Cheating on her boyfriend with you will end in cheating on you with a new guy.
He dd the right thing, no regrets. It sucks a lot tho, and it's hard.
anon, knows that drunk people can't consent 👍
Anon is a good person
He earned extra tendies.
Anon doesn't care she's drunk, only that she "belongs" to someone else. Good Anon would have told her to try this again while sober and preferably single.
Unfortunately they don't actually state their reasoning. They just state what they told her while trying to reason with them to go to sleep.
You are probably right, but its just an assumption. In their position I would also be attempting to reason with them by reminding them of their existing relationship instead of "No, I don't want to rape you. You cannot consent."
My dumb ass was expecting her to pass out and anon grilling everything in the fridge.
That would be an absolute alpha move.
Me too! I was so excited to hear what random things he was gonna grill. 0.5/10, much disappointment.
Ya did the right thing, anon. Your mama raised you right, and would be proud.
ITT: The top regarded minds of Lemmy argue their shitty opinions on consent and rape
Abandon all hope ye who enter
I didn't see a single awful take. Some I disagreed with but none that were awful.
if looking for awful takes, abandon all hope ye who enter here
Good guy anon hope he lives life well
The alternative is rape charges... so... yeah.
Edit: If she's vomiting drunk do you think she's going to remember consenting in the morning? Or wake up, remember nothing, and think you raped her? She might remember, she might not. It's a roll of the dice, but there's no way I'm rolling those dice. You go argue in court how "she really wanted you" all you want.
Taking this series of events at face value, it could absolutely be argued that she enthusiasticly constented (wrapping her legs around him and kissing), however, annon did absolutely right, and I would have done the same.
Not really. The alternative is raping someone, but charges are extremely unlikely, hardly many rapes are actually prosecuted.
There are many ways this could go wrong morally or legally. Without being there, no one can know. (Which makes it dangerous legally).
Just because she vomited doesn't mean much. Especially, since they were "pre gaming". Idiots in college would often slam shots or beers in drinking games, throwing up before they had a chance to really absorb much alcohol.
Morally, it depends on the power dynamic. How drunk was he compared to her? In this case, it sounds like the OP wasn't drunk and made the safe decision. Even if he would be morally/legally right, the situation with the bf would probably involve a ton of unneeded drama.
Not rape but it doesn't matter.
If she claims it was because she is worried her bf will find out OP is fucked.
I really thought there will be a plotwist at the end that somehow this is all about grilling.
where's the fake and gay comments
Fake: Anon got invited to a party
Gay: He couldn't stop thinking about a guy
I thought anon was talking about grilling :c
"It wouldn't be right to rape you, you have a boyfriend," is about what I expect from a 4Channer.
EDIT: Holy fuck Lemmy, this comment section is a dumpster fire. First, to all the people saying he did reject her because she was drunk, not because she has a boyfriend, there's no evidence of that; he stated twice that it was wrong because she had a boyfriend, and zero times that it was wrong because she was drunk. But whatever, if you want to believe that, whatever, I'm done arguing over your fan fiction.
But here are some things that are 100% facts that some of you need to understand:
- If someone is throwing up, they are too drunk to consent to sex.
- If you are not throwing up, you are almost certainly not as drunk as someone who is throwing up. The person vomiting has alcohol poisoning, and unless you also have symptoms of alcohol poisoning, you are more sober than them.
- Vomiting does not remove alcohol from your system. Intoxication occurs when alcohol enters your bloodstream. Vomiting will prevent further alcohol from entering your bloodstream, but it will not remove any alcohol from your bloodstream, and you'll be just as drunk as you were before you vomited.
- If the OP had sex with the girl in this story, it would have been rape. She was far too drunk to give consent, and based on his telling, he was not. Clearly, some of you feel differently, but your shitty opinions on consent don't change the fact that legally, it would have been rape.
If you were in that situation, would you say "no, I would be raping you"? The boyfriend excuse is a much more tactful way to get yourself out of the situation (as well as a good enough reason in its own right).
No it's not. "Hey, I really like you, but you've had too much to drink and this wouldn't be right. If you feel this way tomorrow, let me know," is a perfectly acceptable answer. Hell, I've given that answer before. It's certainly not less tactful than, "You have a boyfriend and what you're doing is wrong." And yeah, cheating on your boyfriend is bad, but not as bad as rape, which this would have been.
So you're shitting on them for doing the right thing? Or am I misinterpreting
His reasoning for not sleeping with her was that she had a boyfriend, so it, "wouldn't be right." But that girl was so drunk that sleeping with her would have been rape. He did the right thing, but his reasoning was clearly wrong, and implies that if she didn't have a boyfriend he would have slept with her, even though she could not consent.
Or maybe what he expected was most likely to let a drunk girl let him go?
That's a fair expectation, but it doesn't change the fact that he only didn't sleep with her because she had a boyfriend, not because she was so drunk sleeping with her would have been rape.
Wouldn't be lemmy if we don't accuse this person of rape, AHH...... Classic
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