yeah, people always come at me with "don't blame generations, it is a distraction meant to divide us and besides there are plenty of older people who got screwed too"....
....and yes, this is vitally important to recognize, especially as a leftist that at least claims to be focused on building solidarity and refocusing the conversation on wealth inequality......
...however damn, if you meet wealthy baby-boomers or even "temporarily embarassed" wealthy baby-boomers who aren't even rich just made it more than their peers... it makes it DAMN HARD not to hate baby-boomers sometimes.
This isn't a generational thing, this isn't even new, but the shear AMOUNT of narcissistic completely ideologically lobotomized wealthy baby-boomers there are actively strangling their kids futures in the US is fucking disgusting and it makes it hard not to hate the whole fucking generation.
I don't, there are plenty of good people in the baby-boomer generation, but baby-boomers dont make it easy not to hate their fucking guts sometimes like holy shit.
I think one thing we're all going to have to remember, is that living in unprecedented times means we're going to have to start holding ourselves to unprecedented standards. We should all be very angry and demanding better as a society, but it's important to give ourselves grace as individuals, remember it's up to us to try and avoid the things that make us unhappy as much as we can, and be proud of ourselves when we do manage to find glimmers of happiness while living in a dystopian society.
I say that to remind myself as much as to give advice to anyone else. I remember dreading 30 as it approached, and feeling like I was nowhere near where I was supposed to be. It felt like I had done everything I was supposed to do, but just never saw the payout for doing it. I had gotten a college degree, then a graduate degree. This allowed me to get a 9-5 job that I dreaded going to everyday. I was under a mountain of college loan debt. I barely made enough to cover my rent, let alone ever consider buying a house. I felt like I was going nowhere fast, and when I looked at social media, it felt like I was way behind all of my peers.
That was also around the time I decided that if I couldn't obtain the material things that were supposed to make me feel happy and successful, I would focus on maximizing the activities and relationships that made me happy while slowly (and sometimes painfully) cutting out the things that only made me more miserable.
Flashforward a decade as I begin to approach 40, and I wish I could tell you that the material things eventually all worked themselves out, but pretty sure you already know they didn't.
Financially I'm in basically the same situation I was then, except now I have a child to take care of, so obviously that means less money. Even with cost of living and merit based raises over the years, with inflation and an even worse housing market, it just never seemed to work out to making much of a difference. I'm still buried under the mountain of student debt and barely make rent each month. I also found out this past week that I'm losing my job soon, and as a federally funded researcher, the prospects of me finding one to replace it aren't great to say the least.
However, even though the stakes are more dire than ever, and hard times are only forecast to get harder, I don't feel quite as pessimistic as I did when I was approaching 30. I actually feel a bit of comradery with the majority of Americans, because I think most of us are in a pretty similar boat. As far as my personal relationships and family, I'm happier than I've ever been.
Maybe it's just a part of mellowing out with age, but I feel it's also in part due to being very happy with my personal relationships, and the people that are in my life now vs a decade ago. I've gotten involved in community work in my free time, and as of 2025 I feel a drive to embrace that kind of work more than ever. In a lot of ways starting from scratch at almost 40 is scary, but in some ways it's actually somewhat of a relief. The last of a mirage that was keeping me in my stable career has been destroyed, and it would feel a bit more delusional for me to jump ship to a similar job knowing it will eventually just meet the same fate.
Again, I want to stress I don't say this as a way to get people to be docile and just accept what's happening, but to channel your anger and frustration into something that gives you a sense of accomplishment. If anyone in your life is making you think that being unhappy with the current situation is strictly a you problem, and not a reflection of reality, that's a good sign you should probably lessen your ties to them for now. If they want to do some self reflection and try to come back later, that's always an option.
Finding others in your community that feel the same way, and working together locally to keep people informed and prepared for policy changes before they happen, is one of the easiest ways you can improve your immediate surroundings and feel some power in a situation where we're all pretty powerless.
Most of the senators and representatives we've elected to look out for our interests are failing hard. It's important to keep in mind that everything happening at a federal level is going to start happening at state levels. In many red states it has already begun. DOGE inspired taskforces are popping up all over the country. I've been keeping a list of them, but even since my most recent update a few weeks ago, more have been announced.
