Fellow Men, what are some compliments you would like to recieve?
I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don't feel like anyone notices.
So I'm going to try and compliment people who:
Have really well done and unique tattoos
Are older but super athletic (It's harder and more thankless, since when you're young and athletic you're usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)
Have super sharp outfits
Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)
what are other good compliments we should give each other?
EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I'll try to throw out a "looks like you're cooking up some good stuff"
Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that's the only time I've ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it's better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).
Same. I might as well be invisible until someone needs help with something. I get compliments at work sometimes but it's all related to my being competent enough to do something they need.
Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, "you're good at making people feel comfortable around you" or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they're doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.
I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.
I mean, it still doesn't stay curly as much as I'd like it to (even with wax or pomade) but its definitely pretty nice when its the way i want it to be, I think!
That dude is also full chill. Taking the time and breaking whatever possible comfort zones for the both of you to commend you on your moustache. That's a nice fella. Somebody husband that bastard real quick.
This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.
As a father, I'd like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.
It will likely come from your kids in the future, the validation doesn't come from society. They get to a point where they recognise what you did and say thanks.
I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I've rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.
That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls' heads because they're afraid of how the guy would react.
Which is why it's nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they've put in effort.
I'm always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say "cool shirt!" out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊
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Praise for any genuine public service whether that's being an EMT or just picking up a piece of trash. The world would probably be better off if we focused more on recognizing actions and less on superficial things like what clothes you can afford or physical appearance.
Complimenting another guy's physique is a bit weird I think unless you're trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.
As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.
As a hetero male, of course I'm happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I'm married and a women's comment, while nice, isn't actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).
How about "Jesus, put the weights down occasionally and leave some pussy for the rest of us!"?
It acknowledges your effort, but is clearly they are not trying to hit on you.
At this point I'll take what I can get. I put a lot of effort in my physique and pretty much only ever hear about from other dudes. I've had one woman mention it to me in 8 years. I don't work out just to get complements but I'm happy with my results and it'd be nice to know I'm not delusional. I suspect part of the problem is that I'm very short for a dude, I hear about that all the time.
I've been growing out my beard recently. Similar to women with long hair, maintaining a beard can be a lot of work. Typically, if I see someone else with an epic beard, I try to acknowledge it. Clearly they care about it.
Also, when I see a dad out with a young child alone, if they are trying at all, I will try to acknowledge it. I feel like most dads are in a situation where they are uncertain about what they are doing. Let me know that they are friggin' nailing it.
I honestly don't like to receive compliments from dudes. Here nobody does that. From a girl is different and has "value" too bad I'm invisible to them but from a dude is just weird.
I think that's a you issue though. Recently a dude complimented my moustache (I grew it out for a while and put a bunch of effort into making it curly) and that felt awesome.
I think dude shouldn't feel uptight about this. Tell a guy you like something they do or have shouldn't be seen as negative. Honestly a small ego boost never hurts.
I told my uber driver the other day that I like his watch, I'm sure he was happy about it.