Good morning! We have the best cafe in the world here, you should give it a go
Edit: Although today my order left a little to be desired, that's an anomaly
I wrote a huge thing about period pain and PCOS but having second thoughts because I'm not too sure if it's appropriate? I did spoiler it and warn for those who don't want to see it. But yeah. I've got no where else to talk about it and it's just like a lot of ??? and ughhhh pain.
If it's cool then I'll reply to this, if not well, I won't... I guess?
I have major body dismorphia due to not having female reproductive organs, but I can deal or scroll past. You should be able to talk about what you are going through.
I think it's cool. I don't experience them (wrong type of plumbing) but see my and wife and daughter go through this regularly and never know what help to offer.
Everyone is being super nice so I shall post it. Spoiler omg for obvious reasons. So if that periods and PCOS is gross or triggering, you've been warned.
gross stuff here!
So I've been diagnosed with PCOS since I was 12 but only officially when I was 21 due to the procedure being pretty invasive for a 12 y/o. I didn't have a lot of periods growing up and only had one pretty regularly when I got on the pill at 18 and I got off it at 23 due to my past GP's concern with blood clots. Thus since then I've had the rod.
Anyways, since being on the rod my periods were non-existent except for that I would bleed old blood. That's been pretty consistent, I would never get a period in the typical sense. It'd be maybe once every 2 months or so and it's just old blood.
Now it's a mixture of old blood and new blood and I am in so much pain (well like on a scale it's like a 4 to 5. Hurts but I try to focus on work). And I'm just like ??? so many question marks. Like wtf body, I thought we had a deal, you didn't give me periods and I would be okay with that.
There's not much to this really. I just like I'm so confused and in pain and I want to die. Ugh... Ugh. Sorry that this is very TMI, as I said, I don't know who else to talk to about this. It's not triggering the gender dysphoria, but it's still not great. Thank you to whoever listens.
Fuck, you're strong to work through that! Have seen a health pro?
I'm just so glad its not pushing your dysphoria as well. I'm trans femme so I understand dysphoria and know it comes out of nowhere sometimes and can last for hours. For what it's worth I obviously read your post without being triggered and this is pretty good for me honestly.
RIP our espresso machine; 16 years of great service, but the water tank thingy is manky as fuck and it can't be cleaned beyond what we've already tried. It's like the lining has melted, and that can't be good for consuming, but the replacement tanks have been discontinued. New machine arrives tomorrow and it's got a built-in grinder, so we need give away the old grinder which works perfectly. Sunbeam Cafe Series, if anyone's interested.
Whatcha get as a replacement? Partner's got a vendetta against the pod coffee machine my parents got me way back, so I think I'll need to get a proper one soon.
We’ve just had the baby sleep consultant come by. I didn’t have high hopes, in my mind it was just a starting point as it’s the free council service and the advice we got from our maternal child health nurse did not work for us at all.
But I have been pleasantly surprised! She was really nice and the approach she has suggested sounds a lot more suitable for us. It’s going to be a hard 3+ week journey to change baby’s sleep habits. Really hoping at the end of it we will see some better sleep!! I am so tired!!
Getting close to needing something like this ourselves. He ONLY wants to sleep on mum, and whilst he usually stays down once he finally goes down at 11-12ish its a long time to get him there. What were some things they suggested out of curiosity?
Mine was just like that too! He got a tiny bit more independent as he got older but nowhere near enough. How old is yours now? If it’s not much better by 4-5 months I’d definitely recommend it. It will be a bit harder for us as he’s older and the sleep habits are more set in stone. So the earlier the better!
We are transitioning to cot in his own room so it was suggested we basically work in 15 min increments. Put him down when he first starts showing tired signs (before he’s melting down and grumpy) and give him a chance to fall asleep on his own. If he fusses can try adding one thing at a time, like shushing or song, then patting the mattress, then patting him etc. If that doesn’t work, all good, just go back to what works and try again at the next sleep.
Also having a rock solid routine before sleep and keeping the sleep conditions exactly the same: so always have white noise, always do bed time routine in the same order etc. And consistency. So even if it doesn’t seem like it’s working, sticking with it for every single sleep. “Success” at the beginning may just be laying there without crying for a few mins.
For those who remember the saga from last week, the Flybuys points were put on.
But as an attempt to lure me back to shopping at Coles, it's pretty much had the opposite effect.
