Dear linux users. Is it a red flag if she is active in a Catholic Dating group?
Edit:. and that she is still on reddit?
The 'she' part works for me!
Why would they need to date anyway? That's just questioning God's Plan for them.
It's God's way of training them for their true partner. Free will and all that. Now kisth.
God works in mysterious ways. Maybe their one and only, doesnt even use an iphone!
Blazing red flag.
Run
Ooh, I'm a cash cow apparently.
But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the "tradwife" thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.
These two groups deserve each other.
Yep, they've been called 'gold diggers', for quite a while now.
There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or irreligious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be 'how much stuff can he buy me', who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.
Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can't miss it.
Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.
I don't think that's a fair comparison as Nerd is usually seen as a negative trait, where having good traditional traits is seen as a positive.
It's taking a nerd and using that negativity despite not liking it to exploit gain.
Where as having traditional wife is choose a positive because you like that positive.
You have never opened the box of "Female Dating Strategy". Welcome to the world of "low value males"
Just looked through some of that stuff. Holy hell, it would be easier to be seen as without sin through the eyes of an angry old testament God than it would be to be seen as worthy of dating from that crowd. And that's fine, because I would want less than zero to do with it.
(Assuming it's real. Who knows? Could be a bunch of neckbeards cosplaying, but if I've learned anything in life, it's that there are shitty shitty men in this world, and that there are equally shitty shitty women in this world)
The "trad wives" (traditionalist / paleoconservative middle class women who believe that their religion is good for women) are looking for a husband in the traditional sense, a type of business owner / patriarch who owns them and provides for them; see: husbandry. That's so that they can produce a lot of offspring while pretending that raising kids in near or full homeschooling is a good thing and she's very successful (culturally).
They're the homologues of incels and traditionalist bros who want to be rich so that they maintain some informal harem. And they deserve each other.
Yeah, and we shouldn't suppose women can't degrade as much as men, that's unfair. r/femaledatingstrategy had an overblown fame for being a femcel den before it got banned, you can read on them in the media. But you can discover more than that on chan-boards, as they are probably the origin of a lingvo natural to this discourse. Just like with in incels, there's a typology of women and men adapted to biological and social context a typical ciswoman is in.
As for IRL, I've heard such terms only as a joke, but that means there's some penetration into higher net.
Every gold digger ever. Books about it, subreddits. You been living under a rock? Literally, good how to marry a rich man, and there will be digital or printed guidebooks
You have been sleepwalking through life...
Idahoan here - yeah coming from a fairly mormon-laden family tree (and community), it's pretty common around here. And like others said it typically goes both ways - the guys treat it like the gals are helpless without a man to carry the income. This place is fucking backwards and culturally prehistoric.
Don't even get me started on the bigotry & maltreatment towards trans/gay folks. If there were a progress bar for moving toward healthy / compassionate behavior towards those groups this place would be at fucking 0%, genuinely. Obscenely disrespectful.
Lol this whole thread is so funny to me, as someone who regularly dates millionaires.
Ya'll are not a cash cow. Don't worry, real gold diggers go after gold. You're safe from gold diggers. That of course does not make you immune from financial abuse but that's different than gold digging.
Second, these dating forums are all roleplay. There's a pretty big chance those are men role-playing as the greedy women of their stupid nightmares. No woman ever gets in proximity to a man only based on money. The idea is laughable to women. Even full service sex workers decline men and have actual correspondences with each other blacklisting men in the area to keep everyone safe. No woman ONLY cares about the money. They can't afford to. However, men engaging with other men think like that because they don't have to worry about the risk of violence as much. That's why I think this is probably roleplay.
Third, I hear men talking about their potential future wives like this all the time, including financially, if they'd date a fat girl, if they'd date a girl who doesn't do oral, etc etc etc. Even if women are doing this, men do it too (and i bet you never called it out). Marriage is a contract that ties finances together so it matters. Personally, I'm never getting married but for those who do, it can really affect their ability to get housing or other stuff. It's a sad feature of capitalism.
