get rooted and infected with malware.
I make about $1k a month absolutely, completely passively from Amazon. I've put in maybe 30 minutes in three years. When I tell people this, they see that passive income is real.
Then I tell them about the years before that, where I spent every second I had making shirt and book designs. I had made a single sale early on and I saw the potential, so I sunk every godforsaken hour I had to spare (I also worked full time) designing and uploading, researching, networking, and pushing. I gambled, grafted, and earned it.
It's absolutely worth the investment, but I only know that now. Back then it was an insane gamble - hundreds of hours of proper work for ?????. I stop telling people about my 'passive' income now because no one wants to ruin the dream of freeeee money.
FIRE these dipshits straight into the fucking sun.
Owning giant pickup trucks and SUVs. I'm not that secretive about it, though. I assume everyone driving them is an insecure, overgrown child who wants a big vroom vroom.
If I know anyone who drives one, I always refer to it jokingly as their 'emotional support vehicle".
I'm not sure about everyone else, but in my case you assume correctly. The only reason I'd want a monster truck is to act like an overgrown child who wants to show off his big vroom vroom. Also, with a mandatory funny honk.
Wow beat me to it.
Is a minivan not allowed?
I don't like them but they're at least practical.
How much time it takes for somebody in front of me in line to complete whatever the line is about.
I'm sometimes super slow at the start of self checkout. If the bags are stuck together, not open, and if I didn't bring my own, sometimes it takes me 2 minutes just to open a plastic bag. I'm trying my hardest!
Or the people who are determined to discuss bullshit at length that is completely unrelated while there is an extended line behind them. I'm empathetic if you're lonely, but this isn't the time or place. Take your ass to a bar (you can order food/non-alcoholic drinks if you like), and you can run your mouth to the patrons there. You can also go to parks, live sports, live music, hobbie/enthusiast events, etc. All these events have people you can mingle with, but fucking lines with captive employees and other people tattooed behind you trying to conduct business isn't the place.
Leaving things they decided they don't want just wherever in a store. It's annoying as a customer, because now I have to dig through their mess to get the product I actually wanted, and even moreso as an employee.
At least put it back in the right department. The underpaid employees who have been there since before the store opened for the day really don't want to have to play the game of "How long has this ground beef been sitting in a produce basket, and how much product did we just lose?"
I remember a story of a guy talking about how the store reeked and smelled terrible. After doing tons of searching at the epicenter of the smell, turns out some guy hid a 5 pound beef brisket on the bottom shelf, hidden behind a bunch of breakfast cereal.
You can and will find terrifying things working in grocery.
I once found a pack of beef jerky that had become 90% mold. It was tucked all the way towards the back of the shelves, partially shoved into the crack between two of them. We had no clue how long it had been sitting back there, because jerky rarely needed a full teardown.
Shopping cart theory also seems relevant to this.
I think there's some misconceptions about this that need to be cleared up. If you don't want it and you've already moved away from the section, the best thing to do is take it to the register and say you don't want it. Then what typically happens is it gets put in a take-back cart and the employees take care of it
One of my stranger experiences as a cashier was watching someone waiting to be checked out change their mind and start trying to abandon some ground beef among the candy bars at the checkout. Apparently handing it over to me didn't occur to them. At least when I pointedly offered, "If you don't want that I'll take it." they handed it over.
- People who take phone calls with it on speaker
- People that have anything on speaker while in a public place
- Wearing "MAGA" clothing
- Having a cyber truck
- Leaving large gaps in the drive thru queue
- People with young children that they dress up like little adults.
- People who refuse to learn basic tech (email, texting, etc.)
- Edit: People that don't like animals, or they dislike just cats. I feel like people who don't vibe with animals in some way are... Off.
damn, I'm a judgy bitchThese are all reasonable. Add people that let others in, in potentially dangerous situations.
All the people typing "loose" when they mean "lose". Shit's been happening a lot for the past year or two and I don't know why.
It's just the natural evolution of language. Rules become loser over time
Some rules weaken, and others are created or subtly change - that's why parents can never get their kids' slang quite right. It's not that the parents can't simply weaken their grammar, it's that the kids do some things differently with very strict rules.
Literally this
It's been happening a lot longer than that, that's a classic misspelling.
Thank you for writing 'a lot' and not 'alot'.
Shit’s been happening a lot
Butthole must be loose.
Much longer than a year or two.
I know of a multi-million dollar company that was about to launch a new marketing campaign. We are talking ads, dozens of trucks getting rewrapped, marketing materials, catalogs featuring the tagline; the whole nine. It would have been tens of thousands of dollars spent.
They used "loose" instead of "lose" in the tag. The error was caught by the CEO's secretary without a degree.
It had gotten past upper management and the marketing department without being noticed.
