Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
It's basic fear response conditioning, I doubt it ever fully goes away because being cautious of the unknown is a very successful survival trait.
Basically every time you open that inbox you'd have to lie to yourself into believing that a negative response is an impossibility. Good luck, if you figure it out let me know.
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
I wouldn’t know about controversial haha, I mostly comment for fun, but there does seem to be an acceptance of the fact we are all sharing the same house, might as well make nice