As it's Pride month (love all my gay/queer/trans homies and homettes) I'd like to share that we have had three separate friends of our kids, come out to us before telling their parents.
My wife responds with a motherly hug and I put the kettle on.
I've told all the kids that if they need adult backup when (if) they tell their parents, I'll happily accompany them and offer sanctuary, just in case.
I may not be their parent, but I'll pretend to be one if it makes them feel safe.
I don't share this a lot in real-life to keep our space safe for the kids, but felt like saying it here tonight.
Forgot to say hello to everyonehere, I finally made it here today.
I was wondering where everyone from the DT went when it came back and I stumbled across a stray comment after Epicpillow said someone was impersonating them here.
I have a little story to tell. I'd never been interstate so for our first trip together we booked a flight to Tassie and booked a nice cabin out the back of the pub with a "continental breakfast" included. How good is that we thought. I wonder what a continental breakfast involves. Bacon, eggs maybe some sausages and mushrooms thrown in if we are lucky. Now we couldn't google this because internet wasn't really a thing back then. It was so long ago that we flew there on Ansett.
Anyway we arrived at the pub to book in and thought we'll stay for a meal. Half way through, old mate calls us over and says "Here, I may as well give this to you now so I don't wake you up in the morning" and he hands us a freezer bag with 4 slices of white bread and a small carton of long life milk. Still nothing jerried.
We get to the cabin and we do what any respectable couple does. He checks the TV for channels. I raid the fridge. And there I discovered the open jar of jam, Vegemite and margarine. "Um Dear, I don't think the continental breakfast is what we think it is" "What do you mean?"" Well there's condiments in the fridge. I think it just means toast".
Everytime we here those words "continental breakfast" we laugh.
Many years ago I went to Tasmania for my honeymoon. One night we went to the local fish and chip shop, and attempted to order grilled fish. We were told (in the most toneless and expressionless way possible) "we only have fried." So we changed to fried fish. Tried to order a steamed dim sim, were told "we only have fried." Eventually we managed to work out an acceptable order containing only fried food, including a minimum serve of chips. Which turned out to be a small bucket full. We pretty much gave up at that point, ate our minute serve of chips, and "we only have fried" became an oft-repeated comment whenever we ordered food.
😂. I knew a fish & chip shop ran by an old guy. He never changed the oil and when people came in and ordered say a hamburger he'd point to the sign and say "NO. JUST. FISH. AND. CHIPS". Locals knew to stay away. It was basically a front so he can listen to the races on the wireless out the back away from his wife.
A fitness influencer (or wannabe one) was recording an exercise set at the gym. The gym has very strict policies about recording equipment (forbidden without a permit). Several people complained, including a trainer who was running a class behind this person. Staff member came over, grabbed the phone, turned it off and essentially said "Let's go" and started walking away.
Person didn't even have a membership and were on day 3 of a free trial too.
After pushing through to finish out the work day (bossy boss & my last day before a week off), I found and booked in with the Richmond Priority Primary Care Centre, to have my increasingly painful ear looked at. Now have confirmation of an infected ear.
That clinic takes in urgent cases that can be handled without going to emergency, and was such a great alternative given all the standard GPs seemed to have closed for the weekend. They were super easy to book in with via HotDoc. Highly recommend.
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Also, my (newish) BF is being really sweet and is offering to postpone our plans for tomorrow so he can just make me dinner and take care of me 🥹
Sounds good! I'd like to try a "pizza" type of filling next time, but I'm worried it won't cook. If I had a jaffle/toasty maker type thing I'd put it in there, but I've only got my gas stove griller.
I don't know how some find it hard to sign up here. I just googled aussie zone, followed the prompts to login (I think Chrome keeps my deets) and I'm in and I'm technically challenged. Like I only learnt how to screen shot last night.
Also I think we do need to come up with a new name like Tinybreak suggested. Something like The Melbourne Literary and Microwave Potato Society.
