Just wanted to say a quick hello to all the other women out there on Lemmy
Just wanted to say a quick hello to all the other women out there on Lemmy
I've been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I'm a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.
Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it's gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!
It's also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.
So today on International Women's Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don't want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you're killing it.
This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.
Um...anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I've given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we're planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me ๐
There are dozens of us! But seriously I've been so happy to be a lady on here and have good conversations with damn near everyone. As for treating myself, I am looking forward to my husband cooking us a nice dinner this weekend.
Oh nice, what's the food plan? Or is it a surprise?
We'll be having crispy hawaiian tofu tomorrow which is just about my fave food in the whole world, husband is also doing the cooking (he actually does that every day because he's one of those weirdos who enjoy it). Still very much looking forward to it though, not having to cook for myself never gets old!
Cheers to the women of the fediverse, and the world, on your day. Glad to have you around :)
Hiii! Happy International Women's Day! Transwoman here.
I never understood why some people are so weird online. I've gotten tons of creepy messages. I have an Instagram account where I only post my nail art and I get tons of creepy DMs on there. It happened when I posted pics on nail subreddits as well but I didn't post there as much.
I really don't know if I'm going to be able to treat myself today as I have been feeling very low energy for the past couple days but I've been able to take a nice long shower and do some self-care and I still have some energy left so that's promising.
Since I have to leave the house to go to the drug store today, I might pick up some new skincare products while I'm there. I've been meaning to get a new exfoliating face mask for a long time, maybe today will be the day!
Oh that sounds like the perfect treat, take the self-care to that next level!
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess it's because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
I hope you're feeling a bit better soon, those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess itโs because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
Wow. Yeah, how dare we! We might have to start wearing mittens when posting so we don't attract all those hand, nail and cross stitch fetishists ๐ญ (Edit: Just want to make it clear that I don't mean to kink shame anyone. I'm cool with any kink/fetish as long as it hurts no one. It's just about the weird, creepy and sometimes actually scary DMs)
those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
Oof yeah, it often does end up being weeks and months but I've been getting more and more breaks between them so I'm hopeful!
My whole Instagram feed today seemed to be about how white women focusing on anything other than the women currently getting genocided could shut the fuck up so I've been pretty bummed all day.
I don't even know how to express how I feel about that. So, I should just accept unequal pay and getting talked over in my Monday meetings... because I'm at work, because I have bills to pay and a career to think about, instead of camping out in front of the Israeli embassy and making a scene all day? I just... idk man I'm tired.
Don't get me wrong, I do care. But I also care about the men and children getting killed alongside the women. It's a horrible gross genocide and people are starving. But I still need groceries and don't need to be catcalled on my way to get them. I'm fucking bummed.
I know exactly what you mean, my IG had started going that way around certain world events before I quit logging in there. Which was interesting because I'd moved to IG originally to get away from it on Facebook! These things are inevitable, it seems.
There are just too many terrible injustices in this world for us to hold on to the fury about all of them all the time.
I never felt weird posting to Reddit that I was a woman, and never got any weird dms or anything.. no clue why, just luck I suppose. Or could have to do with where/how I shared that info.. either way I was openly asexually female for the entire 5 years I had an actual account. Worst that happened was a bit of banter with a user about whether or not boobs float (something I honestly donโt know); they told me to go check and report back and I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since Iโm thin and not well endowed.
But Iโve been more vocal about it here because Lemmy is an absolute sausage party, and itโs so so so so obvious. It hasnโt been weird here at all either, but there also arenโt a lot of conversations in which I feel it necessary to divulge (probably because itโs a sausage party, so those sorts of conversations donโt happen as much)
I wasnโt using that as a treat myself excuse, but Iโm shopping for a fancy new bed frame (with headboard storage, power strip, lights, and drawers underneath to keep my cats out) and it was gunna be a birthday gift to myself, but now itโs a womenโs day/birthday gift ๐คญ
You definitely dodged some weirdos over there, well done!
I think from conversations I've had, a lot of women had such bad experiences on Reddit they decided to go anonymous on here and I wonder if that's actually why it seems like such a "sausage party" in the first place ๐ค
Oh well, mostly irrelevant really, as you say it's not like it constantly comes up! Happy birthday and congrats on that fancy new frame, it sounds awesome!
Hey thanks! I got a really high quality ultra plush mattress for myself last year, and itโs about time it had a nice frame to go on. Plus then I can use the old frame and decent mattress in the spare room, and give away the shitty futon thatโs in there. Win win.