Because phonetically, it's "loos" vs "looz". And people don't care enough to know or apply the difference.
People being shitty to customer service workers and utility, and people not being courteous to them.
Heck, I sometimes judge people for not thanking service workers and utility. For example: if a janitor lets you pass a hallway they've been busy cleaning, I'd silently judge you if you don't thank the janitor for letting you pass. Another example is in a fast food setting: if the person on the counter gives you your order, I'd silently judge you if you don't say "thank you".
If someone is cleaning a floor and I have to walk over it, they're getting several sorrys and at least 2 thank yous, while I do that shrink my body to the side and putting my palms out towards them like a peasant not trying to be whipped by a landed gentry.
I've mopped professionally. It sucks.
Agreed!
If I were in that situation, I'd profusely apologize for having to pass through, and would give as much thanks as I did apologies after I'm through. I'd also make sure my footwear touch the floor as little as possible (likely by walking on my toes or the sides of my feet), and try to stick as close to the wall as possible. All just so that they can just redo a limited area after I've passed through.
I've never done that for a living, but I dread having to clean my room, sweep the floors, mopping it and such. I really feel for those people who had to mop the floors in high-traffic areas.
Oh my God my fucking in laws... Literally any amount of poor service or delay and they're taking a passive aggressive tone with service workers. It's absolutely insane. Like, no, I do not think this person has personally slighted you, it's just rush hour and everybody else is also ordering food right now.
Not using their turn signals if the only other traffic is pedestrians.
So many times I’ve been crossing an intersection to the opposite corner where I could cross either street first, so I pick the street that won't block the car crossing the other way. They’re not signalling so I figure they’re going straight, and cross the other way so they won’t have to wait for me—but seemingly every time it turns out the car was really turning after all. So they’re stuck because they couldn’t conceive of pedestrians as traffic they need to communicate with.
I don’t understand how people don’t indicate in general. It’s just so automatic for me, I’d need to make a conscious effort not to.
Sometimes I accidentally indicate because I’m going around a sharp bend that my brain registers as a corner 😂
I’m totally with you with “mindlessly signaling when taking a really sharp corner”!
Not only this annoyance you mentioned, but my personal little saying is that turn signals aren't just for the benefit of who you see, but more importantly for anyone you don't see!
You should have already made sure you're clear of everyone before you think about leaving your current path. Using the indicator is a preventative measure for the sake of yourself and anyone in a blind spot or that you failed to notice.
I once had a passenger criticise me for indicating a turn when there were no others cars around. She said it showed I was driving without thinking, automatically signalling when it wasn't needed. I think I said something like "fuck you" or maybe "I'll drop you off here then if you don't like my driving". I'm signalling my intentions to the universe! Behold my blinking lights, for I am voyaging leftwards!
Just not using turn signals in general and lack of road etiquette is enough for me to judge people pretty verbally in my car, though nobody else ever hears it, so I guess it counts as a secret. You're driving a machine that can kill people out of negligence, the least you can fucking do is show some common courtesy and signal what you're intending to do with it and what direction you're going to move. People have more common courtesy when they're walking on the street and no danger to others, yet they moment they're behind a wheel and much more dangerous, it's like they have nothing but middle fingers for everybody else around them.
I judge people quietly for smoking.
It's the most disgusting smell. I'd rather stick my nose in a dirty diaper than stand next to someone smoking.
Whenever another guy recommends something I find repulsive, for various reasons, I tend to write off most respect I had for that person.
Lately some guys have talked positively about Andrew Tate, and it's just made it easier for me to know who is a gullible prick and who to avoid.Talking loudly on the phone, while on public transport.
I was at the Secretary of State and this guy was playing a Switch with the volume on full blast.
Being religious
Shit Parking.
If you're driving a 2 ton metal box and can't have the spatial awareness to fit it into a large rectangle, you shouldn't be on the road.
I agree, I shouldn't be on the road. I try to be as safe as I can but I hate driving.
Low curiousity/worldliness. Honestly makes me think someone is either dull or maybe depressed
Curiosity is a sign of intelligence, so you're not wrong.
Nah I'm depressed but still curious af
I live in Florida and a coworker asked on which side is the Atlantic, and on which side was the Gulf. My judgement was not very secret because I was completely in shock. I'm still not over it.
I once had a conversation with a cashier in TN that started with a newspaper by check out saying something about remembrance day in England. I explained it's basically like their version of Memorial Day. It ended with me having to explain what Europe is. A super abridged synopsis:
Me: It's basically their version of Memorial Day.
Her: why do they need a different version?
Me: they're a different country, different laws.
Her: it's not really a different country if you can drive to it
Me:... What
Her: I mean, it's basically just the same country
Me: you cannot drive to England.
Her: you can't?
Me: it's an island.
Her: I thought it was Europe?
