My friend is hosting a lunch at her house this weekend and everyone is bringing their children and partners. As the only childless person in the group, is it bad that I want to bail on this because...I don't want to hang out with kids this weekend?
Speaking as someone with kids, if a friend of mine were to say they were sick, or coming down with something and they were going to stay away - I would be very grateful. I'd also be cool with a childless person bailing on a kid-centric thing, but that's just me.
Nope. If kids just arnt your thing its fine. Course, if they all have kids and you only wanna hang out when the kids aren't around that's gonna put a strain on the relationship.
Just be honest, and / or use my tried and true method. No explanation, just "something came up and I can't make it." Something that came up I don't explain that it was I didn't want to go. It's still honest. I can't lie to people, but omitting information likely to cause offense is nice.
In my car waiting to head in for this official event. Dilemma. I need to do a poop really badly, but I don’t think I’d ever get over the mortification of doing a poo in a diplomats house. I would, however, like the experience of pooing in a house that costs at least $15,000,000. The toilet alone probably costs more than my car.
Do it. Poo it. I once missed the chance to be invited into an old heritage listed mansion in Toorak with its own ballroom while I was working outside, because I felt awkward and thought I should beat the rain before heading home. I regret it to this day
The last couple of nights we've been having dinner early and having a light supper later on. It makes sense because the kid comes home from school hungry and by 6pm I'm starving. The man doesn't care when he eats. I normally do this on a Sunday but this is working so it might become regular.
My dinner
Image: One bowl of Thai red curry and coconut beef stew soup with vegetables, rice and a dollop of sambal oelek. It was delicious and warming.
I think im going to apply for a volunteer photographer position for a Vic dog rescue organisation. Will be great practice for the studio my partner and i are working towards opening and ill get to help the doggos find their people :)
Yesterday, I discovered that the doctor supervising the nurses doing the vaccinations at the clinic near me is a bit of an anti-vaxxer who tried to talk me out of vaccinating my daughter for COVID-19 (never mind the ATAGI recommendation is that everyone over 5 years receive it, and lots of recent science shows a clear net benefit for children of all ages and comorbidities), and played down the benefits and played up the risks. And when I said we still wanted to do it, he said the nurse would call back when they confirm they still have the vaccine in stock - and then they said it was too late to do it that day and we had to reschedule for Thursday.
It makes me sad that doctors get in the way of parents vaccinating their kids with vaccines that a committee of more specialised doctors than them have recommended every Australian over 5 should get. I wonder how many other parents he has done this to, not all of whom may have been such a strong advocate for their child as to push past the anti-vaxx nonsense coming from someone who should know better.
Feels similar to when asking doctors about getting tubes tied, they always say no if the person is below a certain age and/or hasn't had kids yet. Like okay? Who cares?
I had to (well, chose to) wear heels into work today because I have an official thing to do straight after to do with diplomats so I need to look professional. As I was leaving the house I thought about packing flats or slides or slippers to wear under my desk or just around our floor, but couldn’t be bothered carrying something else into work.
And let me tell you that I’ve never regretted a decision so much in my life.
I feel that. I have some super kick-ass platform boots that I love (they also make me 11cm taller which is nice) but oh my God, I wear them for maybe 10 minutes and my feet are killing me.
I have to bring sandles if I wear them, but issue is I've gotta hold these big chunky platform boots.
I've decided to go at a semi normal time and ask for a ticket swap and if I don't get it, no big deal, I tried. Lol. Either way, I'll be seeing Lizzo a second time ❤️ if I can't give her the bag, then I'll keep it for myself and use it.
I've decided to take a day off on Friday for some self care and to have a long weekend.
Part of it is because there's no public holidays till next term and maybe the weather has been making it harder for getting up but a long weekend sounds like a good idea for me this week.
Not sure what I'll do, with my tax return coming I thought I might treat myself to something.
In the office today. I've caught up on all of my outstanding work and it doesn't look like I'll be starting any new work until after my holiday so this will be a masterclass in looking busy.
video is of a cat looking very busy mashing a laptop keyboard
Nearly every UK or Aus content creator I follow gets comments from Americans telling them “that’s not how you spell [insert word with UK spelling here]”. And at work we work with a US based web dev and he has gone through our website builds and mock ups before and “corrected” the spelling because it was “wrong”.