Good news for those who aren't using Reddit anymore: this DT has almost twice as many comments as the one on Reddit. Thats good for us, since I and a few others were expecting a lot of people to zoom on back to Reddit the moment the sub reopened
One interesting thing I noted from a quick flick through, there seems to be a lot less replies to comments, but a similar amount or maybe even more upvotes than usual. Makes sense since the sub has about 600k members, and like 95% lurk (what's that effect called again? The 90-9-1 rule I think?)
It probably won't last though, I don't think we'll lose many people just put of losing interest at this point, but since Reddit is by far the larger platform and r/Melbourne the larger community, it's just kinda basic maths that eventually more people will go to the larger community on the larger platform and start engaging there. But at least we have cemented ourselves as a solid alternative Melbourne community off Reddit!
I don’t think this will have any impact. I think the vast majority of reddit users, myself included, had no idea there was anything other than the reddit ap or desktop. I googled how many Apollo users there are, looks like about 2million. Reddit says it has 1.6 billion active users. I dunno if those numbers have any accuracy (zero fact checking) but I think the API date will be a wimper for user numbers not the bang it’s been hyped to be.
Much weirdness in the way Lemmy displays posts. I have just worked out that I am seeing deleted comments, and there is just a tiny little symbol at the end of the post to show me it has been deleted (I am guessing it is a mod thing). So apologies to anyone if I have extra-deleted or replied to anything that you have actually removed!
"By joining our client's team, you will enjoy the following benefits:
Monday to Friday job: Embrace a consistent schedule that allows you to enjoy your weekends free of work commitments."
really scraping the bottom of the barrel here peeps. ps: this is item 2 of a 2 item list.
Quick stroll around the block to get some sunshine and holy hell did that feel good. Even managed to dodge the annoying neighbour, was fully prepared to fake a phone call upon approach, but she had someone else snagged. She's a lonely woman with good intentions, but she drives me nuts.
I was a bit excited for the new financial year, as I have been working hard to get all my finances sorted out. I have my budget working well (with a pretty colourful spreadsheet, including lots of automatic calculations), have no more debts to pay off, future spending goals (including getting another dog or two and further study) are fully costed and achievable.
This financial year change is pretty much ruling off the past messes I have had to clean up, and marks the turning point into a much healthier financial future. A very happy EOFY!🎉
I woke up about 445am. Cats somehow know as soon as I wake up and I have to get up because they fuss about, start playing and the little kitten gets up in my face and sits on the laptop i have next to the bed I play youtubes on to lull me back to sleep. Little angels. Going to take my anti-anxiety/sleeping meds early tonight so I can get my circadian rhythm in line with their 5am wake time and not have to try and live everyday on 5 hours sleep.
I start every day now with an AA meeting. I found an amazing 24/7 online group and a wonderful sponsor from the US outta there. I thought I'd have trouble with the higher power stuff but I was obviously ready to begin a spiritual path to become a better person in the world and more helpful.
More volunteer work for trans people today. I'm embroiled in it again this week as a couple of people couldn't work. Have tomorrow off, but back into it on Thursday. I'm on my way to a b cup now!!! Omg they feel so special and sacred. I'm in tears and euphoric. The extra oestrogen I'm taking now has also brought a bit of libido on but of course female desire is so much different to male testosterone arousal. I'm a fuckin girl for real!! Woohoo
Finding spirituality was so helpful to me. Sometimes it’s just nice to feel like I can surrender, I don’t have to control everything or have all the answers… I just have to have intention and faith and move forward with honesty.
Absolutely this. I need to stop thinking for myself and surrender. Seemed impossible to me a few weeks ago, but I've just allowed it to wash over me and check the results which have been pretty much instantaneous. Its pretty wild and I'm loving this freedom.
Morning Chef 😃 can I please get some over-easy sunny-side up fried eggs on gluten free toast (somewhere between medium and medium-well), but make sure the yolk is hard please
Been trying to deal with this ear infection (ongoing since Thursday). GP is switching me to anti-fungal treatment (gross to think about). I’m so frustrated over the ongoing pain, lack of sleep & blocked hearing.
This was also meant to be my first week off work in 8 months (and I’d planned to be job searching to escape my toxic workplace). Thinking of returning to work likely still dealing with this ear BS makes me cry.
It weirds me out every time I go get a haircut and try to explain what I want. I sound so…vague and painterly. I need a language scalpel or a sniper bullet chambered in the correct dialect.
Guess I’ll just keep using that photo from 10 years ago…
Dammit, I didn't get to do my mini workout this morning owing to an early start so I walked briskly to and from the bus stop. Will have to make time for it when I get home.