And yes, capitalists gain a lot from this structure. They fish for sex workers in every industry, including modeling. This causes women to br traded like commodities and so the most valuable women per their standards they can eugenics into their line, will be the one they marry. A lot of men's attraction for women is just based on how valuable she is as a human commodity. This is why "objectification" gets brought up so much.
https://youtu.be/3n-yU_BpA4M?si=-CwuVC_45nn5vKUD
Last, the above is the attitude of real gold diggers, which is open and frankly discussed with their actual source of gold. It is not financial abuse and to be clear financial abuse is wrong - it is instead a negotiation so that she can live at the same comfort level as him and enjoy her life. No rich man is confused about this. Most would be kinda embarrassed to not take care of her, like going to a fancy restaurant and she orders a small appetizer+water in her budget while he gets a wine tasting and a steak just makes him look bad. That's how I know none of you are actually near this lifestyle, because you don't innately understand this.
Again, I am not getting married, I'm never having kids, and I'm poly; I demand these aspects specifically to bypass the interpersonal dynamic of me being treated as a commodity, and instead this forces my partners and myself to love in the moment, to actively choose each other, and to give resources freely and not coerced through a contract.
A good catholic man would use TempleOS
There is also UbuntuCE (Ubuntu Christian Edition)
I don’t want to Google that.
Got a little queasy hearing someone describe their husband as a cash cow
Nerds fix stuff around the house? Girl, I couldn't even repair that plumbing if I wanted to. This is a job for a professional.
Nerd here that was EXTREMELY disappointed in losing the opportunity to own a house.
I wanted to get into the home electronics/plumbing stuff. Although to be honest, I am less keen on the plumbing since it's a wet mess.
Let's not monopolize the word nerds for us computer nerds. There are also engineering nerds for example, the guys that have 2 3d printers, 3 CNC machines, and a few industrial robot arms in their garage so that they can build the tiniest bike ever.
Nerds of all sciences unite!
It says a lot that when I read that my first thought was "oh so like keeping the self hosted services running and whatnot" for a second 😅
this would work on me tbh
Apparently, Catholic dating is all about money
Usually what they actually mean by "strong family values"
Found out the hard way to be honest...
Going on Reddit for dating advice is a mistake.
"Neckbeards unite! We have some advice to give!"
No way am I dating a Catholic. I will not be a "cash cow" for their weird religion.
Is there any reason all(or most) catholics would want that and it isnt just these people on reddit?
I grew up Catholic, and (at least here, Catholicism is a really big place) it's not so much "he has money" as it is "he will bring stability."
The second commenter's "cash cow" comment is a bit of an outlier in my experience, because usually the highlights of dating a nerd are more akin to the second comment. They'll be an active father and attentive husband, and they're less likely to cheat (in their view). I've also heard things like this about D&D/Warhammer players, because they use their imagination alot (making them good at entertaining children) and the hobbies take a lot of focus (meaning they'll be willing and able to tackle problems that arise).
Older catholics are used to men whose only role in the family is "produce baby and produce money", so a lot of modern dating advice is in the guise of "make sure he's a good man before you marry him"
Good providers, not lovers
These girls are old school. You make the money, they pump out the children. They don't believe in birth control or abortion, so if you want to maximize your reproductive fitness, you could do worse than a Catholic girl.
Don't date him if he doesn't run TempleOS.
Monster got him, failed run
anyone who picks at every little thing a partner or potential partner does by requiring the Internet to approve it is toxic as hell. asking the Internet if a behavior that doesn't effect you is a red flag is a massive red flag.
TBF, if a potential partner is super excited about something you never heard of, looking into it is a good thing.
Conservatives, and other assholes, are good about hiding their crazy behind seemingly innocent things, like pepe the frog.
i mean, it's more about letting the Internet decide for them. a person that is so incapable of making their own assessments that they have to ask a random mob permission to date another isn't going to be a good person to date. didn't be or date someone that would trust random Internet weirdos who collectively have an incredibly awful track record of giving advice over just talking about it or doing some reading.
But why would your question be "is this bad?" Just learn a little about it and decide for yourself.
I like my women like I like my distros. Stable.
Dangit, and here I am running arch btw
Might need some therapy
I can fix her
Judging by the name RungeKutta62, named after a class of numerical integration methods and thus two mathematicians, I'd say they're a nerd themselves.
So what, that makes it OK to look at nerds that way?
In a confession Aug. 21, however, Reiser said he used "the most unsophisticated chokehold that any judo instructor would completely despise you for ever using," according to a 30-page transcript obtained by The Chronicle
I probably shouldn't laugh, but.... :D
At least he critiqued his own work instead of assuming it was the best thing ever.
It’s a narcissistic attempt to diminish his culpability by saying it was a weak attack without special training.
Compare with “I barely even touched her!”
