I have a fakie front, chipped it off when I was a teen. Veneers never lasted (3 years max), but the last dentist went industrial and drilled poles into the stump and composite over the top, it's lasted almost a decade so far
A woman on the train opposite me is having an absolute blast smiling and nodding her head along to her music. It is so joyous to see. Even better that she’s wearing headphones and I just have to imagine the music!
Heh true.. there were times where you'd think 'oh.. little super cold dip would absolutely complement the heat and humidity', but can't really have that both ways :(
It was amazing. Probably the most diverse, accepting and friendly bunch of people I've ever met anywhere tbh. Has completely altered my previously incorrect guess on what it'd be.
Someone from leadership let it slip that there will be no payrises this year since the business is struggling. That’s fine… except I’m still being paid the same wage despite having a huge increase in responsibilities. Yeah, nah to that. This is what I get for being nice.
And that same wage is buying you a lot less than it did last year. They can't be surprised if people end up leaving from that decision. Maybe they're counting on it, if the business is struggling...
Yeah, I reckon so. I missed a chat with a recruiter a last week but have sent a follow up email in case there's still a chance. Even just to get an idea of what I'm worth.
Damn, all the going ons have been really affecting me recently. The kid getting stabbed on Monday night was the straw that broke the camels back. Of course people have been stabbed since the invention of stabbing instruments, and it happens in every suburb, city, country, and in every decade, year, and (seemingly) month, but it's pretty shit that it all seems to be happening right around my area
This one, and the one that happened in sunshine a month ago are particularly affecting me because on top of them happening in my area, they're both my age too. I'm probably sounding kind of entitled/selfish but it's just a hard nut to swallow that they were my age doing the same thing I do several times a week, then someone decided to just.. end them... Forever gone, all that potential just lost for good
I mean, it's not entitled or selfish in my opinion. I would call it more... empathy? Struggling because violence in your area has caused deaths? That's a totally normal reaction. I remember a few years ago working in parkville I was really, really scared to go out alone after dark, because 3 separate women were murdered and assaulted in the parks around where I lived and worked.
Sometimes unpredictable people are scary. And the knowing that there are unpredictable and scary people around is stressful, so it's not surprising that you are struggling.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this? I hate to think of you dealing with this by yourself.
As someone else suggested, reach out to some youth support service. Trauma is a no joke. you don't have to be harmed or witness something first hand and it's better if you treat it now. I got to speak to someone last year when I witnessed something traumatic and it really helped sort me out.
There used to be fights among teens and gangs of teens but it's only now I'm seeing stabbings and murders between teens . This is a new thing.
hugs, I know they are your age and your locals but these kids are fighting people they know, it's not random violence so this is what you can focus on. Take care and choose your friends wisely.
No I feel the same way whenever I heard about stories of kids dying around my age. It's not selfish at all. But yeah, talking to someone even for a month can help.
Ever have one of those mornings that just seems so perfect and well-rested and you feel at peace with yourself ... only to have it thoroughly sullied by the realisation that you have to throw your natural pace out of the window to fit the demands of paid work?
I am going to do the sums this weekend on how I can move to that 4 day week asap while not taking too much of a financial hit. I always told myself I'd do it as soon as I got PR, but fuck if expenses haven't ballooned despite my best efforts.
I realised I was a bit fucked when I got to last Thursday and nearly thought it was pay week because the amount I had in my transaction account was what I normally have just before I get paid. That realisation I still had a week to go was not great. Moving is going to be too expensive at this stage too
Reckon a lot of us will be filling our tax return asap this year.
I could manage financially on a four day week now, but want to get more in my Super first because I'd also like to be able to stop working all together at some point. Currently hoarding leave and dreaming of a better future.
I'm torn between "sweet, brushing up my vocab" and rage screeching at it asking questions like "Which word means "eat"" and the answer being a generic conjugation of mangiare that literally only applies to a specific person, object or circumstance, it's NOT LIKE ENGLISH, DAMMIT.
I've done the unthinkable. I'm cooking sweet potato and potato NOT in the microwave 😱
Cooked off some red onion, garlic, cumin, chilli flakes & powder & sauce, cayenne pepper, pepper, paprika, ginger, salt and pepper. Added chicken stock, crushed tomatoes, sweet potato and potato. Results pending. Will add beans
That actually looks really hearty and delicious though. Do you usually give sweet potato and potato the same cooking time in liquid? (Bearing in mind it depends very much on which varieties are used...)
