At this point, it's probably a defense mechanism. Can you imagine the kind of soul crushing realization it would be to accept that you're responsible for your spouse's death because you got way too deep into shit posting on Facebook? It's way, way more comfortable to displace that blame and rationalize it away.
I sort of feel like the exceedingly casual posting on Facebook about this very world-wrenching moment in his life is proof enough for me that he's made a few horcruxes in his time and has a maimed soul.
If I was in his shoes, those 3 words would be on loop in my head, and I'd be curled up in a foetal position bawling, insensate, forever. Like the end of a particularly disturbing Black Mirror ep.
Two, even if he had the self awareness to reflect upon it, how "coy" he was being.
First a vague reference that no one could possibly react to except to ask for details if they had their interest piqued.
Then a follow-up to make it more pointed, but still conspicuously omitting the actual meat of the situation. Seemingly calibrated to try to elicit engagement after the first attempt failed
Finally sharing the meat of the situation only after a little engagement and direct question
You’d be surprised how many abusers will tell on themselves thinking they are sharing a story about how something unfair was said to them. Then they give you the backstory as they relay it to a friend where they think it’s a safe space. A lot of assholes will still staunchly think they are in the right. Sadly a lot of their friends will join in on a toxic journey with them too. YouTube comments are pretty rife with these cliques.
Yup. I used to follow a YouTube channel run by a couple, then they had a harsh breakup and she left the channel. Some time later she comes forward with allegations of abuse against him, and I’m like “okay but this is just her side of the story, what if it’s all bullshit?”.
Then he addressed the allegations. The way he addressed them, to me, was exposing himself FAR more than anything she said. It was like watching a movie villain monologue. Really scary how skewed those people’s perceptions are.
Absolutely correct this post comes off as "This is the bad thing my wife said to me before she died and I'm too oblivious to realize it was my fault". I've seen the same shit with couples looking for validation after a nasty breakup.
I’m 90% sure I was able to find the correct person the post belongs to. They’re listed as widowed. They live in/are from areas that you would stereotypically expect a person to be taking horse dewormer instead of getting vaccinated. His public comments are full of typical boomer humor memes, misogynistic gems like (copied right from his page) “ Just heard an interesting fact….25% of women are being treated for mental illness….that means 75% are running around untreated 🤣🤣🤣”, guns, and more gems like this:
E: image didn’t upload. It was a side-by-side image of a muzzled dog and a woman wearing a large covid mask titled “obedience training”.
The fact that freedom in the US is conflated with not getting the vaccine is incomprehensible. Something like vaccination should be mandatory with very limited exceptions for truly legitimate cases.
I treat vaccines like pokemon...gotta catch em all. If someone offers me a vaccine, I'll take it, even if it's for something rare. I just want to be immunized against as many things as possible.
There's a saying I want to make famous: "One man's freedom ends where another's begins." Your freedom not to take a vaccine only lasts as long as it does not affect your neighbor's rights to live and breathe.
They've become very anti freedom in fact. Unless it has something to do with a major lobby like guns, or letting corporations pollute air and water, they pretty much are pro restrictions on most things.
Heck, I had to fight to get the vaccine in my country.
I was working at a food bank during covid. I was coming face to face with 200 different people every day. Many of whom were covid positive but because they were homeless they had no where else to go.
I have a genetic condition that effects my sympathetic nervous system. I have sinus bradycardia, and chronic pulmonary congestion due to having over 10 bouts of aspiration pneumonia. On top of this I have an autoimmune condition. I was taking immunosuppression therapy in March 2020, I stopped taking because I couldn't risk my immune system being suppressed in my line of work. I was so sick because of my untreated autoimmune condition, but I just had to deal with it.
In October we started rolling out the vaccine to our most vulnerable populous. I was eligible because of my autoimmune condition and I was first in line at my local vaccination centre.
But my genetic condition was on the list of contraindications. They were just going to send me away until I broke down crying explaining my job and my risk and my fear of catching covid. So I had to get two doctors to sign off on me getting the vaccine, and I had to make a special vaccine booking because they needed an NP to do a pre-screening and then I had to wait around for 3 hours afterwards and then get a post-vaccination check up and the NP had to sign off.
My booster shots were easier, because I just took my proof of vaccination certificate to the pharmacy and I didn't even mention my underlying conditions. (I didn't have that luxury the first time. I had to hand over my medical records to prove I was eligible for the first round of vaccinations. But after my first jab, the fact I had gotten my first dose was proof enough that I was previously approved to be part of the first round, so I didn't need to present my records to get my boosters)
Trying to get an appointment with two separate doctors during a global pandemic for some red tape paperwork was like pulling teeth.