Regardless of where they're located, all of these DOGE task forces have a common goal. Make up a dollar amount to show how much they're saving tax payers, find excuses to cut money for social programs (and in some cases even cuts to government safety programs that help prepare for natural disasters like hurricanes and tornadoes) in order to make that dollars saves number a reality. Citizens suffer, their lives are made worse, and governors and their wealthy friends become even wealthier, all in the name of trimming wasteful spending and getting rid of bureaucracy.
It's easy to get stuck in a mindset where you let the reality of yesterday influence the way you view your present, but it's a mental trap. I haven't used any form of social media that isn't anonymous in almost a decade. No Facebook or Instagram. I don't scroll by pictures of a lifestyle that never even came close to matching my reality. I think it's no coincidence that I no longer feel left out among my peers, when I'm not acknowledging false public images people attempt to shape for themselves online. Instead, I feel more connected to a bigger chunk of America than ever before, and it's helped me to realize how much we all have in common regardless of political identity.
Wouldn't it be funny if that broken spirit is by intention because the possibilities of the internet are big enough that a motivated youth could change everything?
I'm 45 and since I was a kid I heard my father telling me his gen was the last getting richer than the one before.
We (westerns), did reach the peak and now every gen will be poorer year after year.
That's why rich people is hoarding wealth like never before. That's why Elmo wants to establish fascism, abolish worker rights and wants the people doing more childs. It doesn't matter for him if we get even poorer, he just wants to make his wealth future proof.
"but look how much technology you've gotten to see as it evolved every 3 years."
Tech can fuck off. All these technological advances have served some Capitalist at the expense of imploding the middle class, or distracting the masses with some shiny bauble while shareholders extort more flesh each quarter.
If tech advances don't create a rising tide, they're just a tool for exploitation.
Definitely, I remember being a senior in high school the day 9/11 happened and even then I felt that the world was going to change and not change for the better.
We view the late 40s through the 70s as a golden age for the American middle class. People raising families off a single income. Yearly vacations. Affordable higher education.
Know why?
We taxed the ever-loving fuck out of the wealthy back then.
Then the wealthy bought the politicians and stopped that from happening.
And now we're all sad.
DO. NOT. VOTE. FOR. ANYONE. THAT. DOESN'T. RUN. ON. TAXING. THE. WEALTHY. MORE.
The pay gap between CEO and ordinary worker was the smallest back there, not because the taxes, there were less taxes back then, but because those CEO were decent people, not predatory like right now. Todays C-Suite are predatory people, they're not humans, they're money machines that need every penny. There should be law that don't allow pay gap between CEO and ordinary worker to be greater than 100k USD or any other currency in other countries. Those who pursue luxury would say that's very low. Yes it's very low because everyone who works in successfull company deserve success. Not only small group on top. That is main difference between companies from 40s and 70s and companies right now.
This is also why (white) Boomers struggle to understand how it got so bad. They literally lived in a period where you could often count on and trust your boss.
Is absurd that we essentially have a regressive income tax.
I also wouldn't ignore the global environment during that period.
During those decades, the US was effectively the only industrialized nation in the world. Everyone else either never had factories to begin with, or had smoldering piles of rubble where their factories used to be.
I found it astonishing that there isn't even a 0% tax bracket anymore federally. It starts at 10% when you make your first fucking dollar. We've gone batshit backwards in this country to the point where we're trying to get every last dime from poor people so we can almost afford to have buy-borrow-die oligarchs that never pay a penny in federal taxes.
It pisses me off so much because the goddamn problem is RIGHT IN FRONT of everyone's eyes and yet so much energy is spent on bullshitting the masses....I want off this ride
Not just under 30. My husband is disabled and if ACA or VA benefits get cut he will die. Horribly but slowly, in our house where I will have to take care of him until the end. And pray we still have enough of a functioning society to bury him when the time comes. How I am supposed to feel anything other than horror and dread for the future!?
I'm sorry. I wish I could continue paying to keep your husband alive. It's what a fellow countrymen would do. But half of our electorate is filled with sociopaths.
I'm over 30 and I'm pretty fuckin' miserable, too!
But I guess I was actually paying attention to how fucked things have been politically since I was able to start voting pushing nearly 30 years ago now.
