what's something you're into that you don't want anyone you know irl to know about?
what's something you're into that you don't want anyone you know irl to know about?
I really like fanfiction. Reading and writing it. Nobody in my life knows and I plan on keeping it that way.
Pretty much everything from AI to Atheism to Lemmy to whatever interesting things I'm mulling over because I'm stuck disabled, living with crazy religious nutters family that have no fundamental logic skills.
Holy shit bro, hang in there - any chance of dating (maybe other disabled?) people and getting the hell out of there, or something like that? There are flats disabled people share, where they help each other, too, right?
What's the next end of the world year?
D,E,&I. I work with and am generally surrounded by a bunch of conservative MAGA fucks.
Literally last week my team coach said to us that anyone who got the jab deserves to die. What a fucking idiot.
Are people still on about that? Haven't those ones moved on to the next thing after we didn't all die? Call them out, it's 6G cell towers now and eh, another kabal. Revelations Any day soon! Promise!
Lol
Anyone who says others "deserve to die" needs to be removed from society. That kind of mindset is dangerous, bordering on threatening.
Average day in a red state
I would not be able to resist the urge to ask him directly if he thinks I deserve to die
What's D,E&I?
No one IRL knows I help run a Lemmy instance and I plan on keeping it that way for now as it's going to take too much explaining.
I've tried explaining Lemmy to people and they do not understand. They are like "just use reddit bro"
I stopped using Reddit when the API protests happened and haven't gone back. I honestly think Lemmy is far superior. I love seeing and interacting with the same people in varying threads. Feels like an actual community.
Now Reddit had straight up opened their doors for AI training, which ofc they get money for. Off the Reddit users content. Fuck you Spez.
Sadly, that's the reaction I've gotten as well. Most people I know in real life just don't care enough to even look into it, and the fediverse in general is an incomprehensible subject to them.
*sigh
You stole my "joke" :P
I think it's just a pretty common experience.
I am looking forward to casually dropping into the conversation that I run a social media network.
Nice try mom
Your mom's on Lemmy? You should be proud.
It's really hard but I struggle to tell people about my operating system. I use Arch BTW.
I don't want any of you to know either.
This is my answer. There's like a 1% chance that someone i know would find out and i'm not taking it
Sometimes I find myself mourning the person I used to be. I experienced something traumatic in 2018 that changed my entire personality and now suffer from Bipolar II.
I get that. I do the same often enough. I went from an outgoing fun person to an anxious shut in that is scared of people.
I hope you find that part of yourself that you lost.
High quality fresh mozzarella sliced thinly into delicate slivers like sashimi, dipped in high quality traditional aged Japanese soy sauce. Eaten with chopsticks of course, similar to conventional sashimi.
I've done a fair share of fine dining and make some very intricate conventional dishes but this weird combo just kind of to gets me. I've never mentioned this to anybody as to not disqualify myself as the "chef guy" but I can't help but like it.
Both my brother and my brother-in-law are professional chefs and they each eat the weirdest nonsense on their own. It's like their palettes have to be so refined at work that they need to throw the wildest combos of flavors together at home to feel like they're eating something different.
So if anything I think this qualifies you as the "chef guy."
No lie, that actually sounds kinda good and I want to try it.
It's gotta be THIN, around 5mm or less. Frankly the thinner the better, it gives it a sort of luxurious melt in your mouth consistency (room temp too). For soy sauce I use Tsuru Bishio 4 year aged soy sauce. It's like 40$ a bottle but it's so strong and rich that I tend to use very little at a time (one bottle lasts me like 6 months).
One of my favorite snacks lately is tamari almonds and a slice of smoked provolone cheese.
Fuck, that sounds good. Gonna try it!
ASMR
I could never get ASMR. Like I understand it but it never triggers. Whispers, plastic crimples, etc. It finally happened to me. Completely by accident.
Backyard metal melting in forges.
The flame of a forge got me the goosepimples good.15 min in: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jgo4hH1WDyY
ASMR just kinda means "pleasant tingling", and videos with asmr in the title tend to just be "neutral stimuli that I hope will make you tingle pleasantly." Mostly they're indistinguishable from "oddly satisfying" videos with the addition of, like, sensual whispers, or something?
I wouldn't be too surprised either way if metal melting in a forge wound up in either collection of asmr or oddly satisfying.
I need someone to know me really well before I let them know I watch anime, because a 30 year old dude who likes anime paints a certain picture
In your area perhaps. In mine it's pretty common.
