Men on dating sites: Posting one of the few photos of themselves they have Posting a photo they have where they're actually happy and feeling a sense of accomplishment
I was talking shit about this to a group of friends one day, saying that how the hell do you think that's a good idea and one of them piped up that he had a picture of him with a fish he caught and justified it as "showing them they can provide food". I might as well have a picture of me in the fucking grocery store with a cart full of food with that logic. I asked him to ask some of his matches what they thought about it but I dont think he ever did. Needless to say I don't think that man has actually gotten laid in a decade.
You gotta understand just how few pictures men have of themselves. Most of us aren't randomly taking selfies; a lot of us don't even have pictures of us with our friends.
I don't know about you but when i take pictures with my friends it's because we're doing stupid shit, dares, disguises, and generally more than a few drinks.
Don't know if it's an age thing but the last time my friends and I took a picture together, was over a decade ago. It just... doesn't happen. I guess we're just taking in the moments or none of us really take pictures.
But you're on a dating site, why not make some fresh? Genuine question, but that's usually just what I do. Like I'll get dressed up in my favorite clothes and take a nice picture to show off a bit. Seems like that sort of approach would only help?
Like I can't think of any reason to add a fish pic unless they're just genuinely proud of it, in which case, fish fearing ladies probably shouldn't apply anyways...
Idk, now I think it's both good to have the fish pic AND create new pics, imo... Helps screen out the people you don't actually want and helps showcase your more preened side, if one exists (and if not, that's also good data for a potential mate to have)
I see the point, and this kind of makes sense if the guy is older and not comfortable with digital cameras, but it's really easy to either take a selfie or ask a friend to take a picture suitable for distribution. I feel if one wants to go online to search for a partner, it's worth planning and executing a few pictures.
The point is the effort. Dating takes effort. If you can't even make the effort to ensure you get a nice pic or two of yourself, how much effort are you going to put into a relationship?
There are very easy ways to take pics of yourself without it being a selfie nowadays. Phone tripods with Bluetooth remotes exsist for $25 off Amazon.
"We just don't have pics of ourselves." ...so take some, instead I of just rolling over and saying "oh well."
The last time I made anything like a profile for tinder was when I made one for PoF back in the before times, in the long-long ago, the year 2007. I didn't have fish pictures, but I did have a picture of me riding a unicycle.
It is customary among her people that the man bring a leg of a lingta to the first courtship dinner. Make sure it's fresh, as if you had just killed it. Then use the leg to sweep aside everything on the table and declare in a loud voice, "I have brought you this! From this day, I wish to provide food for you and your House! All I ask is to share your company and do honor to your name!"
It's actually spelt LIngta' but maybe closer to LIngt'a' or to be specific a LIngt'a' Haj'dob mev'obDeSna. Translated to English is roughly 'I am certain that this Lingta leg will feed you'. But Klingons are lazy so it's shortened to LIngta.
quickly jots down notes, “go fishing… catch fish… show to barbie.” got it, now what? I’m recently single after a long marriage, HOW DO I ATRACT WOMEN?11!?!
You have women friends? Have them make your dating profile if you want to date online. Seriously. They'll make you sound awesome while telling the truth. Chances are at least one of them is good at taking pictures.
You effectively can't just talk to women on dating sites. Thanks to how matching works, you have to successfully sell yourself with pictures to get your profile read, and successfully sell yourself with words in the profile before you can actually talk with anyone.
Back before matching was a thing, it wasn't much better. You could talk but you'd usually be ignored because the woman's inbox would be filled with too much crap for her to go through it all.
I know a fair amount of girls from Minnesota and Oregon who would like that because they're into fishing themselves. They grew up fishing with their fathers.
Highly agree. I love fishkeeping, so finding a dude that likes it too would be great... as long as they semi-understand what they're talking about. No tropical fish without heaters, or tanks that aren't properly cycled for example...
For some reason, cishet american men on dating apps love to put a picture of themselves holding up a fish they caught while fishing as one of their dating profile pics.
Nobody really knows why that’s supposed to attract a potential dating partner, but it’s really common.
Nobody really knows why that’s supposed to attract a potential dating partner, but it’s really common
Back when I did online dating I wrote about playing computer games, not because I expected that to be attractive to the average woman (of course it isn't) but because I was hoping to meet one of the rare women who shared my interest.
A friend of mine managed to marry a woman who agreed to have their honeymoon be a week-long canoe trip through the wilderness in Maine, complete with living off of the fish they caught. It can happen!
As someone who does not use dating apps, it seems to me that a lot of men who are not city dwellers get lots of joy out of fishing. It seems rather insulting to demean someone for showing one of their favorite activities to potential mates. To those who would do that, I would ask why not simply move on quietly?
Now that I think of it, those men are dodging bullets like Neo. Smart guys. If I ever decide to put myself out there, I'm putting up pictures of myself at a campground with a fishing rod and bicycle in the background. That should weed out any women who expect four star resorts, expensive restaurants, and expensive toys for their mere presence.
Like oh hey, I have a house and a job and a really cute kid and here's one where I'm wearing a winter coat in 109F weather to show I'm funny
honestly I realize that dating apps are pretty much a scam.
Actually, they're so much of a scam I'm sitting here with my AI assistant and webstorm and thinking about how I'd make a more legitimate dating website and it would just end up making me money by selling useless services to desperate singles too busy to meet other people
We just don't have a lot of photos of ourselves, I'd imagine even less selection if you only count recent photos since that's probably what you would want to put on a dating profile.