In regards to the actual article:
The researchers say they were able to pick up on the distrust by asking whether or not people believed someone would return a lost wallet. Compared to the Nordic countries, people in the U.S. were more likely to underestimate the kindness of others.
“It requires that strangers are to be trusted, that they will go beyond the call of duty and be kind and try and get it back to the rightful owner, or drop it with the police, which means you need to trust the police,” De Neve says. “That single item of the wallet drop is very powerful.”
There's literally, literally a flip side to this "lost wallet" equation in the US as well. Have you ever been the person who was kind enough to return a lost wallet? Have you also ever been the person who was accused by the person you returned it to of stealing a bunch of things (like cash) out of the wallet? It's actually a fairly common occurence in the the US. So not only is there distrust in whether or not others will return a wallet, there is a valid distrust by people who find lost wallets that the wallet owner won't lie about the original contents of the wallet and accuse them of theft anyway. At what point does it just become pointless to bother with returning a wallet at all if you're going to be accused of a crime because you did the right thing?
The one time I've found a dropped wallet, it had ID for like 5 different people in it. I dropped that off at the local police station and walked away.
My partner lost wallet at a bus stop. It got buried under snow for a season and when the snow melted a month later it was turned in to the police station, who called partner. All his (by then cancelled) cards were still in the wallet, plus what felt like the right amount of cash.
This lack of trust is literally the main goal of mass media, especially right wing media. When everyone else is your enemy, you won't work together with them for your own benefit. Instead, you'll trust the strongman to keep you safe from all the fake danger.
Social media accelerated this by an incredible amount. Today's America feels like a completely different society from the one I grew up in the 90s.
The only time I found a wallet I returned it to the owner. The owner was suspicious as fuck towards me and treated me like I had stolen it even though everything was still in it. I literally picked it up off the ground, looked at the drivers license, and headed inside the store to see if they could page him and ran into him on the way in. The people I told about it were all pissed towards me for actually returning it and not just stealing the money.. It was basically unanimous that I was wrong for doing this and some of these people were friends I thought were good people up until that point. It really fucked up my faith in other people. Next time I'll just leave it be.
There was a time when I was a student that I spent a lot of time near a particular coffee shop, and more than you would typically expect for just studying and the like, since it turned into the place where my friend group basically hung out most of the time.
In any case, it was a decently high traffic area and since I was there a lot I found two wallets and a cellphone over the time I was there a lot.
One wallet had an emergency contact I was able to call, think it was their mother, and that I'd be at the coffee shop for a bit. They brought me cookies, and I was thrilled.
Next person just had their phone number, and they acted like I was a creep for saying I had their wallet and would like to give it back to them, so I told them I was leaving it with the cashier and left it at that and was a bit sad, since being told off for trying to be nice is a bummer.
Cellphone was the worst. I called their most recent number and told them what was up (this was clearly before ubiquitous lock screens). Owner called me back in the same number and threatened to call the cops on me so I hung up, powered off the phone and put it back where I found it. Felt sad.
Given how it seems like everyone has lost their minds now, I'm not sure I would risk letting someone know I found their stuff. I'd still try to return it because that's the right thing to do, but I'm not sure if I'd be willing to use my own phone number or anything.
If people will shoot you for using their driveway to turn around I can only imagine what they'd do for a bus pass, student ID and a loyalty punch card for a bakery.
Have you ever been the person who was kind enough to return a lost wallet? Have you also ever been the person who was accused by the person you returned it to of stealing a bunch of things (like cash) out of the wallet?
You're saying something. I've heard first hand stories about angry wallet owners "shooting the messanger" so to speak. I'm from Germany but the saying "No good deed goes unpunished" rings true in most parts of the world, I think. That's why you throw a lost wallet into the next letter box and don't bother any further. At least that's what you're supposed to do where I'm from and I doubt any of those wallets ever arrived with their full content but that's not my problem.
Some years back i was leaving the gym (I live in the US by the by) and I found a debit card. Now the only identifying info on it was the bank associated and the name and such. I wasnt going to take it home and try and track down the person who owned it. So I took it to the associated bank, grabbed a deposit slip and wrote a note on it and dropped in the deposit box. I assume it was returned, but I honestly don't know. Felt this was the best approach given the circumstances.