I was around the internet back in the pre-social media days of โtits or gtfoโ and all, so I know I dodged a firestorm of bullets. ๐ณ
I saw some sort of demographic poll a while back about the makeup of fedi users, and it was something like 10% being female? I suppose thatโs probably a self-selected response type thing and probably not super accurate depending how they went about finding participants, and Itโs probably also highly dependent upon the instance, but thatโs why I said itโs a sausage party. Also every post about ladies things is like 80% โIโm a guy butโ, which is fine and all but.. feels sausagy.
I don't want to invoke any negative memories but my curiosity is unsatisfied - what the hell do these guys PMed you about? We're all anonymous on Lemmy and Reddit, nobody knows how we look or where are we from and yet publicly stating your own gender is enough to open the floodgates. It is baffling to me. Don't feel obliged to answer of course if that's a problem.
Going back to the topic - hello! I used today's running routine excuse to treat myself with some sweet snacks. Unfortunately I didn't pick the best ones so I'm left unsatisfied and with a thought that I exceeded my limit. Next time I guess.
To this day it baffles me too! But let's just say general grossness and leave it at that :D
Well done on actually doing the running! I'm supposed to be using part of this afternoon to go for a long walk as well as doing the gamedev stuff, but so far all I've managed is hanging out on Lemmy. Oops!
I can honestly feel the disappointment of a poor sweet choice from here. Nothing worse than feeling like you've earned it only to "waste" the opportunity. You have my express sympathy.
As a guy with a wife and adult daughter who are active online, I just don't get it either. My daughter was playing MMO games when she was little and I often had to take her keyboard and say, "Dude, she's 7!" when guys would PM her really sexual stuff. She ended up just making characters with gender neutral names to reduce it. That's from guys who know zero other than their gender. My wife gets all sorts of replies that are about her being a woman and nothing to do with the things she said. It makes no sense.
I'm so glad to hear Lemmy is better! I hope it continues to be a place where our interactions are based on our ideas and not our bodies.
I remember being a male teenager long time ago and the brain just screams about sex all the time.
That's probably why some of the less evolved men out there starts pm-ing any lady they see.
Just getting a response is of some value appearently.
Then you get older and realize girls are evil so they lose their attraction. Lol. Mostly kidding.
Hello back. I hope you're having a good day. I am even though I'm not doing anything special to celebrate my womanness, just living regular life.
Had a very good day thank you, despite not really doing anything majorly out of the ordinary. Just on with the weekly Top of the Pops watchalong on Mastodon now, after a day of fiddling with code and cross stitch and meeting cute dogs while out on a walk. Not bad going, really! ๐
No idea what timezone you're in but it sounds like it's earlier there, I hope your regular day is awesome! Nothing wrong with just a nice, uneventful regular day.
My time zone is UTC -5.
Heyo! I had no idea it was International Women's Day until my trainer told me this morning. My husband just left for a weekend trip so it's just me and the doggo tonight. I'm going to make a marsala and probably watch a bunch of Doctor Who.
Happy International Women's Day!
Ah brilliant timing, you can leave the washing up and watch as many episodes in a row as you want and nobody even needs to know about it. Love those weekends ๐
Not a woman, but still: hello, welcome, ๐
Itโs a shame a lot of women still feel the need to hide in order to avoid bad interactions online. Youโd think weโd have gotten past that phase by now. After all, half the folks on this planet are women. And since it isnโt 1992 anymore, girls are in fact allowed on the internet.
Hiding perpetuates that stereotype, but I understand why they do it.
Yeah it happened more than once back on reddit that I got some creeper sending a pm, would usually chat politely with them for a bit before pulling out the good 'ol "You do realize I'm a guy, right?" - unfailingly got them pissed off and angry real quick.
For extra creep factor, it would usually happen after posting on /r/teenagers
Ew ew ew
It's honestly just so much easier, I totally get it.
But let's keep it light! Assuming the "Dutch" part of your username is accurate, I'd like to congratulate you and your country on a banging Eurovision entry this year.
Happy International Women's Day, from a fellow woman on the internet. I honestly didn't even realize that was today, my life has been a complete mess lately. I'm sorry you've gotten gross messages online, I like to joke that I'm so unattractive and unlovable that even online no one bothers me ๐
Welcome to the Fediverse!
Indeed, people are quite a bit more welcoming here than Reddit - ofc not everywhere, but more so, on average. If it helps, you can block not only individual users communities, but even whole entire instances - the latter by going into your profile, scrolling way down, and adding the instance name to that list. Do what you want, but for me, when TENS of people continue to spam-reply me WEEKS after I STOP responding, that's the signal that they are refusing to control themselves, so I take matters into my own hands and block them. For that reason I blocked hexbear and lemmygrad.ml, and some people block lemmy.ml too but I do enjoy their memes and such and just stay out of their politics community so I have not gone that far for that one. If this describes you, note that this can improve your experience in the Fediverse by perhaps 90% so may be WORTH IT. People from those instances can still reply to your posts and comments, but you will not receive notifications anymore, nor see them while you are logged in:-).