It should not have been that hard for someone to get a vaccine when they want one. I understood the risks. I'd rather die of a vaccine interaction that helps provide information that makea the vaccine safer for others, than just be another statistic of covid 19.
Americans are generally not taught what freedom means... or the careful dance between "freedom to" and "freedom from". The "golden rule of liberty" - that "your rights end where mine begin, and vice versa" - is utterly alien to most of us. Anything that could limit someone's "freedom to" is demonized, even when that limit is because the "to" in question brazenly violates everyone else's "from".
E.G. Rational Person: "I have a right to not be harmed by your actions." Average Murican: "fAsCiSt!"
I miss the old /r/hermancainaward before they started blocking out people's faces. They all pretty much looked just like this dude, but it made all the posts much more real seeing the people that posted them.
I really like how people try to censor names and fail to do so. If you really want something like that to be irreversible put a fucking black rectangle instead.
Ah but that's hard to do on a phone and you know nobody uses computers anymore.
Just scribble over it with your finger, like a toddler in Kindergarten. Good enough!
The best one I've seen is where people scribble over it but it's in a slightly transparent color so you can still easily read the text underneath. I can only assume that they were in a very bright environment because otherwise it's blindingly obvious.
Sure, but user can always remove their message and don't want others to know they wrote that. And yes, I know that if you put something on the internet, you should be aware that it may never disappear, but publicly displaying regular people's names on different website with context is a big no-no in my opinion. Also in EU there's a right to be forgotten, and while I am not sure about exact details (I am not a lawyer), this might be illegal here as well.
I don't know. Maybe select rectangle tool, or big pen with no transparency effect? How am I supposed to know exactly, I probably use different phone than yours, which has different set of built-in tools.
Putting three instances of names as layers on top of each other with transparency effect already uncovers a large part of the most common name there, so I definitely disagree.
If you know the exact typeface and font size used, you can just try to put letters top of the image to guess them as well (so you try to match parts of the letter with one exact character to be precise). And I am pretty sure there are some tools that make this even easier (or at least made internally by some U.S. security agencies :) ).
We made certain populations with many comorbidities very aware before they went for sedation on the vent that they would likely never wake up again. It was always a tough conversation and actually pulling the trigger on it while they were suffocating was hard. Most of my job at the time was doing everything I could to keep people who were maxed out in high flow oxygen off the vent.
If you find his page (it’s not hard) it’s full of stereotypically what you’d expect. Boomer humor memes, guns, mocking Taylor Swift, misogynistic comments, etc.
Deserved too. I blame the dipshit that was president for it though. All he had to do was say to wear a mask and get vaccinated and so many lives would have been saved. The whole fighting over it would never have happened. It's really pathetic, and these mouthbreathers are trying to vote his dumbass back in.
He could have sold red masks to match his hats, he would have made a killing, the Jan 6 insurrectionists would have covered their faces. turns out his stupid countered his evil.
It's not that I don't believe this didn't happen, I don't believe this happened in the way that is orchestrated.
I could not imagine a relationship where the last words of spouse ends up being an attack on the significant other. I fully believe that people are probably unvaccinated due to a significant other saying no, vaccinations are bad, but I don't see a world where they actually mentioned this as the last three words.
You don't see a world where being sick, on your death bed, and about to be out on a vent, makes you say some hurtful things to a loved one that contributed to you being in pain?
People don't think things like this will effect them until they do. I can totally see a SO trusting their spouse with figuring out if a new vaccine is safe to take, because some people are too busy with other aspects of their life to look into that stuff. That's what happens in relationships. Then when you get sick and reality hits you, your thoughts changed. You're in pain and not thinking logically.
My wish is the surviving spouse learns from this and becomes a big pro-vaccine advocate, but.....yeah fat chance.
Sure, but that kind of thing mostly refers to housing and income. It would be trivial to get vaccinated without telling your spouse or anyone else who wants to make a big deal out of it. This lady made the bet that appeasing her husband was more important than getting vaccinated and she lost that bet. Her husband certainly bears a large portion of the blame for creating the situation she found herself in but she could have easily found her way out of it without causing a fuss. She chose not to.
You can coax even a grown-ass person to not take the vaccine via misinformation and guilt tripping. Covid is only like 4 years ago it should be still fresh in everyone's mind.