Ah, I have nothing I'm hiding from anyone, and I'm totally not posting this from an alt-account
username DEFINITELY checks out
Surprised how often "furry" came up in this thread. Seems like it would be more fun if more people IRL knew. Granted, perhaps its probably better when those IRL people originally were online furry friends that became IRL friends? Idk. Don't consider myself a furry, but also not exactly not-a-furry. But its no secret I watch a lot of furry twitch streams for my immediate family.
I've never been one for the "fandom". I just like the pretty pictures. Otherwise, the term has so much baggage since it's so all-encompassing that depending on your social status or workplace, you might not "survive" it coming out
I’d prefer if my family and my coworkers don’t know my wife and I met at a bdsm event. I don’t hide it from friends though
I've been really into early Christianity / Biblical textual analysis. I found a priest I like on YouTube I really like and I've watched 100+ hours of lectures of his, plus a couple podcasts and audiobooks.
I'm not religious at all and kinda the stuff I like is the "huh, this is pretty obviously fake/contradictory, interesting nobody saw through this" stuff. It's like anthropologically interesting.
Obviously a dominant religion, not like a fringe thing to know about, but nobody's into these facts in just this way. Don't want to talk about it to religious people, non-religious people don't want to talk about it to me.
even in the deepest depths of my "bitter newly-deconverted atheist" phase i always found the bible and its history downright fascinating. mainline christians and critical atheists alike sell it so short.
I read Zealot by Reza Aslan and I thought it was a very interesting look into historical Jesus and early Christianity. I'm likewise not a Christian (I grew up as one, but became cynical at around 12 years old), but I do find fascination in the religion.
Historical Jesus is really interesting to me and stuff like how John The Baptist...baptized historical Jesus into something. So probably, Jesus was an acolyte of John The Baptist who went off and founded his own, similar movement. But then early Christians didn't like the implications of their main guy being a spinoff so these weird interpretations like John himself saying at the time 'I don't deserve to do this baptism, but I'm going to anyway for some reason and this other guy is the main guy and also in one gospel I'm Jesus' cousin.'
And also then Jesus' brother James the Just running the church after Jesus and there's a non-canonocal gospel (Thomas I think) that says 'James, for whom the Earth and Sky came into being' or something like that. And Jude calls himself Jude, brother of James. But James is the brother of Jesus so probably he is also the brother of Jesus, but that isn't the most relevant thing about Jude. So what an interesting alt-history you could write where Paul doesn't exist and James' church wins out and he's...also co-God? Or Jesus gets demoted and they're both just Mohammad-style brother prophets?
Oh boy. Here I go theorizin' again.
non-religious people don't want to talk about it to me.
There are definitely non-believers who look at the history or philosophy of religion. In high school I remember enjoying a unit about Kierkegaard relating to Jesus's temptations in the desert (Matthew 4, maybe?). Kierkegaard himself may have had some religion, but that's certainly not the case for all the existentialsts.
Whether you're likely to run into agnostics or atheists into religious philosophy on a daily basis is another matter, I suppose.
Religion fascinates me so much as well. It also thoroughly disgusts me because of how fucked up a lot of practitioners are. The history of it all is interesting AF tho
There are terrible people everywhere, they don't need religion to make them that way. What really gets me is religions like WBC that do make all of their people over that terrible stereotype.
- Fanfics, too. I love fanfics exploring what-ifs of a work, and myself wrote two or three of those, but assumers immediately associate them with the lemons.
- Isekai. Same deal as fanfics, except with escapism instead of porn. (I'm a sucker for fantasy dammit.)
- Machine text generation. Yeah, I don't want to be confused with a functionally illiterate tech bro.
Fantasy is so good at helping forget irl issues. I love it.
Escapism...
Started with anime. Then manga/manwha. Now I'm reading novels...
I love fanfics exploring what-ifs of a work, and myself wrote two or three of those, but assumers immediately associate them with the lemons.
This is it for me, too. I'd wouldn't mind talking about some of the fanfics I've read, but you can't even mention fanfiction without people assuming you're essentially reading porn.
None of my family members know what a furry is and i'm keeping it that way.
Thank you
Communism
This one right here. I mean people know that I am pretty left-leaning or whatever, but if my dad found out that I think socialism is actually a good idea, I think he'd react worse than when he found out I was trans.
I work in Florida for Raytheon and most of my coworkers likely have a photo of either Reagan or Trump above their fireplace. I don't get to talk politics very often. My mom knows , but the rest of my family doesn't. I get into yelling matches with my mom over politics all the time.
What I fap to. I'll never hear the end of it and I'd like to have life be normal between faps.
Your real friends wouldn't judge you for your dragons wearing nun habits fetish
I don't need friends that close.
