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I also found the cavity search required for adoption to be a little off-putting

Gotta make sure you’re not smuggling puppies into their precious shelter.

I’d have to ask them to explain the question. “Ethically non-monogamous”? What the hell does that mean?

Having multiple partners but everyone involved knows and is okay with it. I've more often heard it as "ethical polyamory."
- not to be confused with "ethical polearmory" which is when u fight people with polearms thst have little soft baggies at the ends, sono one gets hurt :3
- Last time I checked, that's just called polyamory. The thing where they don't know is called cheating. We don't need a qualifier pushing a conservative narrative of what love is.
- I don't know I've ever heard someone say "ethical polyamory". Not sure if that's a regional thing, but for folks learning, I've usually heard just polyamorous or poly.
- Polyamory and ENM are two different things. Polyamory is a part of ENM but ENM is not polyamory. It's rectangles and squares stuff.
  
  You can be ENM without any polyamory.
- Much appreciated. Thank you!
It means they just shot your dog
- Dammit
- I thought that the police did that in the US.
It's redundant within the sex positive community. Polyamory presumes you're communicating with your partners to the degree they want information and respecting established boundaries.

This is not to say there aren't relationship troubles or missteps in a complex polyamorous relationship, but that these are aired and resolved.

Adultery issues are not about illicit sexual contact, but deception.

For all the people that are equating polyamory and ENM in this thread: they are related but are not the same. Swinging, for example, is also ENM. Lots of things are. Here's a chart and pretty much the only thing here that's not ENM is cheating.

I think I need a chart to explain the chart.
Weird how this chart perfectly overlaps with the poly one
- Not quite sure what you mean. There's a poly section in it, so it would have to do a weird fractal recursion to overlap itself...

My rescue pooch is sadly approaching end of life, as best I can tell. So, I'll be going through this process again some day in the not to distant future.

I'm not in New York, but I will say that when I was last looking to adopt, there were aspects of it that were definitely off putting and demoralizing. Some of the rescues had ridiculous requirements that made me wonder if they were actually trying to place their dogs in a home. One of the most egregious that I semi-recall: It was a breed-specific rescue (ex: Norwich terrier), but most of the dogs they were trying to adopt out were mixes. They required you to have owned that breed of dog before. You had to be in a long term relationship (i.e. no single people). You had to agree to let them make a home inspection every 6 months. They had to be added to the list of approved contacts at the pet's vet. They could take the dog back at any time and for any reason. Etc.

What. Why?

I get being careful but why to this extreme?