I have investigited the incident. 🚨 👮♂️ Cooking potatoes without a microwave does look very suspicious, however I am unable to make an arrest at this time due to the lack of a handcuff emoji.
Sitting in my Kmart oodie, drinking negroni gin, watching old episodes of the Crystal Maze and ruminating on what my life has become...this is a whole mood.
My kid's sick and she's hassling me about the use of the tv. I said yes under the condition that it's not the Gilmore Girls otherwise I'll blow my brains out.
I call it "sick privileges," in that rules are bent for the unwell. Spend the whole day in PJs, devices allowed in bed, your choice for dinner etc. Sucks to be sick on the holidays, poor thing. I hear you on the Gilmore girls though!
During my haircut yesterday, (which turned out fabulous btw) I was informed that there is a massive shortage of qualified hairstylists.
The lovely lady doing my hair was the only one there and has bookings until Feb of next year.
astonishing.
Fuck yea drinking duty free in the shower it's like a mini hotel but at home and you have to clean it yourself but you'll get around maybe the next day maybe and there's no privacy button.
I would love to buy them, but I think I'm going to just listen to her play list on Spotify instead for the 1000th time. Going to her concert would be incredible.... but I would surrounded by so many people.
Yeah I hear you. On the night of the concert just buy some drinks, put on what you would’ve worn and just dance to her music (or curate your own for the duration of her concert and maybe put on a YouTube concert on mute as a visual) and just sing and dance your heart out
Real talk.
I think y'all need to post more of your meals. If it's just me posting potato inspired content then people might get the idea that potatoes are actually really fucking amazing, which might increase their price, which I do not want.
Any food content is welcome
You're in luck because I cooked a potato dish tonight. Sorry no picture because it looked like a hot mess. It had par-boiled potatoes cubed, fried bacon, rice, cumin, paprika, broccoli, peas, onion tossed around in a large pot with oil. Served up with a fried egg on top. I named it the no chicken dance because it had a little bit of this and a little bit of that. Whack, whack, whack it in a pot.
I'm sorry, my defrosted Thai curry has sweet potato in it. The purple skinned kind, no less. Those silly orange ones could go up in price, but I want purple skinned ones (and even more so the white skinned purple fleshed ones) to remain affordable.
Morning beautiful people! Hi ho, hi ho... Got 80kg of spuds to hand peel today because I've taken the day off tomorrow, so I've gotta do extra so they don't run out. 🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔
Dissapointing. RustyDog had a similar issue when he had his teeth done, he went through the whole fasting bit and was at the vet waiting when it was called off and he had to come home again. At least you weren't forced to skip breakfast unnecessarily.
Well, we got through the first night of the new sleep plan for baby. He was NOT happy with the new arrangements. But this was to be expected. Just have to keep going.
Also partner is home on holidays at the moment and the division of responsibilities has been a lot better. I actually got time to write yesterday! I wrote a lot! My brain is coming back online!
I’m in such a better mood and feel less depressed just thanks to having that little bit of time to make serious progress on a project. It’s scary how easy it is to lose yourself simply because there is no time and/or energy to BE yourself…
Would not surprise me. Early 1900s, the orcas of Twofold Bay in NSW were notorious for herding whales into the path of the whaling boats so that the whalers could kill them and give the orcas the tongues as a reward. The whalers got the bits of the whale they wanted and the orcas got an easy meal. The orcas only did this for the whaling boats that had the underside painted in stripes apparently. There are whole books about this.
I don't eat breakfast or have coffee most mornings. If I got less than 5 hours of sleep I might pick up an iced coffee, or just make a hot coffee at home if I don't have much money. Breakfast I only eat if I'm unsure I'll be able to eat lunch
I used to get a coffee and a chocolate muffin or a croissant or something when I got into the office. Pretty certain that's what's destroyed my gut health tbh.
Ok a friend of mine asked me a question and tbh I’m wondering if perhaps I’m saying it wrong, as I’m not Aussie born (but have lived here a long, long time)
How do you say Melbourne and can you spell it out phonetically for me please
The Mel part is like Mao as in chairman Mao. The Bourne part is more like Ben but as if a Kiwi says it so it's more like b'n. Now you put them together Maob'n = Melbourne. Completely exceptable to throw an l in the middle.