Me: you also cannot drive to Europe.
I then had to explain what Europe was, how England is Europe in the same way Puerto Rico is North America. I shouldn't have included that. Or tried to explain armistice day. It was a very long conversation that ended up going outside during her smoke break.
She was the second grown adult I had to explain Europe to. Tennessee has failed it's children, y'all. I'm not being funny, and contrary to OP's premise, I don't really judge them for this. I judge the state and the school system. It's bad.
Nothing depresses me more then leaving my basement and traveling far across the globe, and seeing the same people doing the same shit just like at home.
Desperate people trying to afford necessities, the exploiters lording over them, the corporations running things.
I was young and dumb when I went, but I will never again make the mistake of searching for something that just isn't there.
I'd rather stay in my basement and pretend there is a better place in the world. But you can only play pretend for so long.
Bonus: every time i struggle to make it, I get to think about the thousands wasted on that trip. I used to be a dumb ass. I still am, but I used to too.
Now playing - Every day is exactly the same by the Nine Inch Nails
The speed of their windshield wipers.
Yes! It's barely spitting outside, why are your windscreen wipers trying to break the sound barrier?
Nothing.
I'm very vocal in my judgements.
Extraneous apostrophe’s
I got you’re back, bro
Semi colons are for winks only.
/s for the Americans
The 'brands' they are displaying.
I see people checking me and others out. What runners are they? Jordans or KMart? Is that a Lacoste or walmart? Is that a real Rolex or D&G handbag?
But for me, it's not judging them like you think.
I judge them flashing brands as a sign of insecurity, a need to appear wealthy and 'fit in', and a likely 'keep up with the Jones' jealous type.
So, I actually feel sad for them.
And, yes, I am aware it's super judgemental and I'm no doubt hypocritical as well, as there are some things I will buy certain brands for.
I can relate.
Everytime I see some Gucci stuff on someone, I feel hard sad for them or sometimes cringe, because all the money they once had, was spent on something worthless in my eyes. They also look more unsympathic by having those brand stuff on them, so its a lot that plays in.
But if they don't look entirely iced out, then I mostly don't even notice that the person has Expensive brand clothes or generally popular brands. I mostly see the overall design or the colors besides the Human and the face. I have my energy somehwere else to invest than thinking on ehat brands someone is wearing. A sometimes I secretly judge if they are trying very hard to be something like iced out. (With iced out I mean, trying to look rich with Gucci clothes or something similar)
Difference is between buying a brand for style and buying it for quality.
Some companies have quietly admitted that the only difference between their stuff and cheap knockoffs is the brand name and it's fine for them because their customers don't care.
Rich people don't wear brands. Visible brands are for working class people who want to be rich. It's the sign of a class traitor.
Common misuse of words. Decimate means reduce by 1/10 not almost completely destroy. Exponential growth. The variable has to be in the exponent if it's a constant exponent that is polynomial growth. Gaslighting isn't just lying. It's making someone belive that they can't trust their own memories or experiences so they believe you despite evidence to the contrary.
When I read it, I agree with you - but when I say decimate, it sure sounds like it should mean near total destruction.
People who don't like cats.
I've noticed a correlation between people who don't like cats and having narcissistic or selfish tendencies. Could be just an impression but that's how I feel.
I love cats. Other peoples' cats.
I will never own my own cat because I don't want to accept the burden of responsibility that responsible pet ownership demands.
Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*
*not true of all cat people
I don't like cats, mainly for two reasons:
- I am allergic and they just make me feel bad on a physical level
- Cats, as any animals, require care, and responsible owners add it to the list of their burdens. It's like constantly having a baby that never grows up - cats can wake you up in the middle of the night, force you to remove feces, etc.
I, however, love people, and am far from being selfish or narcissistic. People around me often find me warm, comforting, and supportive.
I don't think they mean "people who wouldn't have cats as pets", there are tons of valid reasons not to want cats as pets, such as the two you described, and I wouldn't say that you "don't like cats" given those two reasons
Interesting observation. I think most cats demonstrate Machiavellian narcissistic traits.
I don't like cats but I love dogs. It's not that I hate them, I just don't want to live them. Comfortably ambivalent.
So people who don't like cats are cats
Oh boy, does this also hold for people who don't like any pets?
People who write "rouge" instead of "rogue".
Makes me RED with anger!
Or people who are so "weary" of danger.
Or who write: your welcome
Defiantly agree 🙃
I see that alot.
^ ^ ^ ^ that's my trigger
or tounge
Unless they are discussing Canadien Football.
But if they say Rouge and mean rouge, it's fine :)
People with shattered phone screens.
Pretty much anyone with a broken phone screen are just chaos moving around.
I understand where you're coming from, but it might just have been a simple accident and they're too poor or don't have the time to get it fixed. I went around with a shattered screen for about six months.
