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itsnicodegallo @lemm.ee
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Asking a serious question
  • As somebody with social anxiety, it sounds like your MIL also has social anxiety. Hence, the constant need to have to reinforce that other people can stand her. I had to train this out of myself in my late teens/early 20s.

    I know it's annoying to deal with, but showing a little compassion and simply affirming that you're exhausted but her relationship with you is secure will go a long way for her. She'll probably get used to you being quiet around her too.

  • Asking a serious question
  • I think it's really ironic when I see these memes, because it highlights how our own heads will highlight the things that grate against our own nerves.

    I assume everybody that this resonates with resonates with it because they themselves have been told to go against their nature and wanna know why the other side hasn't.

    I'm the other end of that spectrum. I promise you, people told me all that. "Mind your peers. Share the space. Stop being...so much. Learn to be comfortable in silences. What can't you shut the fuck up?"

    I have autism, so I didn't understand why I was always screwing it up. I also hated hearing, "Be yourself. People will like you for who you are," because I found that when I stopped trying to mask, I'd immediately hear all of the above all over again.

  • It's rule for me
  • Not cause of your age. I got told that all the time in high school! And college. And after college.

    Anyway, I eventually got a partner, but having a consecutive string of meeting romantically incompatible potential partners is not age dependent.

  • but it's still funny
  • I'll give a very literal example joke demonstrating how this used to function.

    NOBODY:

    ME: Yes, I did get a haircut. Thank you for asking.

    See, nobody asked, but the speaker was still compelled to share this fact (or in other cases, an opinion). Over time, it became such a common format that people didn't even grasp the initial purpose beyond it being convention. The term "POV" in captions is used this way now too.

  • Why shouldn't I rule it?

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    Wizards casting in TTRPGs

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    My tummy hurts from eating too much ice cream.

    I'm also lactose intolerant, but the devil doesn't sleep just cause I stopped fightin' him.

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    I've noticed that my brain's default friends activity is "go hang at a bar".

    99% of my ideas for what to do with friends have to do with "we hang, but at a bar".

    I've started to consider suggesting aquarium trips, outdoor movie nights, etc, but then I decided it might be nice to chit chat about it with y'all because I wanna hear what y'all like. Especially things you didn't expect to be as pleasant as they were but became a regular thing.

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    a story in two parts

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    TIL the applause in Elton John's "Bennie and the Jets" was taken from a Jimi Hendrix performance and "fake-lived" by the audio engineers.

    newmusicunited.com Elton John – Bennie And The Jets (1974)

    After recording the song in the studio, John and the band worried that it was too plain and unoriginal. In the Eagle Vision documentary on the making of “Goodbye Yellow Brick Road,” Joh…

    Elton John – Bennie And The Jets (1974)
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