I will never understand why any gay person would ever be transphobic.
Like.........??? You do understand that people have used many of the exact same arguments against trans rights as they've done to suppress gay rights too... right?
This kind of feels like the "why aren't you inclusive of my racism?" argument conservatives have used against liberals. "I thought you were supportive of different viewpoints?!"
Ingratitude is one of the most subtly commonplace toxic things to exist. I see so many gay folks be terrible to trans people and lesbians without any knowledge of how historically important those groups were to their own liberation. So many folks just want a big fun uncomplicated party with rainbows where they feel centered without realizing the intent of the original Pride. OG Pride was modeled after an Independence day parade. If our founding event was Stonewall we would honor those who fought like heroes and live out loud where everyone could see and made it so our issues could not be so easily swept under the rug ever again. Trans people of color have always been right at the heart of Pride. Trans people in general were key in fighting for marriage equality because it was our fight too due to the ban creating final impenetrable barriers to acceptance of our legal documentation.
Yeah, if you "don't agree with trans people" then you can stay home and wave your rainbow flag alone because you sure as hell aren't celebrating Pride.
Humans are very limited creatures. Our mental faculties are easily compromised. Our breadth of knowledge is full of glaring gaps. We can speak the same language and still fail to understand each other.
We don't know the same things. We don't understand the same things. Our similarity is that we are lacking. Our difference is the topics we lack in.
So if you can't understand how someone can do something silly, try to remember of all the times you did something silly. Then say "Ohh, it's like that, but with something else."