When asked how miserable millennials are, the response was overwhelmingly unchanged, in-fact the generation regards itself as having the shittiest life experience marked by late-stage capitalism, and the adoption of a boring cyberpunk dystopia. US millennials largely see retirement as something impossible, as many cannot afford homes, cars, or healthcare.
See, that's why they just mention under 30s, because it's far worse for the rest of us.
Yes, I know, thats why in my made up quote I talked about millennials.
We've been suffering for a hell of a long time. A lot of us were young children when we watched the planes slam into the world trade center on the morning news before going to school and acting like we didn't see the most horrific thing in the world.
Right after Columbine of course. And can't forget about the Oklahoma bombing. It's... Been rough
Almost zero chance of buying a home or affording rent. Prices going out of control on almost everything. A Nazi in the White House and social media so toxic it melts your mind. The beatings will continue until morale improves. What a terrible place we have created for the next generation.
Minimum wage is a joke. It only exists so corporations can say they're not paying you minimum wage.
It's actually quite funny, and sad. This generation sucks so bad. Too many punk-ass bitches just trying to look good in front of their peers and afraid of conflict at all costs.
In the state with the highest minimum wage in the country, Washington currently at $16.66, you can still work full time and be unable to afford a 300 square foot studio on your own. It's nigh impossible to work full time at minimum wage in any state in the US and actually be able to get an apartment on your own.
Further, many rentals are increasing required income levels and instead of requiring your monthly income to be three times the cost of rent, they're pushing for your monthly income being four times the cost of rent. Also, renters insurance has become a requirement, not just a nice thing to have. If you let your renters insurance lapse, you're breaking your lease.
Maybe having money hungry dads who were in their 20s in the 80s when Regan was creaming his pleats over deregulating banks and Wall Street who then went on to send their wet socks to business schools was a scam all along.
I'm here to assure you that we're not. The only ones who are happy are boomers who lucked into an impossibly good economy that will never return. They amassed wealth and think it's because they worked hard while in conditions that only existed because multiple economies were destroyed by war while USA was untouched. And now they continue to hoard power in government and refuse to let younger generations have a seat at the table. Fuck them.
Only good thing that happened in awhile was the united healthcare CEO getting what was coming to him.
We need more rich people to suffer the same fate if we ever want things to change. Arguing isn't going to work because they control the discussion.
Keep in mind, rich people kill poor people every day. Directly, and indirectly. Someone died in a robbery because a poor person was chasing that rich lifestyle? Blame the ruling class. Someone committed suicide because they have no prospects in life other than serving in dead-end jobs? Blame the ruling class. Somebody shot up a school because they have no prospects in life other than serving in dead-end jobs? Blame the ruling class.
Why don't we have the resources to build and repair communities? Because any excesses we have go to the ruling class, not the people who actually need it.
It's fucked. I genuinely hope we have mass executions for the ruling class and their children at this point if they do not willingly give over their wealth.
It would be a small price to pay for all the damage they've done over generations that will take generations to fix.
Yeah I don't know who these over 30 happy people are. The pres just said he plans to rendition citizens to a foreign prison anytime he reasons they did something to warrant it. My brother with kids is super worried. I don't have kids but still not likin it.
We're moving with as many of our adult children as we can convince and logistically manage out of this place. The US is losing two STEM PhD holders, multiple bachelors in engineering, and other bachelors degree holders. Yes, we're stupidly lucky to have the resources to make the move, but it's going to basically destroy my retirement resources. It's worth it if my children have a chance of a better life. We're racing the clock to get out before the borders are closed.
Fuck the Nazis in charge of this place and the people who voted them into power.
The other day, I did some quick math to figure out what my family of five driving four cars across the country would look like. Several days and probably upwards of $5000 in fuel, if we can find it, and if cash is worth anything. I have a motorcycle that I would sell to fund part of that, and I've already decided which of the four cars would be first to sell on the road.
I am fully expecting things to escalate to the point where any time we have to leave the house to get groceries, fuel, medicine, two people will be required. One to do the shopping, the other to be an armed guard.
This chapter in American history is about as fucked up as it's been in living memory, and we have a very long way to go yet.
I'm European, and I get miserable reading about the USA.
It's also quite telling that I see so many American expats here nowadays. It used to be quite rare, usually if you met an American living here they would be either working for an American company, or have a relationship with a local.