One thing more I wanted to make sure that you and your friends know: DMs are not private. I don't know of any actual tools that makes reading someone's DMs possible, but the signals are out there and not only admins but anyone could, in theory. Probably that won't matter 99% of the time but e.g. sending physical addresses or phone numbers would be easy to scan for across the Fediverse by malicious actors.
Anyway, I hope you feel welcomed! (fwiw, I am not a woman, I just wanted to share these thoughts in case they would be helpful:-)
Thanks although, as I said, been here quite a while now. Still it's good advice for anyone newer who might be reading this, especially the part about the DMs!
My block list is surprisingly short, so far, although let's see if making such a statement in public ends up changing that fact ๐
You are completely right. I got so used to Reddit being thousands of misogynistic, vile, ridiculous comments at every turn, yet in haven't even thought about it until now. I haven't seen a lot of that here. I haven't been harassed at all or terrified to make a comment in fear of the hive mind making me wish I hadn't been born. Thank you lemmings for being better humans.
I wish I had the time today, but they made breakfast and lunch for all of the women in the office and had some fancy chat thing.
Happy Women's Day. Go to the spa. Take a long bath. Demand massages and cuddles. Something.
i remember playing pokerstars vr like 5 years ago. i learnt after a few days to pick a neutral avatar and mute mic. it stopped being fun real quick after that, because it ended up effectively as a 3d simulator of regular pokerstars.
haven't really done multiplayer vr since ๐
Hello and hey. I don't usually think of myself as "a woman on the internet" because I've basically grown up with it. I don't make any particular efforts to advertise it but I'm not against casually mentioning it. I've never had a bad experience on Reddit due to my gender, likely because I gravitated towards niche subs where gender was irrelevant to the discussion anyway.
International Women's Day was widely celebrated in my native country, but much less so where I now live. I don't really mind, because I don't like the whole politically-correct celebrations that feel hollow and forced ("You're a woman so, uh, here are some flowers! Women like flowers, right? Right???") anyway I had a great day at work with my favorite team, then a nice evening at home with some D&D. I just wish I had time to walk my dog - that's one of my goals for tomorrow.
Youโre a woman?
Well that canโt be right Iโve always operated under the assumption that on the internet the men are men, the women are men and the children are the FBIโฆ
/s
Happy International Womenโs Day to everyone! I volunteered at an IWD event this week and it was really encouraging and always eye opening. Many of us feeling imposter syndrome in our work and this ever-gnawing anxiety about the direction things are headed but just sharing and witnessing the courage out there was inspiring. We are out here and you are not alone!
Thanks for reaching in! I am just going to celebrate by taking care of myself this weekend, sleeping in as best I can, squeezing my cat, getting a massage, taking a walk, and planning out my balcony garden ideas for this year.
Honestly that sounds like such a brilliant weekend. Well played! And huge respect for the volunteer work, too, these sorts of things really make a difference to people.
Welcome, and happy Women's Day!
Imma do a line of estrogen in honor of the day! Maybe even flash a conservative, should be fun!
Lol yessss, love this energy
To all you International women! Happy day!
Hi ๐ I'm going to celebrate by doing my nails and taking a nice long bath!
Hello! May I ask what/what type of game your working on? All of your posts are about knitting so I really couldn't guess (if you're not making a game about knitting), but it's always fun to hear.
- not a woman, just a random teen
Also, congratulations on international women's day ๐
Hah, yeah I run two accounts on most things to keep my feeds more on-theme. This is the craft account, as you have noticed!
This is also me, I'm mainly making a minimalist city builder thing. Or trying to, anyway. But today I'm just working on a silly little minigame that is in fact about protecting yarn from moths!
Well, there is nothing wrong with yarn games! There is that one with the red guy made from yarn unrolling himself while platforming. I can't remember the name though. (EDIT: it wasn't that hard to find. It's called unravel)
Also Solaria looks nice, solarpunk is a new concept for me. But I probably won't play it, it's not really my type of game
Don't leave us hanging like that, what kind of game are you developing?
It's a very minimalist city builder thing, barely a game at all really. There's some screenshots over on my alter-ego's Mastodon if you're genuinely curious, although they're mostly hidden in a stream of nonsense from all the TV tooting I do on a weekend ๐
I was kinda hoping you'd say it was based on Dragons
Yes, I'm old...
Love the visual style! And the concept sounds chill too. Wishlisted!
Well hey hey hey! Always happy to see other women here. Have a great womenโs day!
Right back atcha!