Back home after a half day at work. Miserable weather out there. I did stop on the way home to turn the plastic promise notes Marketplace buyers insist on paying with into proper digital money. Not keen to go out again, but Mr Woof obviously wants to walk, the weirdo.
so fucked. minor rant: i told commbank ages ago to notify of my telstra bills, as i thought this would mean fewer emails. now i get an email from telstra with the bill, which i pay, then multiple notifications from commbank about the bill including 'you have an upcoming bill from TELSTA CORP' (after i've already paid it) and 'urgent' reminders so i have to manually tick the bill off as paid
Lol seriously I'd ask them for fewer reminders please if I could. I guess they want to cover their butts if someone turns around and say they never got a reminder about their late bill. Wonder if they do reminders for credit card though hah....
I’m having all sorts of trouble with the internet at home today, and have been messing around with cables and modems and switch boxes et al to try & work out what’s wrong. Still can’t fix it and would throw the internet out the window, except that I’m on the ground floor. Hrmph.
Would recommend having a chat with her GP if possible and maybe getting an assessment of her current status and a full review of her regular medication if any.
This is bearing in mind that some chronic medication causes outward signs that can look like dementia. Lots of medications are fine by themselves, but don't combine well. A review every few years is a really really good idea. Toxicity from competing medications is a real thing and a huge problem for older people, particularly those who trust their doctor a bit more than they maybe should. Include any herbal supplements or vitamins in that list of medications. Some of these don't play nicely with each other either.
Travel money update: from my research the 28 Degrees Latitude credit card is the best for credit and UBank seems to be the winner for best debit card.
Both are free to sign up for and it's always good to have multiple payment options overseas in case one fails you. Both have Google Pay/Apple Pay contactless payment options.
Both charge $0 fees for foreign exchange and the UBank card has $0 fees for ATM withdrawals overseas (although local ATM operators may charge their own fee).
28 Degrees uses the Mastercard Exchange Rate and UBank uses the Visa Exchange Rate with no extra fees on top.
UBank has a $2000 (AUD) daily withdrawal limit, which is up from the $1000 limit I've seen on competitors, and no monthly withdrawal limit like some cards do (Wise has a $7000 monthly limit).
So my plan is to use the credit card to pay for things like hotels, meals etc and then use the debit card for ATM withdrawals and as a backup other payments. This means I don't need to keep too much cash sitting on the debit card balance.
I've done a bunch of research and read lots of terms and conditions so hopefully this info can help someone avoid nasty fees and gotchas. The one thing to note is that the exchange rate is calculated when the payment is cleared each time you spend, so if you want to lock in an exchange rate you need to use a travel card which 'loads' foreign currency rather than a debit/credit card.
It's the day before pay day. I shall have to abstain. I do have some very good leftover curry defrosting in the fridge from last evening, at least. And the finale of mad men s4.
Watching a new movie everyday has been so good, it's improving my mental stamina so much. 😊
Back story, when I had cptsd I could barely keep up with anything more than a music video. Any mental energy I had , and it wasn't much, I used to read related medical literature and do psych therapy.
Covid did not help. That was a pretty frightening and tiring experience, it lasted years and was relentless.
I'm lucky that my cptsd isn't bad, but I still get flashbacks and stuff. And whenever I see someone who looks like my abuser I seize up (it's not great when there's a famous nerdy director who he looks like and mirrored his whole persona off of...) But it's good that you can now consume media in a safe environment.
Roma, a Mexican movie shot in 1950s-60s Realism style . I'm not sure what is was about but I saw that kindness transcended race and class but not sex. That we are stronger for helping each other. That to make a better world we need unity and courage.
I need some more lines to my Daddy Distraction song.
Currently it goes:
"Daddy Distraction,
Dad-dy Dis-Trac-Tion,
Dis-tract-ing (First name)!"
And its a huge hit, I think due to the alliteration. But since there's only 3 lines I have to keep increasing pitch each go through, and I think the dogs are plotting against me as a result.
Have done my compulsory nature staring, now I can return to the nest for some quiet time. Side note, saw a camper all the way from Harvey Bay (QLD), why would you drive down for some coastal camping in the middle of winter...