That's the exception for me. If the screen is cracked, but it bothers them I sympathize, but if it's cracked and they throw their phone around and get mad as if it was the phone's fault then I super, super judge them.
I have the same theory. Anytime I see someone having a phone call on speakerphone it's almost 100% because their screen is shattered and they just walk around screaming into their phone.
Makes sense that these are also the type of people walking around just raw dogging life with out a cell phone case.
How dare you accurately describe me 😤
People who say nukular instead of nuclear ☢️
It doesn't even make sense.
It's a joke from the Simpsons
Saying that they could care less when they mean they couldn't care less.
Like, of course anyone can care less than they currently do.
The way I handle this is to parse them differently. They mean the same thing, but “I couldn’t care less” is sincere and “I could care less” is sarcastic.
Sort of like, “I suppose it’s possible that I could care less about that” reduced to the phrase.
Because both phrases obviously communicate the same meaning, a lack of care, the issue for me isn’t in the understanding but in the parsing. So I had to come up with a way to parse it as sarcasm so it doesn’t bother me.
Like when someone says, “I’ll try and be there” my brain, mildly traumatized by really good English teachers in my youth, screams, “YOU’LL TRY TO BE THERE.” But lately I’ve been making an effort to interpret the “and <verb>” following “try” as an alternate form of the infinitive, since it’s so readily accepted and common in spoken English. We already construct other verbs that way anyway (eg. “I’ll go and do that”).
I…might have a touch of the ‘tism. It wouldn’t surprise me. 😅
I always thought of it as a semi-threat/dismissal. For example, "By your actions I see you don't really care about this serious problem." Then the response, "I could care less." Meaning, it's such a moot point to the person that they could indeed just not care at all about it if necessary.
People who are using their cellphone/mobile as a telefon (calling someone) but not holding it as a telephone but as a slab in front of their face. And ofc with the speaker on.
Slightly better but still stupid: Videocalling (or Facetiming) with the phone right in front of their nose.
I mean, just hold the phone so that the speaker is at your ear and the mic is right by your mouth...
I think it's because they are emulating chaos-based reality tv shows.
These garbage reality shows had people using speaker-phones in public so they can record both sides of the conversation as easily as possible.
People using fahrenheit without adding a celsius conversion
Must be from one of those fancy pants Euro countries or somethin
Fahrenheit is bullshit, just learn celsius
It's actually harder than just using celsius, things like my oven and fridge are in farenheit without a way to change it, along with most cookbooks and recipes here Tried to change my weather app to celsius and just got frustrated because i know what 60°f feels like but didn't have an intuitive sense of what celsius felt like so i just got confused Ultimately it's a lot if effort to just put a communication barrier between you and your fellow american
Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of people just throwing trash out their car windows. It’s become disturbingly common and I really want to scream at the that the world is not their trashcan. I don’t, because I really think I would get shot.
When I was 14 I tossed a piece of packaging for the chips I was eating on the ground. I don't know why I did that, I'd been so against it as a good little kid, I think my mind was just experimenting at the time with whether I really needed to give a shit about this anymore. Probably some kind of "edginess" I was cultivating perhaps. Anyway, some middle aged teacherly guy picked it up in front of me and put it in the bin. Then he gave me a statistic about how our city was the "nth cleanest in the world and we should keep it that way". I was by myself but kinda scoffingly shrugged it off as he walked away to show I didn't care what he thought. But being called out like that and feeling that hot flush of angry embarrassment and being forced to pay specific attention to my actions instantly and dramatically recalibrated that drift in my values on the issue of of littering in a permanent way. It wasn't because they made an especially good point, in fact I didn't find the statistic particularly compelling I mean of all the reasons to do the bare minimum of decency that seems like one of the worst, like it's some sort of competition or something. Nevertheless it was just a reminder at the perfect moment that no, this isn't going to be acceptable even if there's no obvious consequence and you shouldn't start to feel okay about this.
The fact that the guy was kinda lame and had such middle aged dad and teacher vibes about him I think made all the difference, there wasn't an angry confrontation, but it was still firm. He backed off and walked away straight after he said his piece rather than giving me the chance to turn it in to an argument where I might feel rebellious and victorious about it, he just calmly left me to stew in the fact that whatever bravado I might have put on for him, he didn't care and I was going to have to reckon with why I ever thought this was going to be a good habit to start.
I bring this up because maybe if you have the opportunity to you actually should say something, though obviously carefully and not too aggressively. Sometimes it makes a difference even if by their response the person would appear to indicate that it didn't.
Using "u".
I've tried using "u" but I just can't. "You" is only 2 more letters and "u" sounds really cringe
"k"
Spelling errors on professional documents, especially signs/posters/ads. You don't have to know everything, but you have to check before putting it up.