Oh no shade. I was just curious as to what was going wrong for many because I know it's a little glitchy but it was workable for me. I'm thinking there is probably other ways to get in to here that I am oblivious to. I hope you're all good now.
you know what is tricky though, successfully searching for other fediverse communities. like on beehaw & kbin. seems to work somethimes, then not work others. i followed guides to it so i've got the syntax down. it just doesn't work sometimes.
On the menu for tonight is takeaway pizza, a bottle of red and a TV show which requires no thinking. I'm mentally spent, today was a really tough day. Recharge required.
Isn't it a horrid feeling! I feed our cats in the morning when I wake up, but noticed if I sleep in on the weekend they help themselves to their kibble (which they're very good at rationing). If I feed them later in the morning they still eat it but then likely throw it up, so I usually feed them in the afternoon if I have slept in.
I forgot for the first time ever the other week, and we've had them for nine years. They didn't complain but it wasn't until the next morning when I got their food out that I realised. I felt so fucking terrible.
Sometimes he does his little dance so I feed him (he gets dry stuff in the morning) takes a nibble then goes back to bed. If it's still there in the afternoon he scoffs it down so that he still gets his wet stuff.
Ahh Friday. Today my partner comes over and I'm so excited to see them. I haven't seen them for like three weeks! (Usually we see each other each weekend but they had work all weekend both times) I can't wait till we can live together because ugh.
I gotta say, one of my favourite things about these DT's, is when we're talking about family members, pets, etc. we use our username along with anything identifying the relationship. I'm really enjoying it.
Sounds like a great day to start the weekend. I did the gym thing this morning, but thinking of hitting the sauna after work just to shvitz in the weekend.
Oh yeah we're all about talking shit here. And good shit too.
Love me some good shit talk. I'm trying to be good and be in the gym more, but between work, friendships and new relationship, where's the time/desire to adult?!
Could be the way your tastebuds are tuned - it's the reason why some beer can taste differently depending on the pub even though it's the same brand. Beers is often stored at slightly different temperatures, and even 0.1 of a degree can make a big difference to the way our tongues interpret taste.
beer also tastes different according the shape of the glass it's served in, it's the little bubbles, different shape glasses cause different amounts of bubbles to form, when CO2 bubbles come out of a liquid the acidity of the beer is decreased, more bubbles, sweeter beer
I feel the same. Also a very cold drink is nicer than just a cold one. Crisper. I suppose the extra hot element adds a kind of sharpness too now that I think about it.
Just got cc’ed on an email from our corporate overlords and in the thread is one of them saying, basically, I’m not doing my job. They trash talked me to a customer. Would you complain? I’m thinking I’m gonna reach out to his manager. I’ve recently been told we all have to be buddies and respectful and this just rubs me up the wrong way.
Very unprofessional. If they have an issue with your work, they should go through the proper channels.
You've got every right to be miffed. Any adult with half a brain would know, that in an professional setting, you only ever write what you don't mind being published. Very little self awareness from this individual.
Nah, that shit don't float - I would go to HR. What they've done is go about things in the worst kinds of way. Going to HR will at least start a more formal approach should more shit like this go down later on.
I had the same issue coming from the lemmy.world instance. Hence my new account on aussie.zone
Smaller instances seem to be having less problems as overall users increase.
Something has happened on the web client for this where top level comments/replies in a post (like in here) are treated like 2nd level replies with the red lines to the left. Makes it difficult to spot where a comment thread starts and looks like they're part of the same comment thread. Not a fan.
screenshot shows the red lines to the left of top level comments in this post
I’ve realised a random thing about myself: I hate when people make “observations” about me and tell me. People do it a lot about my style. I guess I like to look nice, but have a fairly simple style and a clear colour palette because I don’t like to buy lots of clothes, so people often say things like, “You really like to wear X colours don’t you?”
It’s the kind of comment that isn’t a compliment so maybe I’m just defensive but it feels like a judgement or I’m being asked to explain myself and it sets me on edge. I don’t know how to respond either.
