Anon gets corrected

"what is up, my mammals?"

Why would she ask "How many dudes have you fucked?" to attack his position??

It seems like a completely different topic altogether. I call fake.

Oh and the gay part is trivial and left as an exercise to the reader.

Shouldn't it have been "How many guys have you fucked?" He didn't say "you dudes."

Obviously fake, but the response is a total non-sequitur to set up for the grindr but.

It's because the joke story was supposed to be " hey dudes" That way the woman asks "how many dudes have you fucked" he can then go into the Grindr gotcha
- Nobody says hey dudes anymore though

"You fuckers" is the correct nomenclature

"Fuckos" for informal situations
- os
  
  That’s male-coded in Spanish

At some point you need to take responsibility for your insecurities and work on moving past them rather then expecting society to placate you. Languages evolve, so if your end goal is gender equality (or even if its not), the best thing you can do is accept that words are context sensative and "dude" and "guys" can be neutral terms.

Alternatively, if a woman asks you not to call her a guy or a dude, respect that.
I'm so fucking sick of the neg culture that pretends to be politically correct. There's malicious sexism and loads of assholes out there for sure but some feel emboldened to attack anyone they construe to be saying what they think is wrong regardless of context.

Someone will always be offended by absolutely fucking everything. They can go fuck themselves.
At first you need to take responsibility for what comes out your face and not assume everyone will accommodate to your inability to read the room. If you're an asshole to someone don't be a little bitch if you're getting called out.
Hell, in the Irish TV series “Bad Sisters”, the women have called each other collectively “lads”. If that’s the kind of thing that grinds your gears, you’re better off surgically excising the part of your brain that deals with language comprehension, so you can never again understand anything being said to you.
*sensertif
*your

"Cunt" it is, then.

Accidentally Australian /j
- Cunt is singular, he should have used "cunts".
- or British...

This is fake and gay. Literally

Yeah, the fact that OP mentioned being at a party was sus. Nobody who posts on 4 Chan is ever invited to parties.
Yeah, 20 dudes is rookie numbers
- Ikr? I've fucked more guys than that, and I'm straight
- I think he was referring to so far that night, right? Right?!?
- i mean, he is an anon.
Yep, these are manufactured posts meant to create hate against women from something that never happened.

I view "guys" and "dudes" as gender neutral but when its directed towards me i start feeling like shit

Man... I'm sorry.
- Man…
  
  Thomas has never seen such bs before

It's not a problem until someone tells you to not refer to them as a dude or a guy. If you continue, you are just an asshole 🤷🏻

Sure, but we're talking plurals of strangers atm. "Please don't call me a guy going forward" is a different conversation than "what you just said is stupid, mean, and wrong".
- Your facts are not what OP wrote, though. And in this context the facts are relevant, which is the point.
  
  Bad red herring.
Or, just maybe. The person remarking is an asshole. It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
- Why does the other persons energy matter? If someone requests not to be called something and you continue to call them that then you are kinda being a jerk.
- If someone asks you to stop something simple and of no consequence to you just do it out of respect. Why does everyone feel entitled to a concrete argument and being convinced before just respecting folks? It’s ridiculous.
  
  My parents hate curse words. I curse a fuck ton. When I’m at their house, I don’t curse (well…as much). I don’t demand a sufficiently acceptable reason for not doing it any more than I don’t need someone explain to me why they want me to take my shoes off in their home. Just don’t be an ass and do it. Don’t demand an explanation like you’re some hot shit being wildly burdened.
  
  Someone called someone “the R word” at my house in front of my kids. I just said “don’t use that word please” and that was the end of it. Didn’t talk about my kids or ableism or anything, I just said “stop please,” they just said “cool sorry” and moved on. This is just how it should be most of the time.
- It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
  
  Is this a personal attack?
- It’s just as much not a problem for them to be offended by it as it is for you to choose your words better. Knowing that you made a choice to offend so yeah, you’re the jerk. You’re honestly making a lot more of it if you went all this distance to think you’re the one hard done by just cuz you refuse to memorize some words. That’s snowflake thinking.
  
  Only bad actors looking for the drama go for the path of most resistance.
I mean I'll be nice about it and correct to girls or ladies or whatever, but that conversation is probably over
- Why? Because it’s so difficult for you to respect someone’s request that likely means way more to them than to you?

People really dont understand how languages work. Even brother and man can be gender neutral. If you say "man, whyd you do that" thats gender neutral. Same with dude and guy.

me@lemmy~$ man
Whatever you say, girliepop
- I'm a man but I love when people call me babygirl or something like that
Idk about the rest of it but dude and guys can totally be gender neutral and i hate people that dont get that. Its such a bitchy thing to get mad about
- Also queen, "James, you're such an Excel queen". I've seen this sort of use many times at my workplace. It doesn't have anything to do with gender or sexual orientation.
  