When I see restaurant specials boards riddled with mistakes it makes me want to not eat there.
I feel odd when correcting grammatical issues in documents from my attorney. What am I paying you for?
I even judge people for spelling errors in my messenger, openly.
Their choices with tech, choices in consumerism (Stanley Cups hype, hypebeast brands, Temu shit, etc), not using blinkers, amount of time spent staring at phones, hobbies
Pronouncing the word "cache" as "cash-eh"
ಠ_ಠ
Are you sure they aren't saying "cachet"?
Yes
Cashay is a stripper name.
What if I pronounce the word "caché" as "cash-eh"?
I'm sorry, you don't get to maul the pronunciation of loan words and then correct people when they use the correct pronunciation. The word comes from the french cache/casher which is pronounced exactly cash-eh. Where do you think the -e comes from?
cacher does, but cache as in "cache-toi !" (go hide!) and "je me cache" (I'm hiding) are pronounced "cash".
Besides, "correct" pronunciation in a different language is pretty meaningless. The word may have come from French but we're speaking English, not French.
Also, it might not be a loan word so much as a legacy-of-foreigners-taking-over word (c.f. the Normand invasion of Britain), which doesn't tend to help the language's users care about respecting the "original" pronunciation. I'm not certain when exactly cachet entered English.
From the Mirriam-Webster website:
A cache is a group of things that are hidden, and is pronounced like "cash." Cachet can mean "prestige," "medicine to be swallowed," or "an official seal," and is pronounced "cash-ay."
Cache and cachet share a common French root – the verb cacher ("to hide"), which is pronounced \cash-AY\ – but they are pronounced differently and mean two different things
Or data as dada
Depends where you are. Here in Australia you'll get judged for calling it day-tah.
Also route is not root
I find it rude when people on the bus put their bag on the empty seat next to them, so that you have to ask them to move it when there are no empty rows left. It's strangely hostile to me.
I think its just polite to leave your bag off the seat until the bus is boarded.
They don't want you sitting there. They're hoping you don't ask them. Your interpretation that it's hostile is correct, since it's antisocial behavior.
The correct response to this is to ask them to move their bag and sit next to them, whilst there are other empty seats next to other people nearby.
Punish their greed.
Or sitting on the edge of the row leaving empty sits blocked.
Being all like "I fucking love science" whilst perpetuating ignorance of what science actually is like
Elaborate with example pls
I'll keep an eye out for one, but in the meantime, I'll be more specific about what I mean about ignoring how science actually is.
One of the things I find most beautiful about science is how it thrives in uncertainty — great science is more likely to arise from a "huh, that's strange..." than a big "Eureka" moment, not least of all because most breakthroughs involve large collaborations of researchers.
"Scientism" is the term usually used for the kind of thing that irks me. I'm realising now that I feel unequipped to properly explain that, so I'm going to point to a video I like on this matter by a cardiologist and science communicator I like: https://youtu.be/CVPy25wQ07k
Here's something positive: precisely mentioning what they tried on a problem already!
If someone's stuck on a problem and defines what help they need, then I have no thoughts either way. It's just a problem, and something to be helped through. Neutral.
But if they describe what they did already, then I think "Wow, this person really put in some I-don't-give-up effort! Nice work, bro!"
I think it's a particular skill to phrase requests for help in such a way to list as many relevant steps that you tried as briefly as possible and judiciously decide not to mention all the steps you've tried tempting though it may be. I had for a long time in the context of tech support questions written very long help requests because I was so afraid of getting a glib response to try some extremely obvious thing that takes 5 seconds and would definitely fix some well known easily solvable issue but not the harder more obscure issue I was experiencing that happened to have characteristics of that simpler issue.
I learned though that the longer your request is the less chance you have of receivingany help and if it's a captive audience who are required to help you, the more chance you'll have of them getting rid of you by deliberately misinterpreting the issue by focussing on any random part of the very long description (could be the opening sentence, could be something several paragraphs in) and pretending the request was all about that. They'd hone in on steps I described taking to try and fix the issue I wrote the help request about in the first place, re-contextualise those steps as a different, unrelated help request and then give an unhelpful response on how to solve that issue that I was never experiencing to begin with. More innocently, long lists of what's been tried also just make it harder to understand the problem when someone is trying to assist by virtue of the sheer volume of text produced and how boring and tedious it becomes for them to read. There's also another issue in being too fixated on listing what's been tried which is that, although the whole idea is to filter out responses that involve solutions that have already been attempted, often it transpires that you didn't actually attempt the solution in the right way and something dismissed as ineffectual actually would have worked after all. Sometimes it's actually better to let people suggest something you already tried and anticipated they might suggest, just so you can double check that you actually really did try that approach properly and didn't have a faulty understanding of how to apply it.