It's gluten free pizza base day at work, so I'll be flat out hand making pizza bases and unable to check in on you lovely people. Have a lovely day and I hope things go your way 🙏
Sounds like you have an active job which will play well with the exercise regime. You got this mate, looking forward to reading about your progress and struggles, they matter cos you matter!
Sigh. Got the real inferior feels today. My co-worker somehow managed to interview and land a new job within two weeks whereas meanwhile I've been applying and interviewing for roles in the same areas over the last few months with no success and feedback ranging from 'we hired internally', 'too much experience' and 'not enough experience'...ugh maybe I just suck at my job.
Linkedin and networking my dude, work hard at the current place but analyse the grass on the other side of the fence. I get a LinkedIn message from recruiters/head hunters at least once a month, and try to reply as often as possible. Any interactions within your company or with outside vendors, ensure they know you're competent and approachable, and add contacts you get along with to LinkedIn to build a professional network.
It does get disheartening going for roles outside of your range of expertise and being told you're not aligned for the role, but emphasise soft skills and transferrable attributes.
EDIT: tldr; approach professional roles like you're a priviledged white man that deserves to be there
Thanks for the tip! I will try and brush up my Linkedin, added a few things over the weekend but probably need to highlight those transferable skills in my career history. Also will use the 'privileged white man' mindset next time :D
This shit happens a lot. I was looking for a lot of admin positions, and while I don't have the experience I figure applying at a tonne of places I'd get something! My sister was looking for admin positions in a shorter time span than myself and got a job a few months ago. It felt so disheartening, like I was super happy for her but also like why is my job provider person not looking for me? Though I finally got a job in admin/writing so it's not so bad. But yeah, I totally get how you feel. I don't have any advice to offer but I offer my condolences and am a place to vent to.
If it’s any consolation, we are going through this here as well. It happens at ALL levels of expertise and experience and sometimes doesn’t even matter how big your network is.
Think of it as a missed opportunity for the company that didn’t hire YOU. They are the ones missing out.
You’ll get there.
I honestly believe interviews are more for me than for the company hiring me. It sounds cocky, but it means you ask better questions and can gauge if you'll be happy with the role to avoid headaches down the track.
Aw thanks for the support! Yeah it's frustrating...prior to job hunting I felt I was actually good at my job and worthwhile to other employers, but now this whole ordeal has really demoralised me. Just got to keep looking!
I've seen this post in like 4 places on lemmy, lemmy.uk, lemmy.world, another community I didn't note, and now here. Is lemmy really this small at the moment?!
My birthday presents from Mum should be arriving soon. I'm getting the last three Mass Effect books I don't have. Still need to read the huge omnibus comics that I got for Christmas... last year? The year before? Oh well. What book did you get?
Started new trashy post-apocalyptic audiobook last night. It started off like it was going to be a standard EMP/worldwide power outage type deal... but now it looks like there are also werewolves! 🍿
Zooks was doing that (well the pestering not the meowing). Turned out she wanted chicken again.
Last night she was pestering me and I was running around practically giving her a kitty smorgasbord and it turned out she just wanted me to sit down so she could sit in my lap.
Omg so adorable, I was watching a video of a mother cat and her kiten and my mumma cat came into the room and started sniffing all around the speakers because she could hear the little kitten's tiny mews . What a beautiful lady she is.
I got up way too early today. I think I'll take Mr Woof for an early walk, we can watch the sunrise on the way home. 🐕 🌅
Update: the walk was lovely, but the sunrise was a bit incipid. Now I am back home listening to the lovely crashing sounds of the house over the road being demolished. The soundtrack of urban renewal.
Warm heaters are good! I hope mine continues to last. It has its moments where it won’t work and then it does. It’s started getting too cold for me not to have a heater on at some point throughout the day/night.
Just finished booking all of the hotels for the US trip. Thanks to my parents' history of being degenerate gamblers, mum has talked the hotels in Vegas and Laughlin into comping my rooms so it looks like my total accommodation cost for this trip will be about $1500. Not too bad 🙃
I'm not gaming a whole lot at the moment, but I did put a few hours into D4 on Sunday/Monday, around household chores, partner time, appointments, whatevs, yet my brain decided to give me a dream where my partner broke up with me via D4. Thanks, brain.
It's really weird going from no work so playing video games like all the time, to now I only play video games for a few hours. Luckily I can play during my lunch break.