Apparrently I am so over social media that I had to debate if I answer or not because - for all I know - you could also be a dude trying to lure girls out of their defenses for whatever reason.
But here I am, waving back my fellow female!
International womens day or not: Stand tall, be proud and hiiii!
That is very true and for a moment I debated taking a selfie holding up a message, AMA-style. But ultimately I was too lazy so I guess we'll never know for sure ๐
Cheers ladies!
Iโm celebrating today by doing my nails and then running around killing everyone in my current game, with a tiny splash of Friday-level work squeezed in for the fun of it! โบ๏ธ
Nail art and violence, you can't go wrong.
me, looking around while holding a bourbon on the rocks
"Man, who knew this place was crawling with chicks!" /s
Lol! Me, actually :D
A bit late but hello!
Thank you for the post
Hello and Happy International Women's Day! I hope yours is going awesome, and your day off work is hella restful! Although, gamedev defo sounds like work to me!
I too am a lady type on the internet! I've never really hidden that though as I grew up a HELLA nerdy Millenial. I've had the internet in my hizzy since grade school and I cut my teeth on things like HarryPotter.com and GaiaOnline. Cutesy nerdy spaces. However, on the anonymous spaces, people assume I'm a dude on the reg. I usually just let it go. It's likely why I haven't experienced the toxicity to the same level that other ladies unfortunately have.
That being said, this weekend I'm hoping to be productive as hell with some yard work, and chilling out with some Cyberpunk as it's my latest obsession. And I'm definitely not cooking tonight!
Because I'm food motivated though...whatchu thinking about for take out?
Ah but you see, it's not the actual proper gamedev project I'm supposed to be doing, it's procrastination gamedev which is way more fun!
We're probably basically the same age, there was a definitely a window of time there where being online was still niche enough that nobody really cared who you were, they just wanted enough people to nerd out with. I mean, creepy A/S/L chatrooms aside of course ๐ I kinda treat the internet as if it was still that way and dare it to prove me wrong, works out most of the time.
Tonight we are doing pizza, which on one hand yeah that's basic. But on the other hand small towns don't have much choice, and also pizza is bloody awesome!
Enjoy your Cyberpunking!
Ma'am, the way that the letters A/S/L took me BACK! ๐
And hell yeah, personal project gamedev does sound way more fun! It's always the passion projects that keep us going, right?
Enjoy your pizza! We might do the same! (Low key seeing what other people are ordering and mulling it over while I'm at work)
I, too, am woman! Hear me roar!
This whole time and I didn't even notice. Funny.
Hi, sisters of Lemmy!
Happy International Womans day (even if you're uninational)!
For the men who want to brush up, remember what we all learned at school with this educational film
Mr. T. Robot is wise beyond his years.
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Belated happy international women's day! Here's to more open and equitable internet forums :)
Hai!
Happy Woman's Day!
Hiya! Happy International Women's Day! I recently got back from a long break from Lemmy, and really most other social media too, but my experience on here has been pretty good too. Generally I'd say it feels more friendly and positive than I remember Reddit feeling, and with generally more productive conversations in my experience.
And yeah we'll probably just order in later too. I've been a bit sick lately so probably not much else
Ack, sorry you've not been well, but I'm glad you're able to curl up and treat yourself food-wise as that always helps at least a tiny bit.
It's takeaway pizzas all round tonight, by the sounds of it!
Thanks, I think I'm over the worst of it, but still not feeling 100%
Having a lazy day curled up under blankets, cozy in bed, and having some pizza is the best lol
Sister, you make the world awesome :) <3
I like the redditish format but I wish there was more compartmentalization, privacy and anonymity features on lemmy. there is no reason why anyone should be able to see all you do on here. it doesn't add anything, it only takes away. Except for maybe the people that only post art or something.
A bit late but hi!
Hello! I worked yesterday and I'm working today but I took time to pretty up and feel good about myself :)
Hello back! ๐ sorry I'm a day late. I did have to work yesterday but at least it wasn't a terrible work day, so I'll take it. I did the same on Reddit with not outwardly saying I'm a woman for obvious reasons, but I've had the same great experience on here so far. Happy to see the positivity is shared for others too!
Hello! Not a woman, but from what I've heard I understand the hiding. Frankly the men that do that sort of thing need a kick up the arse and I will never understand what it's supposed to achieve.
Happy women's day
Hey! Happy international women's day to you too โค๏ธ!
Heyyyy!
Whaa ..There's women on Lemmy ?
I bet she doesn't even use Arch!
Ehm... Akshually, the entity you refer to as "woman" doesn't exist. It's just a distraction by the deep state. WAKE UP PEOPLE
/s
You are a genderless, bodiless name. The rest is fantasy.