They are probably just trying to bond and show they’ve noticed but my whole life I’ve attracted unwanted attention and commentary on my appearance so it’s annoying to me. Do other people have their appearance and clothes commented on a lot? Is that just something people do? It never occurs to me to say such a thing to someone else unless I’m giving a compliment or being like, “Ooh is that a new jacket?”
I think a lot of it depends on the delivery. Those sorts of comments can come across as judgemental and/or an attempt to put you into a box (which has high potential to then lead to comments if you ever do anything outside what they have decided is "your" style).
Sometimes it can also be hard to tell what is intended, until you have a pattern of similar comment from the same person.
Exactly - now that I’ve thought about it I do feel there’s a difference. Ie. I have friends who will make a comment and it doesn’t bother me as I know they’re not trying to categorise me.
But there’s a way some people go about it that just feels off to me. Like the much older man who was my tutor who decided to take on this weird paternal attitude toward me. His commentary on my clothes in front of everyone was not wanted lol.
I suppose for me it’s that mine is a question (and I’d probably tack on a compliment such as “I like it!”) whereas people just tend to make statements and I’m just like “… yes” haha. I think it’s just my autism showing on this issue LOL 🙈
I used to work in a design oriented industry and yes it was very common to comment on / receive comments on the appearance (clothing, hair, glasses, shoes etc). My last job was full of engineers and a lot of male, and nobody seems to care what you look like. My current job has a lot of female in the office and they do tend to notice more and do make comments on what each other’s wearing.
I usually just say thanks and compliment on something they wear/ have and then move on. It’s almost like “morning, how are you?” Type of small talk.
That makes a lot of sense! I don’t mind commentary and discussion on clothes I guess, it’s just the way some people say it. Sometimes it feels more judgemental and I’m sensitive to it. But a favourite tactic of my bullies at high school was to “compliment” or take a tone like they were “innocently commenting on” something about what I was wearing or how I looked but they meant it as an insult 🙄 I think I just have an over sensitive anxiety response to such things now. I’ll try to get more used to it!!
Hmm, I don’t know. I pretty much wear the Melbourne uniform. Although the nice upside has been when friends/acquaintances point out something they’ve seen that they associate with my style. It’s nice sometimes, especially if I feel I’ve been really lazy and haven’t made much effort lately.
But I totally hear you. Unwanted comments are not fun.
Yeah, since socially transitioning people comment on my appearance a lot more. It's one of joys I'm finding of living female but for me it's pretty new and I'm still clunky at putting together outfits. I don't have a big wardrobe and I don't want one so I'm often in the same clothes. I also tend toward the same colours. I understand why you feel it's a bit of backhanded "compliment". Like they're thinking, they always wear the same clothes...
I'm guessing your palette isn't the usual black and beige?
Yes that’s a bit how it feels! Years ago I basically only wore black and white as I was very very poor and just stuck to those as it’s easier to make outfits. But when people would comment on it it’s like, no I’m not making a fashion statement I just have no money 😂
Now I incorporate richer colours which I suppose you don’t see as often.
That was my first thought when I read it as well! I spent way to long trying to figure out how a food delivery business could become community based before I worked it out.
Woke up and had the opportunity to chair another meeting which was nice. This AA group have become my newest family. They are teaching me things I'd never thought of and making me be incredibly honest with myself. If anyone's been in aa you'll know what I'm talking about.
Going to the wonderful cafe around the corner for breakfast then get some groceries and I'll come home and make a vege stew. Got a bit extra work to do as well but looks like a lazy-ish friday. Maybe I'll do some music and start looking at all the work leads I got yesterday. Really need to start taking time to do some exercise for it's own sake as well.
Enjoy today, its a bit longer then yesterday!!! Weather looks grim, but we don't have to be grim in outlook.
I is going out but I'm not allowed to carry the conversation because apparently it didn't go so well last night but I don't remember that so it didn't happen.
couple days ago, although I've been lurking here and there. Mostly watching the shitshow unfold, but the way the transphobia has ratched up with impunity on reddit is sealing the coffin for me. Slowly extracting my saves / watched threads (mostly on reno stuff) and getting ready to nuke the history.
