My coworkers write me "hi, do you have 5 min?" without telling me what it is because they know I would drop what I'm doing and directly focus on the new task. (It's how I am, and they know how to deal with it).
With a little hi... they give me the option to say "sure, lets talk in 10 min" and finish what I'm doing.
I get that, but counterpoint is that you don't have to react and reply to each message IMMEDIATELY. The time stamps show that the messages all were within 3 minutes of the start. If this even happened at all.
Maybe it's because I'm old, but text messages don't require an immediate reply. Take a breath and be patient.
Even if I wait, I still have to listen to multiple notifications instead of just 1. Anyone who does this gets left on read for at least an hour from me (often times I just forget entirely).
There were replies between the messages so the notifications wouldn't show messages that were already considered read. Just seemed scripted. Unless the wife was the one who sent the first 2 replies.
Not worth getting hung up on authenticity though since there will never be a way to prove if it's wrong or real. I just try to appreciate the humor and assume it was faked either way.
It's pretty normal for people in a workplace to exchange numbers and text and no, that doesn't violate any laws if people choose voluntarily to communicate via text. My wife sees my texts on my personal phone sometimes. No need to go onto why as it doesn't matter. The big difference is that my wife is not so insecure to jump to conclusions if I get a weird text. In fact, my wife would probably joke about it. So that's the real issue... The guy has a cripplingly insecure wife. Also, I'm sorry if you've never had a good relationship with your boss. It's almost always the boss' fault, but it should be normal to be able to talk to your boss easily like a good acquaintance.
I don't know where you're getting that his wife is insecure. All he did was text in all caps. His wife could have just asked what was going on. Doesn't mean she was breaking down crying or on a rampage.
What on earth are you talking about? I never said there was anything wrong with texting your boss, and I didn't say anything about this being illegal, I'm saying it's unprofessional for your boss to give his wife open access to the work related texts his employees send to him unless she's also involved in the business. They could contain personal information that he shouldn't be sharing with anyone, not even his wife. It has nothing to do with her being insecure or not.
The better question is why are you texting your boss to say this? Even if your work is in close relation to what your boss does and/or your his assistant or something, texting about maternity leave isn't exactly the most appropriate.
I'm close with my boss and I text her stuff I'm comfortable telling her but not HR.
She also texted me when she found a job that I was super qualified for at another company that pays 50% more than I make now. If she'd done that over company email she could have gotten in trouble.
Sometimes taking things off the record is good if you have a good relationship with your boss.
Who seriously addresses their boss as boss? I'm also not sure why it would need a couple of days leave to discuss this too. Unless the baby isn't the boyfriends...
Might've just seen them light up the screen. I'm constantly seeing the messages my wife gets because they light up her screen and the automatic reaction (at least from me) before realizing is to glance at the screen.
Though from options you can hide the sender and content and even disable the screen from lighting up.
I at least appreciate the ellipses. When I text I try to keep within the 160 characters or 313 characters limit. So I use ... to indicate I haven't finished my thought or prepend a ... to show that it is a continuation of my previous message.
Are you talking about SMS? Why do you worry about the character limit? Aren't you going to use the same amount of messages regardless of if you break it up or not?
I used to have to pay 35c per message. I can fit 160 characters in a single message, or 150ish if you combined messages. Years later my messages became free and so I used fewer shorthands but that habit stuck.