Oh that's what happened to RieserFS
An object lesson in bus factor.
Should have defragged first.
I'm a nerd and dirt poor, what am I doing wrong?
you may have yourself checked, you may be a dork, which is a nerd without marketable abilities
Oh shit
You're not doing work around the house.
Follow me for more insightful thoughts 👍.
Nerding. Duh.
Why is she even asking the question? Shouldn't she just be quiet and submit like her magic book tells her to?
Windows is Christianity
Apple is some strange cult
Linux is Nihilism
Why is Linux Nihilism?
Wait, this is why she chose me?
I actually know this for a fact.
Too bad for her I don't make a lot of money 🤷.
Average Reddit moment
Why wouldnt nerds cheat? :)
The logic is a bit lacking here but I guess it's some variation of that nerds would be so grateful to have a girl that they won't cheat...
And the fact that they'd rather troubleshoot Arch with a girl than anything else... and 90% of women would put up with those requests, BUT only if you make a lot of money.
I don't want to talk about all girls since they are different of course but for me, there is a shitload of girls that are just too fucked up to be around. They put shit in their lips or tits, they constantly focus on how they look, they have zero confidence without getting a million likes for how they look... Fuck those girls. I want a real person, not some shallow barbie with shit for brains.
Jokes on them, I'm real bad with money and went into debt and destroyed my credit!
But I run proxmox for fun 😎
That statement is far too narrow. Religion is all about money.
Obviously the Catholic women on reddit see dating as a transaction lmao, fucking classic.
Most people, no matter the religion or gender see everything as a transaction (since everything in this world revolves around money). This is what's left from the society, that's why we should all try to change the world and make it a better place.
Anyone involved in any of these sort of groups will either cheat, leave you financially ruined or are an actual emotional vampire
Not being funny but when it comes to Catholic dating at least they're looking for income and not age this time 😂
This was addressed to ladies. Look for the post addressed to Catholic men.
Not being funny but making a humorous statement and ending it with 😂
Thanks for the analysis boss 👍
As long as they're not using BSD, obviously.
Don't mention it, you'll confuse them even more...
True Catholics use Slackware.
You’re thinking of a different denomination
Bob Dobbs approves.
If “he” uses Linux, there’s probably something xe/xey isn’t telling you.
If the pronoun choice is "xe/xey" instead of "per/pers" do they even GNU?
Maybe they use Alpine
Xe/xey ?
Him:
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Possibly relevant: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_wealthiest_religious_organizations
Sure they have a lot of money and income, but they have a lot of expenses too you know!
Like paying the continuous stream of victims of sexual assault since those pious clergymembers can't seem to stop raping children
For a lot of women marriage (and divorce) is all about money.
Casholic with a lisp.
I'd say it would be a red flag. They'll likely try to convert you from Catholicism to Linuxism
wtf
is it a red-flag if your man uses whitelisting antivirus on windows?...after de-bloating it of course.
What about if he trolls scammers with the goal of ruining their operation?
No, apparently, just using Linux MIGHT be a red flag...
But, on the other hand, some people also say that Linux nerds are cash cows, so they can't be that bad I suppose 🤷.
I make drive-wiping bat files and put them in the startup folders of scammers PCs is that a red flag?
As much as I enjoy shitting on Catholics (I would hang out on a church roof pretending to be a pigeon if I could get away with it) the title of this post would be accurate with one fewer word. "Apparently, dating is all about money."
This just hurts my brain. I don't get what "Linux" here is supposed to represent. Wealth, intelligence, fidelity, fanatical devotion to Free Software?
Nerds are like dogs it seems
My dog doesn't make squat for income.
Your dog doesn't use Linux either.
as jesus intended
NotAnIncel LARPing
Only if he uses Linux and insists on anal as a form of contraception. 😂
I'm 99% sure that they're joking.
You'd be surprised how people think.
😂
Literally what is the problem? Who gets offended at shit like that?
Ummm, I did... if I get to be the cash cow, then honey, you shouldn't mind being the maid, a perfect mother and my personal sex slave.
So Catholicism?
It Catholic Dating...yes...that's what she's signing up for.
All girls are shallow. I'd rather, "he got money" shallow than "he tall" shallow. At least one is something you can do something about. I don't know why people pretend that it is wholesome when the girl falls in love with the physically handsome tall guy, but then somehow less wholesome when the girl falls in love with a guy who through talent and hard work made something of himself.