Sodding Flybuys.
I was doing the spend $50 for 4 weeks promo at Coles except I did week 3 online and they omitted an item which took it under the total. I phoned Flybuys and was told by the CS rep that she'd done an override and all I had to do was phone them when the points for week 4 came in.
So of course when I phone I get clueless CS rep who couldn't find my details, my week 3 points or any details of the previous interaction and "The points weren't added because it was an online transaction" and "I'll have to send in the receipt." Which I just did and got the generic 'we will endeavour to answer your query within 5 business days'. Sure, Jan.
Yeah as soon as I post it I realised I had forgotten and adjusted 🤣 thanks for keeping your eyes peeled. It was a week since last I hosted a post, took me a few seconds to figure how to edit my own post 😅
Gross that collingwood uber r*pist finally got sentenced, only 7 years tho sigh. Rereading the story makes me want to vomit. Apparently ppl online were making fun of the victim which also makes me want to vomit
rank all the crimes and then give relative sentences. In the rankings include torture, sexual torture, kidnapping, rape of children, hijacking a plane, slavery, terrorism.
Years ago rape used to be a capital crime, ie, people were sentenced to death for rape. When that sentence for rape was reduced to imprisonment the murder rate went down. When everything has a severe sentence there is nothing to stop criminals from committing the worst crimes.
We (as a society) still assume the best in people. And the law just wasn’t built to take into account irredeemable people. We really need to be more old school French about things.
She was only 19, he trapped her in the car assaulted her then rped her when she blacked out then dumped her on the road. How does someone get over that? My friend has a daughter now and hes basically worried 24/7, i dont blame him
I was checking my email and after logging out it takes me to yahoo news and I read a news article about a French man drugging his wife’s food and allowing 50+ men to come over and rape her from 2011-2020, he filmed it. They were married for over 50 years. Wtf why would you even do this. She had no idea and thought her husband was a nice caring person and she since divorced him and the 51 men have been arrested and charged. What the hell… seriously what in the hell sigh sometimes I really hate people (and yes I know not all people are like that)
Plants in general. The subject is science of gardening, and this bit is all about the classification of plants and how to identify them. There are about 14 billion different terms for just the shape of leaves!
Got a refund on my lunch delivery because it was crazy late, which I'm glad about because I tried a pumpkin spice latte and I'm happy to not be paying money for it. I'm going full Melbourne coffee snob on this one.. the Americans just don't get coffee.
They keep pots of it laying around. They wouldn’t know a good espresso is it put them in the arse. I suspect that’s another thing Australia has immigrant to thank. Otherwise we’d all be drinking bogan dust.
Does anyone else get quite easily influenced when seeing food and wanting it. Even if you’re not hungry? I really need to stop looking at food on Instagram 😅 I have new food cravings almost every night. So easy to look at food and go down a rabbit hole on Instagram. Tonight I have a hankering for Xiaolong bao (dumpling soup)
hunting a gaming mat and dear god it's like living in the goddamn 90's again. Ooo I like this one. I hate amazon. One source found so far: Ebay. $100 pre-owned + $100 shipping -_-
calligraphy practice drama. I'm using some sumi ink and it's thinner than calligraphy ink and is bleeding a little. Doesn't help it's poor quality paper. Maybe I should ignore it and just do the practice, eh.
It's been a long time since I've had a cup of tea and a biscuit on a Friday night. What should I have a tic toc, chewy caramel Tim Tam or raspberry shortcake biscuit?
Nothing shits me more than my iPhone playing up. It’s not even a big deal, it’s just not playing a song and struggling to load a couple of websites, but man it is annoying cause it’s usually so flawless.
When I was on android there was always weird little problem, but you just kind of dismissed it cause hey it’s android. But an iPhone for some reason I hold to a higher standard.