At the height of my WoW days, I was playing enough for it to be a second full time job, after my actual job and on weekends. I'm not sure I could do that anymore, I get antsy about an hour or so playing anything.
WFH today, so might have to nab a bit of D4 time on my break...
I just realised that when I comment here through the browser there is an emoji button that works better than the one built into my tablet's keyboard - it has a search function, I don't have to scroll through and find them!
Back in melbs after much driving yesterday and today. I've grown to really like long country drives. After a very long resistance to listening to podcasts in the car I think I'm converted. Just starting with Radio National for now.
I also inexplicably have developed angular cheilitis (corners of mouth are cracked and sore) over the last few days and now I've got a pair of mouth ulcers on the top and bottom lip near them as well. Not fun.
Unfortunately the podcasts I listen to are either sports or comedy related stuff so probably won’t be your thing but I’m sure someone here knows of some good suggestions for you.
Thanks! It looks like a forecast of the usual cold and misery, but it's sort of good to be back in familiar territory with slightly less murderous drivers. I will definitely be looking into more podcasts as I have some regional work trips coming up. Might even consider an audiobook
oooh. I would love any recommendations for podcasts around the 45-60 minute length, especially about mental health, relationships, the workplace, or the natural world. Preferably soothing or serious and not blokey or jokey or provocative or with too many people (I find those jarring when driving - same with radio hosts).
What a day! Hand stretched around 200+ pizza bases and hand peeled 60kg of potatoes. Bought avocado on the way home because guacamole is Miss Peeler's latest food obsession. She and I made said guacamole when I got home. Took some time to admire my young Mr Peeler's new avatar on WWE 2K22 and observe his wrestling game. Did a load of washing (just remembered I haven't hung it up yet. D'oh!) Cooked dinner, did my exercises (day 3) cleaned the bathroom a bit and helped Mr Peeler (Luddite) with phone tech issues. Now I am laying in bed just blobbing out. But I must hang the damn washing. Bugger!
I am pretty tired and my feet are sore, but when I got home I hurt my thumb on the metal serrated strip on the baking paper box. It's the tiniest cut but annoying af. It's always the little things!
Ugh same thing happened to me last week - organised a time for a call and sent updated resume in the meantime. Recruiter never called or responded to a follow up by me 🤷🏻♀️
Mrs thinks the TV is dying. It keeps playing sound even if its off, sometimes when you turn it on it doesnt wake the soundbar, lots of weird little shit like that.
We got it just as covid got serious so its what, 3 years old? and whilst I've never loved the "smart" side of things (Hisense proprietary OS, not android or WebOS) its an OLED so the picture is second to none. We have a real strange love/hate thing going on.
You should be able to get it looked at and fixed/replaced for nothing, 3 years is not long under consumer law, i got my Samsung panel replaced after a longer period than that
It still plays audio even if the soundbar is disconnected. The soundbar almost always wakes if you boot it to tv, but if your boot it to YouTube or HDMI there’s a 50/50 chance the tv will just not wake the soundbar.
New movie everyday. Today was Network, 1976. It's just a movie about a guy killed on camera by two people . It's a best of times worst of times, good people bad people story. In that it's a very old story, like a story line from I Claudius.
so gray's didn't deliver, off to vcat I go. making payment on the car tomorrow, collecting on Thursday. today was spent in the kitchen and watching my hubby play ff16. off to clean the mice after dinner. yea stay warm everyone.
holy CRAP anyone else just had google sheets completely shit itself? Cross-sheet importrange queries have just bottomed out, checked and no other mofo has touched them (not that they can anyway) and restoring to yesterday briefly worked, then shat out again.
EDIT: For anyone so inclined, the issue is with the Col references. Replace them with the lettering (Eg: Col1 becomes A, Col5 becomes E) resolves the issue. But if you're not so inclined, fuck'em
A culinary travesty for dinner tonight. One pack of "Mexican" salad (mostly lettuce, with a dressing containing spices reminiscent of Old El Pasto taco seasoning) mixed with some of the chicken fajita filling I made a while ago that didn't taste quite right. It worked surprisingly well.
Can someone with Jerboa confirm for me that the size of the scrollbar changes size as you scroll down the thread? I'm thinking this has something to do with the sticky/jittery scrolling I mentioned a little ways back...
OK cool. I don't know why it would do that, but if it is changing the page size for whatever reason (loading/unloading comments that are closer/further away??) then maybe the janky scrolling has to do with constantly readjusting scroll speeds up and down the page. Visually irritating. Next question, how to file a bug report.