Funniest one I saw was that Melbourne will loose its reputation as sports capital of Australia. Oh sure, the public will refuse to attend all other sports now because the commonwealth games are cancelled.
I’m fine with it being cancelled. A lot of money spent for no gain, money could be better spent elsewhere.
This really speaks to the obscene commercialisation of sport. Because it's not really about the sport anymore, it's about the "prestige" and the money.
The no case is shorter, but, unlike the yes case, it includes web links for further reading. Seems like a bit of an oversight for the yes case committee... or some kind of strategic choice I'd be interested to hear the justification for.
this whole thing is torturous, like pulling off a Band-Aid slowly. For the love of god call the vote and lets get it done.
I'm pretty confident we all KNOW the right answer here, but the longer this drags out the less confident I am that the right answer is gonna get the votes it needs.
Leaving it till October just lets Murdoch spin up more fear and hate.
Yeah I suspect Gov are hoping that waiting till the end of the year will give the right-wing windbags time to run out of fear-mongering steam, not sure if it'll work. It'd be nice if the debate was a bit less emotive by then.
I decided to vote yes ages ago, my old neighbours are first nations people from Alice. So I'm just not reading any of it. I agree, get it done. Them and some of their family members were for it.
It's gross that the no camp are trying to reach the old no camp from the same sex marriage plebiscite. Calling all bigots and colonialists, vote no. ffs. It's also ridiculous that they can't be held to account for misinformation.
Alright, apparently I can try and get a ticket upgrade/swap for Lizzo if I go to the box office, I wouldn't go crazy early to line up, so I would be risking not being able to be up the front. Haha. But I just really want to show her my T-shirt design and even give her the bag I got printed. Thoughts? Suggestions? Feelings?
Get to the front. Hold it up so Lizzo can see it. It's an awesome design. I'm pretty sure if you show people in front what you've done, they'll let you through if you're not already there. I saw footage from the sydney show and it looked like a nice crowd.
That's my hope, I'm also just genuinely not physically capable of standing in line for hours or waiting in the cold for hours to get near the front. Lol. I'd get sick in a hot minute.
Can I just say how lovely it is to have running water? I got up in the night to go to the toilet and the water was off. I had to find a bottle of water to wash my hands, after spending way too long with the tap on while my brain tried to compute the fact that no water was coming out. Can confirm that turn it off and turn it back on again does not work for plumbing.
I woke this morning to a leaking bathroom sink in my 5 year old house.
The stupid builders did not fit a drain (or waste) with an overflow so the water was pooling inside the sink cavity and causing corrosion.
I saw a replacement at The Warehouse for $30-something that did have an overflow but was crap. I kept driving to a professional plumbing supply and picked up a much better quality one for $40-something.
It was a good thing I had today off otherwise I would be brushing my teeth in someone else’s bathroom until Saturday.
I'm having a crack at making steamed eggs. Going to have them on microwaved rice I think. If they work, could be a nice easy weeknight dinner option. Following the instructions in approximately 1 zillion youtube videos.
It seems to be a sort of egg custard, but made with water not milk. I did use some flavourings in the actual egg mix. Came out fine. Am very full rn as I couldn't stop myself from going back to the pan for a bit more. Just to use up the rice you understand.
Hello it is me, I did not die in my sleep
I clenched my jaw while fears did seep
Into my thoughts and out my pores
A fear response one can't ignore
She cries and screams, a constant shout
All the things I dare not talk about
I cannot keep going, I'm at an edge
A metaphorical one-way precipice
Memories bloom at the base of my head
Can't make friends like this
I'm a weirdo and a freak
Can't make amends like this
My future is quite bleak
Can't keep myself safe
Can't keep up with the race
Can't help but wonder if I'd be better off dead
So I'm going back to bed
kid jumped across myki machine
all of the machines turn red
my destination isn’t a just walk out one
goes up to staff to tell them i can’t get in
staff: “do you know who did that?” ma’am i ain’t no snitch!
