Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
Yeah, the dread of seeing a new notification in the inbox turns out to be something pretty chill surprisingly often
UR FACE IS PRETTY CHILL
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
It’s small enough that I can say something mildly controversial without getting dogpiled by a mob from /r/SomeEchoChamber
I wouldn’t know about controversial haha, I mostly comment for fun, but there does seem to be an acceptance of the fact we are all sharing the same house, might as well make nice
i think this is my third commemt, already almost equal to the amount i made on reddit in all those years i was there.
Love to see it! Welcome to the party! Honestly this is the most I’ve really done anything on social media stuff so I totally get it.
I find myself commenting more frequently on Lemmy as well. I attribute it to there being less comments in general so less has already been said. By the time a post shows my reddit feed there's already hundreds of comments and the discussion is already pretty well laid out. At that point I don't really have anything meaningful to add.
dang I had over a thousand comments on Reddit so I have a while to go
Man I have to say I am not a fan of the ol’ burned toast there. Much prefer slightly under-done if anything
Switch off notifications, never know the difference RollSafe.jpg
But then I’d never see your amazing advice! Although, would I have needed the advice in the first place?
You can still check back on conversations that interest you, you just don't have to deal with the rest.. 👍
To be completely honest, on kbin blocking someone doesn't stop the notification coming through when they reply, and switching off notifications was the easiest way around that. This has probably been fixed already, and may be completely different on lemmy, but I actually prefer it this way. The only disadvantage I can think of is potentially missing replies to older conversations (and if I really must know, I can always scroll back my profile and find it, though I've not had that need yet), but I guess that's a price I'm willing to pay to avoid those anxiety inducing little fuckers that are notifications.. 😂
I did this on reddit for comments I knew would be a shitshow, just drop brutal fire, set to no notifications, post. Let the haters spew and I'm just kicking back on the next conversation.
There isn't much I miss about reddit, but that is definitely one of the things I wish we had here..
It makes me sad I don't always get notifications when I get a reply 😢 I want to reply and contribute!
But switching off notifications doesn't stop you from replying or contributing.. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I always want to comment but notifications can be so stressful that on most platforms I usually end up just lurking. Lemmys been pretty decent so far, it reminds a little of early internet messageboards where most people were more into discussing something interesting than trolling or one-uping someone for internet points or ego boosts or whatever weird reasons people are assholes on the internet. It's probably the least toxic platform I've been on since the livejournal days
I've learned to no longer fear comment notifications thanks to Lemmy. It still has some assholes, but people tend to pile on and call them out on their bad behavior. It's nice, I like it here.
Lurkers using third party apps were in many ways worse impacted by the API changes than those actively participating. The high cost of API access is only worth as much value as the service is to you, and if lurking that's going to be lower and less likely to be worthwhile in the few third party apps switching to the subscription model.
I was a lurker on the first-party reddit app for the 99.9% of the time I was on there. The ads had just gotten out of hand with not being able to block an ad to get a different ad, I was so tired of getting “He Gets Us” trash so I switched over to Apollo. A week later they announced the API changes. I work in software dev so it’s just frustrating seeing this happen to all of the people out there trying to support their hard work.
Yep, I used Relay Pro previously but seeing the cost breakdowns the dev posted for the new subscription was disheartening. The dev's portion of the subscription fee is near zero if you use near the limit of you subscription's monthly API requests. So at that point even subscribing isn't really supporting the dev as much as supporting the company that forced these changes upon us. So I chose to not take part.
Lemmy definitely isn't perfect, especially for smaller communities. But it's definitely workable and something I'm happy to contribute to.
I lurked on the reddit app for a year or more before I started contributing. One of the first things I learned about 'internet forums', is that you lurk first, until you get a feel for the community. I began contributing more because the 3rd party app I started using had me more engaged; which meant that reddit gained more content
But Reddit made the API changes for 3rd party apps unsustainable, to push people toward their own ad revenue. They assume that they're too important to fail, and that the loss of users/content was worth the squeeze of those who didn't know how to leave. A standard cost-risk scenario. It's a short-term goal to try and carve out a piece of the centralized internet that the big corps envision. A move toward trying to win at monopoly
The "forum" is a relationship between "user contribution" and the host's 'personal time, money, effort'... a personal cost-risk for anyone that hosts. Is it worth my time? Do I enjoy what I'm hosting?
When the goal becomes so obviously "increase host revenue", without increasing user experience; you create an imbalance.
We all lurk online until we find something we wanna talk about. Reddit was trying to use (is using) their influence to increase profit for themselves, and (the way in which they chose to do so) actively decreasing user experience. The 'host' only gave a shit about themselves and decided that user-created content was a 'benefit' of being there, rather than the reason.
Lurkers are half of the equation. Lurkers often become contributors when they enjoy the community. Contributors bring more lurkers. That's kind of how the balance works
Reddit feels they can do without the lurkers who refuse to use their app, while simultaneously increasing ad revenue. And they'll be fine financially in the same way Facebook is... clinging to the smallest user-base that makes them the most profit, while slowly becoming irrelevant.