Also thanks for the tip. I'm also trying out a thrid app called Connect.
I'm hoping I won't get accused of returning too much under the ACL.
In 2020, returned a laptop after 5 months after the RAM went bad. Then got the new one replaced a month later for a similar issue. The replacement has been going strong since then.
In 2021, returned a Samsung watch after 3 weeks when the o2 sensor burnt my wrist. JB Hifi also raised a personal injury report.
In 2022 bought a gaming mouse. Scroll wheel stopped working properly nearly a year later. Got it replaced... Now 5 months later the power switch is not working properly so it keeps turning off at the worst possible times during fights.
Two years ago, got a refund for my son's gaming headphones (9 months old). One speaker just died.
Last year I returned two Nintendo switch controllers due to drifting issues. Got new ones.
This year I've replaced a PS5 controller, due to drifting issues (it was 10 months old). About to replace another PS5 controller due to drifting issues (this one is 8 months old).
Shit happens and as customers we are entitled to replacements when reasonable.
On the last point, I swear these so called gaming noises are literally just the cheapest shittiest components they can find... But WITH LIGHTING!11!1!!111!1! I was gifted what seemed like a fairly nice alienware mouse, was like 80 bucks, thought it was pretty cool. It has this weird button below the scroll wheel which I think changes the sensitivity or something. Pull it up a few times, mouse go slow, push it down a few times and I'm zooming around like nobody's business
6 months in, it kinda died. I can still adjust it, but it randomly sends me into max speed mode and I'm trying to click a button and all of a sudden my mouse is in another continent
Yeah the button below the scrollerwheel is a DPI setting. I had a cougar mouse and like less than a year later the scroller wheel craps out. PC Case Gear sent out a new one (they couldn't fix it), new one works fine but a few months ago it's crapped out again, scroller wheel again. So I bought a Logitech one. Only had it for maybe two or three months, but so far works pretty good. I don't have any major complaints about Logitech, they've really stepped up their game recently.
Before all this, had some logitech wired gaming mouse for 4 years. Still works good, but the cord is too hard lol.
First one was Corsair Darkcore RGB. Scroll wheel malfunctioned so I can't swap out the healing staff for the pistol quickly, and it was hard to scroll documents at work.
Second/current one is Steelseries Aerox 3 wireless.
Decided to suss the smoking room here at JK airport (when in rome etc) and it is a solid compression session.
A staff member with tags walked in holding 2 beers opening the two heavy doors with her feet with an unlit ciggy in her mouth ready to go. Absolute pro compression session-er.
I was today years old when I discovered that there was a comestible in the world called Deep Fried Spam Musubi. To be served with teriyaki sauce. Does anyone know of any place in Melbourne that sells them?
Does anyone know of a site that can populate Google Maps addresses into nice format to print out? Like if I was looking at cafes in a particular suburb and wanted the list and map with the pins showing.
Trying to print from GM itself is a bit of a hot mess.
I really want a heatmap/pin drop of my accounts in my CRM so I can visit a whole suburb of customers at once and not miss people. Sounds like SalesForce should have this plugin, but I haven't done enough research.
Decided to take a break from Netflix so spending the last couple of days of it watching some trashy reality offerings.
I swear Sammi is giving me a disapproving look.
I remember reading unsure if it was here or elsewhere, someone saying they didn’t think Lewis Capaldi would be making it to Australian shores and having a concert here. Turns out that person was correct, as he has cancelled his Australia/NZ trip
There’s an app I’m using called Mlem. It’s the only iOS app out there at the moment. It’s still in beta testing with about 2 weeks to go for official launch. It’s fully inspired by Apollo.
You can download “ TestFlight “ from The App Store and then try to get the latest version here👇
@hasteee@StudChud while it's not ideal and doesn't look little Reddit, it's worth noting that there are several Mastodon apps which you can use to follow communities (or users) on kbin & lemmy, and you might find that gives you a bit of a window into how different the Fediverse is - it's kindof like being able to post to Reddit from Twitter, and receive replies in your Twitter notifications.
See rolling over the folds of my brain,
A heavy fog that covers the pain.
Debt repayments made to Hypnos,
Plus interest paid in cryptic symbols;
Dreams shift and morph with heartbeats,
Each moment a lifetime lived, a feat.
Seek refuge under the starry nightsky
Some dreams are meant to slip on by