That said though, obviously I try to make sure to include the things I'm very confident I don't need to try again to show that indeed I've worked on the problem and have tried the more obvious solutions already.
Funny, I saw this to an extreme, a ways back.
Someone posted for software help on some forum about something and... they described everything. I shit you not, their description was a determinate system in it of itself.
CPU, GPU, SSD, ram, thermal fans, size measurements, age, resolution, price point, model, kernel version, installed package count, filesystem setup, update log, journalctl, dmesg, Xorg log, genome sequence. And the kicker?
First comment:
ok but i'm not sure what you're asking. what's the problem, exactly?
No other comments.
There’s this dude at the gym who watches netflix on his phone between sets, taking 10+ minute breaks while people wait in line to use the machine.
I normally try to be charitable about these things. I have no idea if he has some type of fatigue issue or something along those lines justifying the long breaks, right?
But I need to actively push my thoughts in this direction, in some probably misguided attempt to cultivate kindness within my own life. Truth is there’s just something infuriating about watching a movie while sitting in the building’s only leg extension
That's infuriating. Why couldn't that guy just let someone else do their set while he does his breaks? Heck, if I were that dude, I would have made an arrangement with someone to alternate sets with.
Even if we assume the guy has a fatigue issue, that's still no reason to hog the machine.
Criticizing people for voting 3rd party and then doing nothing to replace first past the post voting.
Okay, I very publicly judge these people. It's not a secret.
People burning votes in a binary race are part of the problem but can never see it.
How does it feel to be an entitled supporter of genocide? How's your sleep? Do you need someone to talk to?
Drag thinks the people you're talking about don't exist.
The roads in my city are as far from flat as you can get. The potholes aren't bad but the roads are build to slope into the gutters and the gutters occasionally cut through the streets like reverse speed bumps, the train tracks are like crossing wagon ruts.
So if I see you rolling around in some luxury sports car with a 3in clearance, I'm going to assume you're too fucking stupid to deserve that much money.
My pet peeve about these gutters is 4 way intersections where the city planner put stop signs for the direction that doesn't have to cross the gutters, and makes the gutter-crossing direction the primary right of way. We have to essentially come to a slow roll to not bottom out, just give us the stop signs as a heads up that we're approaching a hazard that eats undercarriages.
I'm convinced that exact move is on purpose! No reasonable person can look at that intersection and think, "this can't possibly be done better in any way."
Speaker on a phone call in public. For that matter, any sound from a phone in public.
Putting the dollar sign after the number. Yes, that is how it is read, but not how it is written. "Five dollars" is $5, not 5$.
%100
Similarly, people who write "a 100%" to mean "a hundred percent."
What they actually wrote winds up being "a one hundred percent." The "one" doesn't disappear by putting "a" in front of it. If you want to write a hundred, write "a hundred." It's what you're supposed to do for smaller numbers in the English language anyway.
/10,7
People who make small talk with the cashier or service person when there is a line and people who accelerate in the turn lane.
I loudly judge people for things that I think are morally wrong, but I would feel quite bad if I voiced some of my other opinions. Yesterday one of my friends complained about someone coming through the McDonalds drive through and ordering too many chicken nuggets. They said that person had "no respect for how they made the employees feel". It's like... come on man. They just wanted some nuggies. Surely you can muster the immense strength of will required to cook a few extra?
What do you mean "secretly?" Fuck that.
If they finish their food. I don't like seeing food go to waste.
Working in the food service industry crushes my soul on a daily basis.
Can we take a minute to address portion sizes?
being judgey assholes
Being smarmy. I can't stand people who are ready to manipulate anything out of people as they do it with their smarmy smirks.
Everything.
Planned on saying this. I am a very judgemental person, but I try not to let it impact my actions.
Casual fossil fuel use. Not work related shit, but asking me to drive an hour to you to chat because you won't learn discord is demoralizing. I know that it's not a big source of CO2, but it adds up and the same people who do it also throw food out, don't fix anything and don't demand more action from their politicians. They RP as revolutionaries, but don't do anything.
Nosing (instead of reversing) into a parking spot. You always pick the conditions of your arrival, but not always your departure. Also, reversing into traffic is ridiculous and illegal in some places. Parking nose-first is dangerous and lazy.
EDIT: Love how you're all justifying your bad driving habits. Camera? Still can't scan for incoming traffic. Bad weather only on occasion? It's more than bad weather that can make reversing out of a door dangerous.
... and I HATE angle parking.
Found the German.
Parallel parking, or angled parking?
With a 180 degree camera it’s not an issue to go backwards. I usually nose in so I have easy access to the trunk.
I like to live dangerously.
We get inclement weather about once every 6 years. I'll choose to live dangerously.
