Binary trans woman? Binary feels like the closest fit, but at the same time, so much of gender is a construct, and I think I would probably have a different relationship with my gender identity if I was 20 years younger than I am, and grew up with more nuanced representation of gender.
It's okay and normal to not be 100% sure and to even change your mind entirely later. The important thing is you feel you have the agency to be whatever version of yourself feels right in the moment đ
I, myself am perfectly okay with who I am and my evolving identity (all of us are just PokĂŠmon after all).
There's this anxiety that stems from never being entirely sure how your environment is going to react that is causing this to be a more personal journey for me. Somehow it feels like having a greater degree of certainty is going to make actually being who I am to the rest of the world a lot easier. Confidence is key I guess.
Having had some bad experiences being open about my feelings definitely doesn't help either. So until the need to do otherwise arises, I'll probably just be honest with myself and not entirely with my surroundings.
In the meantime I'm having lots of fun stealthily experimenting with everything not tied to the stereotypical masculine identity. And I'll continue doing so until I feel the need to make those elements part of my public identity.
I tend to just lurk because this isn't a space for me, but it's a good way to keep connected to the community outside of my local area, and stay aware of ongoing social changes and such.
There's always going low dose and ramping it up when you leave. Low dose is more gradual and less people will notice as quickly, and you may get some of the mental health benefits from it.
I'd like to but it would very much impact my job and, depending on the next president, put a big ass target on my back (health insurance through gov employment).
Way to relatable. Was thinking I'd like to build up some more savings, so I don't have to worry as much about finances. But thinking maybe I should just try.
In case anyone cares, I don't care about my own gender identity. I identify as a cis woman because it's easy for me and I don't experience any disphoria or offense no matter how people gender me. Here to support trans and nonbinary people.
I care about trans rights even though it doesn't affect me personally. The same way that I care about abortion rights even though I can't get pregnant.
Nonbinary transfemmeâusing precise terminology for something I consider quite vague. I have a hard time calling myself a woman, but that's essentially where I'm headed. Maybe demigirl.
Genderflux demigirl: I fluctuate between agender and girl. I never want to be called a man or its adjacent terms ever again, but I also don't want to be beholden by the confines of "woman." "Girl" is nice, though. I like being girly.
In other words, varying degrees of girl, but never man. To anyone to whom it may be too complicated, non-binary.
I'm just a standard issue guy; always have been. Was raised conservative and flipped to progressive as an adult.
I'm here out of benevolent curiosity. I want to know how to interact with trans folks respectfully. I believe that learning about their thoughts and experiences will foster a perspective that makes it easier to understand how to do that.
I generally go with trans woman/girl (I refuse to acknowledge that I'm getting older), but mostly because I feel like that broad classification covers a fair amount of what other people would classify as demigirl or transfemme enby. Admittedly I also take the view that gender can be described as a zone of 3-d grid, with axes "femme", "masc" and "other" (although what "other" really is depends on the individual in question), and my own goes 80-90 femme, ~10 masc, 20-30 other (each out of 100)
Now, it almost never feels fluid. I spend weeks at a time thinking "Yeah, I feel I'm mostly a man, breaking out of norms just makes me feel free, and I wanna be strong like all those enbies I admire". And then one month later I see myself equally genuinely thinking "I'm a trans fem~ish, and I wish I could be pretty like all those women I admire."
And it's like I don't emotionally "remember" the other state. Each state is my entire reality while in it.
But consciously, I remember having been through this, not just now with gender, but some years ago with sexuality as well.
So yeah. It's a little bit of everything, all of the time.
Female or possibly demi-girl. The distinction doesn't make any practical difference to me, so I usually just go by female. I'm trans if that makes a difference in your graph.
I'm generally okay with and at ease with my birth gender, though I would definitely say that my inner self isn't inherently gendered and more picked up the qualities of my birth gender along the way but isn't inextricably linked to it.
I tend to think of it like how light when absorbed and reemitted takes on the frequency of the thing which absorbed it, but that coloring of the light isn't really describing the original nature or quality of the light so much as the journey it took and what was picked up along the way.
So cis gendered but not particularly committed to my gender one way or another. Would rank a host of other qualities above my gender in how important it is to my identity.
I'm a cis man. I only watch this community because I feel for y'all and understand the discrimination you're going through.
I'm autistic and severely ADHD. It's hard to live when everyone hates you for just being you. So while I'm not an egg or anything I take comfort in being around others who know how it feels to be rejected and fought against.
I guess I'm a trans tomboy? I'm new to all this so I don't have the lingo down yet. I have two ex-wives and I think I want an ex-husband too. But it'll have to wait. I recently realized I need someone who sees me as a woman and that's likely not happening anytime soon. Right now it feels like I want to wait until after bottom surgery. It'll be a long wait, but I've decided not to let old hang ups and preconceived notions dictate my life any longer so it might change if I meet the right person. I'm not sweating it, though.
I reach for agender/neutrois. I interpret it under the non-binary umbrella and use that too. Though I also still consider myself 'transfem', or at least 'transfem-ish'.
If you had asked me a year ago what my gender identity was, my answer would have been rather different than if you asked me now. I tend to be skeptical that I have the appropriate epistemic vantage point to have a certain answer to such a question. I'm not even sure there is such a thing as a persistent, innate, or essential gender identity.
Philosophical problems aside, assuming this is a census or something, I would be considered a trans woman.