  It's obviously more niche than "dude" but I've seen it before.
- claims they understand gendered language
  
  describes someone as “bitchy”
This. I've got a fair few trans friends, and we're all in agreement - unless it's obvious we're talking in gendered terms based on context, "dude", "man", "bro", etc are just interjections, not reference to someone's gender. And, when we are talking in gendered contexts, we tend to be pretty clear about that.
gay men call each other sis and girl all the time too, for alternatives that go in reverse
But like.......I think it goes beyond just gender specificity & is also an attempt to address the embedded patriarchy of our culture & language. Those interjection words being male of center as a default is something I wanna unpack, too.🤷🏽
- As another comment said "queen" being gender neutral and coming from a word used for females originally. Also patriarchy is embedded in language but you cant really change it. Its always better to agree on a gender neutral phrase than have an infight(classic left wing moment...) and then revert to the previous gendered language because of it. We should all just speak hungarian, barely any gendered stuff in there(def not biased because its my mother tounge)
- Then let's also start using sis and girl when referring to men. BOOM EQUALITY!
- Yes! Thank you for stating this.
And pussy, right?
Human ... man, it's a just shorter version 😉
- Is woman short for womb-man?
Bro y u so wrong
- Thats a joke right? Because youre getting downvoted, but you yourself called me bro without knowing my gender so it must be a joke or youre the most oblivious person ive ever seen.

Dude is also genderless.

I'm a dude. He's a dude. She's a dude. We're all dudes!

Listen to this dude.
I worked at a university and I heard women call each other "bro" all the time.
- bruh
- My teenage daughters say "bruh" pretty often.
- My gen z sister in law says bro way more than me.
- Almost like OP is making shit up
Dude for me is genderless, but it's not a label everyone can fit into, you gotta be chill.
- If they don’t abide, they lack dudeness
Depends on the context.

"Hey Brian, were you making out with a dude last night!?"

"Haha, no, that was Annie, she's a chick, she just has short hair."

Dude(s) and Guy(s) can be gender neutral or male-only. Girl can mean a female child, or it can mean a woman, depending on the context.
- That means it's not gender neutral, it just means you use male as a default in most contexts.
Me? I know who I am! I'm a dude playing a dude disguised as another dude.
Cunt is also genderless.

I'm a cunt. He's a cunt. She's a cunt. We're all cunts!
Dude is a network monitoring tool as well.
- Nah, that's the dude
I have female colleagues that have yelled at me for calling them dude.
And The Dude abides
but am i a dude?
- No.

I definitely use "guy" as gender neutral. I used to refer to women as "dude" as well, but it was a bit controversial so I stopped

I'm a dude. He's a dude. She's a dude. We're all dudes!
- I also follow the Less than Jake linguistic model.
- We need a new word. I suggest blob
"Ladydudes" is the way to go.
- Dudes and Dudettes
- Gentlemen and gentle women.
- Please dont ever call me ladydude, dude is fine 😅
- if someone called me that, I would immediately throw up

This is a good joke but it really lets itself down by switching from "guys" to "dudes" when it's about the former word...

I always "y'all" and I'm not even from the south.

Y’all gives modern English the second person plural it would otherwise be missing
- What about youse?
- "You" used to be that word, but mfs didn't wanna say "thou" anymore so "you" has to pull double duty now
- In Ireland it's still very common to use 'ye' for you plural.
- Missing? It is that part of speech! 😁 "You all," the thing it conjoins, is proper English and the accurate thing to say. We do have it. We just refuse to try harder to be less patriarchal bc "guy" has less syllables. And most of the time it's preceded by "you" anyway, so not even shorter. (If I'm wrong, someone please correct me)
  
  I take the time to correct myself in meetings, "when can you guys- ahem you all" - no apology, bc I'm doing my best, and demonstrating in my actions.
- Yous.
- The only two things the South got right were "y'all" and biscuits and gravy.
i’m from australia and i’ve adopted yall for exactly that reason

it also makes me real happy that some very transphobic shit heads would be furious if they knew that “their word” was part of the solution to gender neutral terminology
In parts of the south "y'all" is singular. "All y'all" is plural.
- What?
- As a super non-Southern USA guy, anytime I drop a “y’all” into convo, my Southerner friends say I’m not doing it right because I simply substitute all “you” instances with “y’all”.
  
  I guess these friends don’t come from the singular-y’all part of the South.
Y'all is a really good pronoun and I think more people should use it.
- It makes everyone sound American. This is sometimes okay.
- As someone from the west coast, I disagree.

She gets angry at me for saying "you guys"

Me: 🚶

Real and gay

Those are rookie numbers