Because contributors will move on eventually, and so will the lurkers.
Case-in-point... my comment. I'm a lurker, until I'm not.
Yeah, wtf! Stop replying to me!
I wouldn’t dream of replying to you, that would be a nightmare to do such a thing that would go against the wishes you have of not being replied to at all, again, a thing I would absolutely not do, as to retain your respect!
Thank you very much for not replying. I really do appreciate it.
no screw you guy! And I won't just reply with "no" or "ok' like someone from Reddit would, I'll write a decent sentence which adds to the comment chain instead of repeating another comment which got lots of magical internet points.
Truly though, keep up user interaction and content generation on Lemmy, it's good for the site
Yeah, I'm just having a bit of fun.
Please don't screw me though. I don't think my wife would appreciate it.
I'm gonna reply to you, and you can't stop me!
Oh no!
I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.
Maybe it's just a volume thing and we haven't attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.
I think those are some pretty fair assumptions. I haven’t been involved in any discussions until now really but people have been kind to me so far. I can be a bit of a goof so nice to know I won’t immediately be attacked for it.
We’ll see what the future of Lemmy will be, but for now things are nice!
Maybe it’s just a volume thing
Yes. Once a certain volume and popularity has been reached Eternal September happens and mainstream users flood in carrying alot of opinions, followed by companies who want to advertise to those new users.
How that works in a federated system is going to be interesting. There is no central site or node. Maybe there will be a separate commercial federation network.
Funny how attached people become to numbers in internet.
What's the exchange rate between Lemmy and reddit karma points?
Whatever it is in our electric skull meat gives us the joy of seeing number go up. The value the number has, that’s another story.
Oh goodness, a Lemmy/Reddit currency exchange sounds like some startup NFT/crypto scheme waiting to happen.
But what if I'm scared to reply?
That’s okay! Nobody is ever pressured to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing! Take all the time you need or don’t even worry about it.
You get executed
Even Christmas themed for the holiday season!
ew, people
I usually upvote comments I agree because sometimes I'm empty-headed, cannot think about something to comment at the time.
Lol I still lurk, I have no idea why I don't like to comment
I oftena don't feel like I have anything to add to the conversation that hasn't been said, so I just end up lurking most of the time. I do comment more than I'd usually do to help the platform, though that admittedly isn't much.
No one could have predicted this!
I shouted to the void, expecting nothing, but the unmistakable sound of a FartyShartBlast echoed in reply.
I don't believe you.
That’s alright, as long as you know that I believe in you!
Now if only I could figure out how to get to know people 🤔
Something I’m terrible at as well! I don’t think there’s a DM feature in Lemmy which is what I would say is the way to become more “friends” with someone than following them down comment threads.
Not trying to self-promo but I do have a Twitch channel and discord server of the same name (link in my bio) if you feel like stopping in and chatting more and whatnot! Open to anyone else who wants to be part of that community too!
Edit: realized there is a message feature, but it’s not available for me on the Memmy app for iOS, but appears to be available in the browser version of LemmyWorld!
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What…what do I do now? Am I doing this right?
I love the whole thing to be honest. I am happy to have replies days later. Reddit posts would go "stale" so fast and even if you did comment, you were more than likely to be torn to shreds for existing. It isn't perfect here, but that is because we are people. Getting even half a voice is far better than the anxiety inducing nightmare the Internet tends to be. If I don't want to argue with someone, I just don't respond. If I or someone else end up replying days later, awesome!
I feel a lot more comfortable chiming in once in a while here. The Internet will always be the Internet, but getting even a tiny bit of human connection is amazing. Going from letters, phones, AOL, to now is a miracle. We may be fucked as a species, but sometimes the little things are enough.
Now, go watch Contact. That movie is my absolute favorite movie of all time. Ghost hugs for all!
It’s been really great here! I’m just getting started trying to be more active but this post alone has just been amazing (although it may be an outlier). This is the most activity I’ve gotten from any online thing I’ve done, so it’s pretty huge to me!
Everyone here seems to have the right frame of mind for why we’re here and what we left and what to expect here. It’s just a matter of encouraging each other to continue to be active when we can and support each other and the platform as a whole!
This is my delayed response, really appreciate your thoughtful reply!
Also will add contact to my list of stuff to watch (isn’t there such a finite time to experience all the media out there??).
Remember that one time when we were talking about that, but then we found out where the cheese was and there was less talking and more cheese eating?
Cheese you say?? What are we doing here, leggo!
I feel seen
And seen you are! Welcome 🙂
We'll figure it out together. If we don't comment and post content, I fear that we'll never really sustain the kind of success we hope to replicate from the other place.
Sorry for the late response! Totally agree, I only lurked on the other place but there was always an endless steam of stuff to lurk through since there were so many people. With this community I’d feel more responsible to maintain the consistency by at least being active within posts people are creating so I’ve been trying to do that more. It’s a group effort and totally think we can do it if we keep this up!
Anonymous still isn't as fun as talking to people you know tbh
Like Migos said in "Stir Fry" "Lurkin', they jacking, keep lurkin', they lurking."
I bet they don't
I bet they do