Anime
I am incredibly picky with the anime I watch, so I don't watch much of it. Thankfully I associate with people who also watch anime, so I don't have to hide it lol
My problem is that the people I associate with that watch anime, watch anime that I don't. It's not a genre, it's a medium, and there is not much common ground between Haibane Renmei and My Hero Academia
But yeah, it is nice to be able to have computer wallpapers and wall art without the people I know thinking I'm an /a/ style weeb
World of Warcraft: Classic.
People know that I play, but they do not know that it has consumed me. All that I do, I do to spend time existing as a dwarf.
Azeroth is home.
I've really been enjoying my time with wow classic. I started playing on a vanilla private server a couple of years before classic came. I've really enjoyed the journey through all the expansions again.
Just cleared gnomeregan yesterday in Sod. Good times.
Homestuck, Undertale, Hazbin Hotel, and all those popular pieces of media that get overshadowed by their shitty fandoms
I have so much more fun with most things just enjoying it and not engaging with the fan base at ALL.
Exactly
I knew about Hazbin, but the others are new to me. Thank you for the suggestions!
I feel like homestuck, at least, is hard to disentangle from its fandom just because of the level of outsourcing the author did.
Hazbin's probably a little more mainstream now that the full season released
Swinging! Lots of fun, nobody needs to know
I dunno man the swings at my local park really clamp on my ass in an uncomfortable way and I get motion sick. You must have those premium swing seats
Don't the other partners who are participating know?
I hope so, as she's always right there next to me.
Nice try, FBI
That I still play Roblox for the Napoleonic Wars community. I don't want to be associated with the brain dead games that make up like 90%+ of Roblox
That community sounds dope AF tbh.
Every once in a while I fire up Roblox for a few rounds of Arsenal. I'm quite bad and regularly get pwned by what I assume are 12 year olds, but the features and feel aren't a world apart from the second-gen FPS's I played in college (e.g. Quake 2, Jedi Knight: Dark Forces 2, LucasArts' Outlaws, etc.).
Same with fanfiction except I write it more than I read it. I've been doing it for years now and have a little over 200 subscribers. My partner is the only one who knows I write it, but I've never let him read it, and never will (which he's fine with). I feel like it's such a ridiculous little thing to do, but I also like knowing there's 200+ people out there who enjoy what I write.
He is currently among the 200 subs, unbeknownst to both him and grasshopper_mouse
Basically anything that I don't know enough about to explain well, which is basically anything as I am dumb.
I am sure you know a bunch of things about topics better than a lot of other people. Maybe you just think you don't know it well enough. Plus, being into something doesn't mean you have to be able to teach it to others, this doesn't mean your dumb. When you get a chance, give yourself some grace, you deserve it! :)
I'm not shy about letting my freak flags fly in many ways, but you have to know me IRL for a good while before my deep and abiding love for a good prank phone call or a well-written monster-focused erotica story might come up in casual conversation.
I have quite a collection of speedos and I didn't buy them for swimming
The music I listen to sometimes. Prime example: Bass Slut by S3rl 💀
Slutty happy hard-core. I'm digging it.
If you enjoy that, you might also like: Lethal Theory - Dirty Talk (Powerstomp Mix)
Runescape
Last year I saw someone was trying to put together a runescape app where you level by walking. It was supposed to release beta last year but looks like it never got finished.
I'm obsessed with learning about particle physics and quantum mechanics. And of course slowly learning all the math that underpins it.
I just find myself to be very curious about how the world works, in many different ways.
It's exhausting having to go into the defensive posture simply for saying I'm interested in a subject that is way over most people's heads. Instantly arouses feelings of inadequacy in people. It never fails to sully the enjoyment of my passion, and create tension between friends.
That and pro wrestling.
It's exhausting having to go into the defensive posture simply for saying I'm interested in a subject that is way over most people's heads.
It's probably more because the 'I'm interested in quantum mechanics' line is such a trope of an affectation that most people can't help but to roll their eyes.
I'm not saying that you aren't genuinely interested, just that that's where it may be coming from.
Yeah no.
Oh neat. What parts are you studying? I was always told that you never really get quantum mechanics the first time and that you need to see it 3 times. But I wouldnt know bc the second course I took was already too much.
But bra-ket notation was super cool.
Same with the fanfiction. No one knows that I write a bunch of it, but I have 2 friends who know I read it only bc they read it too. But neither know I write. I’d die I think if they ever read my stuff so I just don’t want them to know. It’s my one little anon hobby that’s just for me.
That I buy porn games on gog for it to not appear on my steam profile.
I think steam lets you hide them now
The first thing that comes to mind is there are sites I might beat around the bush about being a member of.
Oh, fanfiction for me, too. My partner does know this about me though. I can't actually think of anything that they don't know about, hmm.