Secretly, I'll pass judgement on someone until I realize I know nothing about them and would be unhappy if someone judged me without knowing anything about me. Then I judge myself for being judgmental.
Southern US accents. No one with that sounds intelligent.
Using a DE, Neovim or systemd.
Fucking casuals.
Gatekeeping
Thats what Ubuntu users say.
I judge people who judge others for gatekeeping. God forbid I have a well informed and strong opinion based on experience. If I share that with a casual or new person then it's now called gatekeeping.
It's ok to have different opinions but not all opinions are equal, and if you're a casual participant or new to a field/hobby/whatever your opinion doesn't matter as much. Additionally, if you are discouraged and feel held back by strong opinions by others then maybe you should be kept out.
I judge anyone who misses the letter G out when they say the word "recognise".
You betta rekkanize
I am never more vigilant while typing then when I have to type two Ks
I can't easily pronounce the K in "asked". Yes, I say "assed".
Axxed
Hardly anyone in the UK can say "sixth". They pronounce it "sick". Some people can't even say "six", that becomes "sick" as well. I judge them for it - lazy!
Not putting the toilet seat down.
Look, I'm sorry, but eating fast food. Have some self respect.
When I was at my lowest I spent close to $3000 on McDonald's in 2 months. Just went through all my savings eating fast food multiple times a day. Now it's hard for me to even eat it
I have a stark reminder of the worst period in my life where I did the same. The "account performance" chart in an investment of mine showed steady growth and monthly inputs, then there's a cliff, and over a period of a few months, it's completely emptied. Thousands, easily. And the vast majority was fast food and liquor
I don't mind when people eat fast food, but I do get annoyed when people brag about eating fast food.
Especially now that prices have inflated so it's no longer corporate factory machine cheap.
There are so many random food places even in the most rundown parts of a city that have both much better quality and bang for buck.
I'd even argue you're not getting an authentic philly cheese if you get it from a place that's not in the ghetto or has been advertised online in any capacity. And the funny thing is the real one is usually cheaper too.
I'm sorry, but a Baja Blast guy and sometimes I don't know what to Mountain Dew.
Here are my top 5:
- Being on their phone too much.
- Being willfully ignorant.
- Believing in religion.
- Using proprietary social media apps (e.g. Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook).
- Using non-free BIOS firmware / non-free software.
Quite a few;
literally
- if one repeats this in 5 seconds in a conversation.
like
- not against saying like, but when is used in "describing" you will be judged.
obvi
- ugh, I just hate this.
legit
- When I hear legit, all I see is insecurities. DO YOUR RESEARCH, TRUST YOUR GUTS.
And yes, I'm millennial.
Ohh I see you're missing out on the fun side of "legit" Because this is what I am thinking when somebody says "legit"
Also isn't it some kind of skateboard term from the 90's? "Broooo that 720 was legiiit 🤙"
"Like" is a critical one for me. As a non native speaker it's just so tempting to use. Like in the above example. I would have 100% introduced that direct speech with Like
not against saying like, but when is used in "describing" you will be judged.
Wait, so you just hate similes?
so you're fine using 'like' as, like, a pause word, but not in similes?
You feel me?
smh, I dont!
While tattoos have become more acceptable over the years, I can't not secretly judge people that have hand or above the neck line tattoos. Of course the placement, style, and number all play a part in my judgement :) Tattoos on any other body parts don't trigger me though.
I have a long list of people I would execute if I could get away with it. The transgressions that get you on the list are numerous and varied.
ATM Machine
I'm going to the store quick(ly) to buy some eggs.
judging other people
People typing whatever is the latest fad, such as "rn', " tbh", etc.
No-one has ever been able to tell me what they do with all that time that they saved with the abbreviations.
Exactly.
type more abbreviations, ofc
Bad take. Been saying rn and tbh for years. Communicating isn't a fad imo (see what I did there). By that logic, lol, lmao, etc are just fads too.
When speaking with close friends it does save an awful lot of time.
idgaf
Smh @ ur fud
Ong
"Latest fad"
"Shorthand created during the time cell phones were becoming ubiquitous about 20yr ago"
Are you like, a greenland shark that has been alive since 1865 so your concept of time is on an entirely different scale than the rest of us making 20yr ago "the latest fad" as if it were 2 months for us?
People that blow their nose in a rag and then just put that shit in their pocket, ready for next use...
Their taste in music. Sorry but if Pink Floyd is your favorite band i have to assume you're boring
Sorry Pink Floyd is my favourite band and I totally do not feel like a boring person 😂
They've probably just never been in the correct head space to listen to it because they've been conditioned to listen to mind numbing pop chart shite.
Whether people read as a hobby or not. As it implies a type of interest into the world around them.
And as a lesser second, what they read.
