Does anybody really give a shit, if he's male?
Like how does that change my life or affect anything or anybody anywhere?
Seriously the egos of these freakin' snowflakes.
I 'love' it when someone belonging to the most priviliged group there is acts like they're oppressed. Like, oh you're a cishet male he/him? Good for you, I don't care.
As a man, I have never been "proud" to be a man, I mostly feel ambivalent about it, it is who I am, I'd rather be proud about my actions than my gender.
In case you get any odd responses, while many people use ambivalent to mean they don't care, it actually means you have contradictory feelings, i e., you are both for and against something.
This. I think it's kinda ridiculous to be proud of something you haven't done anything for. I'll much rather be proud of the thing I did than about shit like where I'm born or as what I'm born.
The only time I would say that doesn't apply is when you're part of a traditionally marginalized group. Black pride, or queer pride or indigenous pride all make sense to me. Because it's a collective pride thing more than an individual pride thing.
Depends on your context of "proud". Pride movements for instance aren't nessisarily about being specifically proud of your gender / sexual orientation in the same way one is of your accomplishments. The movement co-opted the word to mean something subtly different. When some says "I am a proud gay man" for instance the statement does not imply "I think I am particularly special given this trait and am worthy of praise because of it" what is actually being implied is "I am not ashamed by this trait and will not be treated as if I should be. "
The movement has it's own language and "Pride" specifically was chosen as being the opposite of shame which was the affect people were expected to have by society. The people who created the idea did so out of participation in gay support groups at the time where the social norm was always that you had to perform a performative regret like being gay was a habit akin to a drug addiction. You were reinforced to adopt a narrative that you were unhappy and struggling - even when actually your partner and community might be a source of great joy. Gay Marches were shirt and tie events where one soberly asked for people to see you as a human that passes for straight, all the culture and actual proclivity tucked behind a neat mask where that undercurrent of shame was still at play.
True Emancipation, according to the Pride movement, was fighting the narrative that there was anything shameful about being happy. They decked themselves in rainbows as an allusion to the joy they wanted to show the world, modeled Pride events on Independence day events and affected instead of performative shame performative pride. Something that would allow them to be unapologetic in their fight for actual rights to exist in the light of day as opposed to the former affect of shame that turned them into pitiful beggars asking for scraps of patchy tolerance to exist in the shadows as people who would treat their own way of being as a failure state.
I will make no secret about how I don't really understand transgender people, it used to annoy me, but since about a year or two ago I realized that it doesn't matter to me, and it apparently matters a lot to them.
So I stopped caring enough to be annoyed, I realized that if they are happy and it doesn't hurt others, then I have no reason to make their day worse.
To all trans people, I may not understand what you feel, but I will not be a dick about it, my confusion is my own issue and I will do my best to not make it yours.
Huh, I've been banging on about this for awhile in isolation after talking to a lot of cis people about gender and it's really weird to see it in an article by someone else.
These idiots take other people being proud of who they are as a personal attack against males. I debate if it's insecurity or ego to think it's all about them. You can be proud to be male, it's just kind of dickish since society has literally never cared about you being male.
I do find it quite weird when people claim to be proud of something for which they did nothing to achieve it. Like, his shirt literally says that he was born male. I guess, he did manage to get successfully born, so uh good job?
In a hyper-individuelistic society where everyone is constantly being compared and judged, the feeling that you're better than everyone else brings incredible relief. Of course the concept of being better than others is deeply flawed but you never learned to question these things. So how do you achieve the feeling? Study hard, lift others around you, save your money. Sure, but that takes years, and it's hard work. So what if you're inherently better than others-- that solves it. Race, language, gender, nationaliry.. All things that cost you no effort. There's another shortcut to these feelings. All you have to do to in order to become better than most of the population and get into to heaven is say that you believe the Bible. That's it. Just gotta say you believe it and you're in the club. Zero effort, all the dopamine. Supporting some sports team. Buying a particular car. Using what you buy to signal to others something about you. Bumper stickers, adding a ribbon to your profile picture, posting some cringe on LinkedIn, attention seeking on your birthday.. All attempts to showcase how excellent you are with minimal effort.
So if your entire sense of self worth is based on attributes about you which you were either born with or cost you no effort, you'll want to support anyone who places importance on those things. Nationality, consumerism, race, gender, religion, etc.
I used to wear a black kerchief around my left wrist when I was hiking, for wiping sweat and washing face, TIL I'm a strong SM top when I'm on the trails. Not quite sure what that means but I'm willing to learn.
American queer people were like, "hankies!" and British queer people were like, "they're going to treat us like criminals, so let's use the secret criminal language." And then they were like, "fuck you, we're teaching it to everyone else."
Well, we take the hankies out when someone catches a whiff of Lily Law or Jennifer Justice.
But for real, both are really cool means of coded communication. Hankies are definitely less of a “Gay men” thing than a leather community thing, though that’s getting into niche enough subcultural divisions that it’s not the sort of thing most people care to learn and there’s really no point for them to. But yeah the hankies partly served the same role as polari, it’s a way to communicate illegal desires in a way that requires being taught the code. It’s actually quite similar to learning drug slang, except with a higher barrier to entry back in the day.
Some people would have just cut their hair to give the societal cue about their gender, but I give this guy credit for making a special pronoun vest instead of conforming.
However I can sure as hell ridicule the living shit out of someone advertising how insecure and weirdly aggressive about being an incel they are without the government censoring my opinion.
According to some people it's all good to judge a straight "fragile moron" but when it comes to homosexual, they can't take that. Hypocrisy at its peak
There was that meme that I read that I can't remember but paraphrasing.
How straight people will never ever be 100% confident they're straight. But if you sex a person of the same gender and don't like it, only then can you with no uncertainty, be 100% confident you're straight.
Even then it might have been the wrong person. I never felt attracted to another man so far but how can I be really 100% (!!!) sure there is not 'the one' out there unless I meet them all? :D
It's strange that he feels the need to tell everyone they need to deal with the fact that he was born a man and identifies as a man when nobody has a problem with that.
Imagine someone saying "yes, I like pepperoni pizza, deal with it." Like, uh, okay, it's one of the most popular pizza ingredients. Extremely uncontroversial opinion, there. Compare that to someone saying something like "yes, I like pineapple and anchovies on my pizza, deal with it." While it still may be odd/cringey to wear a shirt saying that, it's at least a controversial opinion.
That man in the image is projecting to everyone the complete opposite of what his whispering subconscious is trying to tell him; the truth is that he is likely very very gay or an uncracked egg envious trans woman, but his dogmatic religious upbringing and close-minded social circles and family would ostracize him for acting on his desires to be overtly gay/trans.