Now, I'm just meeting a lot of super talented and smart Americans who took a major paycut just to not live in the US anymore.
I'll be real, it really bugs the shit out of me that the affluent would rather just bail to Europe and leave the most vulnerable of us behind. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
As long as they personally can escape somewhere safer, they don't give one single fucking shit about what happens to their less fortunate fellow countrymen. Not all poors are Trumpers. Some of us got fucked by *checks notes... cancer drugs that cost $18k a month. Ask me how I know.
I sneer and look down on every single one of those "talented and smart Americans" who leave their talented, smart, empathetic, and fucked by the economic system of the US brethren behind to rot.
If you don’t feel like you have any power to influence anything it’s normal to bail.
Clearly the US wants to be fucked up. I’ve been trying to stop that for decades. When should I admit that this is what the country wants and that it’s foolish to think otherwise.
People put their own oxygen masks on first for a reason. If I could leave I’d be gone, too.
Feel free to sneer at me, though. People are all terrible and I’m one of them.
But these people just want to be safe and raise their kids without worrying that some neo-nazis are going to harm them or their kids for having the wrong race or creed.
They aren't necessarily affluent, though not poor either. Just middle-class progressive people that need to have both parents working to afford a house, car, groceries.
Yes, I am sorry you got f-d by the medical costs. I really wish it were different.
I feel you. I've been thinking a lot about my options lately (as I'm sure we all are.) As appealing as the idea to leave the country is, there's some part of me that's screaming, "No. Our place is here. These is our home. These are our neighbors. This is our fight."
I hope those most vulnerable can find a way to stay safe... But as for myself, this system has kept me too poor to afford having kids, let alone owning a house, or any other assets, without hope of affording retirement, trapped in a system where I'm basically a slave running in a hamster wheel... So what have I got to fear? I'm going to stay here and organize.
"We'll defend those who are less fortunate than us!"
[Loses one (1) election]
"Welp I'm gonna leave the country, and not do anything to help anyone on my way out. I never actually liked any of you, you were just useful tokens for an election."
They want the poor, disabled, queer, BIPOC, and anyone who is stuck in this hellhole to burn alive. They don't actually care. If they cared they'd try to help, not leave the country and pretend it's for our own good. Anyone who can leave the country right now is in a better place than 90% of the people they "care about".
Sorry guys, I know in my 20s I was still trying to figure out who I wanted to be and figuring out how I aligned with some suit in government was not how I was going to spend my Friday night. Just skip all the media bullshit and start reading about who is voting for what. That will get you to the side you're on. Theres a lot more to figure out but at the very least do this so you can go vote every chance you get.
The older generations, we aren't looking out for you, at least enmasse. You're going to have to form your alliances and hope they keep their end of the deal. Right now the only ones getting anything are billionaires and their subordinates. That just might never change. Maybe you want it that way. I don't. So good luck.
Israel ranked 8th in 2025, if I recall correctly. 8th happiest country on earth, higher than my country (UK) or USA. Mind you, in 2024 they were 5th happiest so its not all sunshine and roses for the IDF. For comparison, I could not find rankings for Palestine or Hamas.
Makes me wonder exactly what they were measuring as 'happiness', how they measure it, and who they asked!?! They certainly did not ask Israelis opposed to genocide and doing their best to put Netanyahu in gaol - I have Israeli friends like this and they are off the chart miserable right now.
I guess MAGA cultists of all ages, Nazis, Christo-fascists, first-time Gen Z male voters enthralled by the triumph of the Trump, that Alpha Male so adored by the not gay but straight very straight get that right straight as straight as Vance he's married and she's not his beard manly Manosphere influncers like that guy whose name I forgot but was accused of rape in Romania, or the Gen Z Betas 100% in bed with the incels (so to speak), plus Tesla customers, and OpenAI employees, plus anyone who shot his balls off to own the libs, are all enjoying peak happiness right now - actually their Venn diagram is just one big happy circle. So cheer up, USA, its not bleak for everyone! /s.
Seriously, this happiness ranking is clickbait bullshit, don't let it spoil your day.
"Hey dude, you feel miserable? Well you're not alone, and maybe we can start to think about why we all feel miserable".
You're just seeing a perfectly reasonable study in the worst light possible, because you and most of us have been made to feel like shit about our lives.