Wife just said the most insensitive hurtful thing. She’s tired, so I asked her if she was serious. She doubled down. I gave her an out, and a chance to apologise assuming she didn’t understand how upset I was. She mocked me, said she was sorry for “hurting my feeeeeeellllliiiiings”. Jesus fucking Christ who is this woman?!
Dumb question: All my mates moisturize. I don't often cause.... I dunno Im an idiot. Noticed my forehead was a bit dry so I chucked some on and my skin immediately feels 100 times better. Does this mean I have really dry skin? Or does it just it do that to your skin regularly anyway?
In my experience, moisturizer helps straight away. My skin isn't generally dry, except in the winter months. I have skincare regimen (created for me by my daughter) that includes a serum and a cream. Massive improvement and way less flakiness in the cold months.
Moisturiser is great for your skin. It doesn't mean you have really dry skin, it's probably just partly winter weather. In winter the air is colder and drier, and that does dry your skin out a bit more. Keep a bit of facial moisturiser around and put a little on after you've had a shower.
Damn this mood dip. I've been sailing for days. Drinking coffee to wake up a bit and get the oomph to be excited when my sponsor calls. Anonymous it may be so I can only say I'm very happy with the person who reached out. Ha, mood lifted and I still hadn't posted this. The oestrogen patches seem to get a little less effective on the 7th day. Mood lift though was due to calls from my sponsor and another person I've met in the program. It's a fair amount of work involved in doing it correctly so I'm glad I'm still on leave for a while. It was a completely spiritual thing meeting my sponsor. I'm starting to sound like people I was deeply skeptical of until now. Serves me right for trying to out think believers in a higher power.
I'm becoming a lot more empathic and relying on my intuition more as it's increasing in strength as well. HRT isn't just life saving, it's life changing and enhancing in ways I always desired in my dreams of being female. Lets just say when I see someone in obvious emotional distress it's fucking heartbreaking and I'm left exhausted afterward. But to feel like that I wouldn't change for the world and to remember it brings tears to my eyes again.
Cats got me up at 4am today. Little kitten sleeps beside me and must notice immediately when I wake up. He's such a little dynamo and really talkative so there's no choice but to get up and play with the little guy.
My volunteer work is so heartwarming at times. There's confidentiality involved so I can't speak of what help I could give, but it was pretty nice to have the privelege of being able to.
So apparently a realestate agent has saved the Paky pub. Thank god. There are so few GOOD drinking places out here its criminal. The only good options out this way are Urban Reserve and the tap house in Berwick, and then the Drake in Paky.
if your wife tried a jetstar meat pie and loved it then you absolutely cant go wrong from there. imagine if she tried a good one!!!! But seriously, if she liked that, anything will do.
Gist is went to indo with parents and mum (vision impaired, mobility issues, unfit but thin) behaved very differently to what I'm used to after a few big days. We spend a lot of time together and this was different.
I've had this book titled "Queer: A Graphic History" on my bookshelf since 2020 and finally got around to reading it. And don't you hate it when you consume a piece of media (whether it's a book, movie, tv show, video game) and what it says on the tin is something completely different? And not in a "oh that was surprisingly different, but I liked it!" way more in a "you know you don't have to force yourself to finish it... right?".
When I read "Queer: A Graphic History" I think, oh it's about the history of LGBTQIA+ stuff. So activism, people, the history itself. Nope... it's about queer theory (basically looking at things through a queer lens, whether it's entertainment, politics, philosophy, general life, etc). And I don't mind queer theory, I did a bit of it at uni, I did an assignment using queer theory. I love queer theory (as a queer). But it just felt so dry and like I was so annoyed that this book that I've been excited to read, is just not at all what I thought it was.
Oh well... next on the list is Heartstopper vol 1 and 2.
So I read up on wiki policy. It would seem meaning is an opinion and can't be sourced.
But what about the original author, is what they say just an opinion? The originator of a work doesn't have a source which they can cite, but critics/analysts and readers of critics etc can cite criticism etc.
To think of all the shitty made up opinions in books written by crap academics I've read but they are considered a source and the original artist isn't. That is so fucked up.
Down to the last episode of Mad Men s4. Oh my God Don you total fool I can't believe this Megan storyline. I have been screaming internally for the last 20 minutes. Thank god for Peggy channelling my feelings.