Does Lemmy count as reading
Disheveled hair. If you have long(ish) hair and you're going out in public, at least drag a comb through it so you don't look like a bed-head.
People with curly hair:
Eating meat although they're fully aware, that we have to shift completely away of that (GHG emissions, land-use), and then blame the government that they need to regulate this more.
Yes more government regulations would be great, but it's one of the few individual things that have effect, if everyone would think similar. And a vegan or mostly vegan diet is not really worse in taste and likely more healthy as well... Eating meat is not sustainable (nor morally justifieable), it should be a thing of the past...
And from the downvotes I conclude that this will remain a mostly secret judge. It's sad, that you don't see it yet, this will very likely be the future whether you like it or not (when we don't fuck it up completely, but I'm somewhat hopeful).
The argument that meat is cheaper is also not really true anymore. There's basically no reason to eat meat anymore. Matter of fact, I developed a distaste to meat when I mostly stopped with eating meat, after eating way too much before (tastes kind of rotten compared to plant-based), try it out, it's easier than you think, and gets easier over time.
As long as the alternatives keep getting tastier and cheaper, I'm all in. I'm glad it worked out for you, but I didn't have the same experience when I tried removing meat from my diet. I've been able to find substitutes and recipes to eat way less meat, but I still get that need if I haven't had any for a while. I can't wait for the day that the alternatives bump off meat completely for me, but for now I'll consume as little as I can.
I've been incorporating mushrooms into a lot more meals where there would be larger portions of meat, so damn tasty.
Been vegetarian now for about 4 years, haven't regretted it yet. I thought I would miss meat more, but I really don't.
I totally have experienced the random anger and judgment from other people. They hear I am vegetarian and all of a sudden they start either attacking vegetarianism/veganism, or they start trying to defend meat-eating.
On the positive, I've never been healthier, and there are more and more restaurants that offer veg/vegan food, or at least options to make it meatless. And I have met quite a few young people that are going veg/vegan, or at least are flex/pescatarian.
Sorry about the downvotes
If I told you, it wouldn't be secret.
Why yes I am a clever little scamp!
Using proprietary chat apps like Discord, Telegram, Slack, LINE, Meta’s WhatsApp / Messenger. Still judging on apps that require a SIM & mobile OS (like Android) primary device like Signal… or an expensive chat protocol like Matrix.
Hosting your code & bug tracker with a propietary forge like Microsoft GitHub when you say you support open source—but don’t even bother to apply the same mentality to your own project.
…Oh, the question was “secretly”.
Wait, if not Matrix, what is a good software for this? I thought it was preferred for having an E2E encryption implementation.
If you’re the type that that doesn’t like the kind of energy wasted for cryptocurrencies, you will be suprised that the eventual consistency the whole network is copying all message, all attachments of all users per host. This is also why it takes on the order of minutes to just join a new room or freshly launch an app as all of this syncing needs to happen. This also causes the self-hosting to be priced out as medium-sized (in terms of users) or low-spec hardware cannot keep up with neither the CPU/RAM nor storage space required to maintain a node on the network… which is pretty wild for mostly text in 2024. This causes folks to host their own single-user instances, or in reality almost everyone flocks to Matrix.org or a server Matrix.org hosts (or unfederates only serving to those on the host which is one way). With all of this centralization, almost all metadata ends up in the hands of Matrix.org (maliciously or not) due to the design of the protocol needing to have the entire history of everything. Copying Slack/Telegram/Discords UX in this sense was not the best call. Eventually consistency does add a resilience & uptime guarantee, but technically I don’t think those cost outweigh the benefits in most cases.
End-to-end encryption (E2EE) is important, but it’s not always required. Many rooms are purposefully public so IRC(v3) fits most basic needs (tho I am not a fan of needing pastebins & separate image uploads). In the case of these encryption algorithms, almost everything is using the same double-ratchet encryption seen in Signal for DMs (provided you can verify there isn’t a backdoor via source code availability). If you need more features like E2EE or reactions or threading or pasting source code, XMPP is & has been the gold standard. It treats chat as ephemeral (while still having history, archiving, & no need for bouncers) where missing an old messages isn’t seen as the end of the world. Important, long-lived announcements & information should be in the Atom/RSS feed, mailing list, or forum (or Movim if you want this task on the XMPP network via PubSub) as these are the proper platforms for these tasks (we know how horrible searching a massive chat room is UX-wise… it’s basically gone in many cases, & in the case of proprietary systems is in a literal knowledge black hole). XMPP was built to run efficiently on machines from last decade so it is just as lean in both clients & servers now saving you money, data, storage, battery.
SimpleX is a project worth following, but I am not too sure how it handles ephemeral vs. eventual consistency & it is also far too new to have multiple clients & a proper decentralized community. Maybe this will come with time, but I am only keeping tabs on it for now.