Ah discords. I just checked some of the trans ones I'm in to see if it were they which imploded because a few have in the last six months. I was active in one, but meh, young queers can be super ageist without even realising it, it died soon after I left, which wasn't my doing but I met some great folk I'm still in touch with at least.
So baby sleep can go wonky when they are developing new skills. My baby has been a bit off for a few days so I was like, awesome, maybe he’ll be crawling soon!
The new skill he’s actually developed? Biting! 🙃 And he thinks it’s really funny too. Especially when I say NO!
Lol accidentally posted this in the wrong daily thread, my phone loaded yesterdays.
I've gotta get a new job. there's this big change coming at some point. But its been so poorly managed and its going to change my work almost entirely and there's basically 0 assurances beyond "Oh yeah, we will keep you doing what you are doing", but this whole change is going to strip away all my responsibilities. I mean like, it MIGHT be fine, but I don't think I will be waiting in the dark to see what happens. The uncertainty is a killer. Looks like we just lost our second "Head Of" today too, this one was replacing the one who resigned 6 months ago for unconvincing medical reasons. I'm thinking its GTFO time.
That was me about 3 months ago (and a little bit of me now). I think you're right. In those kinds of situations I think it never hurts to start looking....asap.
Yeah it's worth having a job offer or two to fall back on, especially if they try to lowball you/mess with your job description. Worst case you're in a better bargaining position, best case you find a cool new job!
I was given extra food because I had to wait a long time for dinner and then I stupidly ate the extra food and it was too much food and now I am too full of food and extra stupid.
I'm extra tired today but work was active and I walked nearly ten ks all up today. I have been really emotional these last couple of days, but with all these super deep feelings being pretty new to me and tears of relief and joy, I'm not complaining.
Just picked up takeaway of the delivery meal I've been getting off and on for months through Uber. Was half the price. Need to get off my ass more to go get pickup.
I am SO bloody excited for this camping trip next month. I'm no closer to having decided what tent/swag Im going with, but I would sleep under a bloody tarp at this point if it meant getting out of this house. I just need a change of scenery.
Last time I went camping was supplied almost ten years ago.
I remember being in this bloody tiny tent and I had a panic attack. Had to sleep in the tent with my (at the time) friends. Luckily they cut off their section...
Its not for everyone, but for a cheap night out and a chance to reset and relax its hard to beat. Worth giving it another go if its been 10 years. A cheap big tent can be picked up from Kmart for next to nothing. But yeah not in Winter...
I have road tested the Coles brand lemon curd cheesecake and I'm impressed with the $6 dessert. A little on the sweet side but that's being picky. 4/5 yum yums. 🍰🍰🍰🍰
So antsy to get the hell out of work tonight (3hrs to go), my anxiety boarders on panic the entire time I'm here. Honestly think I might have developed a bit of agoraphobia working from home for so long.
The man is home today and I have the morning show on while I fluff around doing shit and the adverts are already starting to shit him. He's been awake for half an hour.
Yesterday he went to the doctor and was given antibiotics. When I questioned him why, his response was "I don't know darling. Apparently my ears are severely blocked and I need to go back next week and he had a mask, face shield and full body armour on and I'm sure his 3rd language may have been English and I couldn't hear him properly and I wanted to get the fuck out of there". At that point I stopped all interrogations.
Heavy things lifted. Cheese and biscuits consumed. A bit more study and then it will be dinner. Planning a parmigiana, potato bake and some other vegetable dish yet to be determined.
I have a Q that might seem dumb, but I don't have any friends who would be able to answer haha
Are women who work in IT sort of expected to wear make up? I need to start applying for IT jobs, and in my whole 27 years I think I've worn make up like three times - all of those being for dancing events when I was a kid lol and I'd really prefer to not start wearing it now
At any place I've ever worked: no (unless you want to)! And if any do expect that, it would be a red flag that it isn't a great place to work, so if they don't hire you over that, you would have dodged a bullet.
I reckon it'd be a brave manager who would try to enforce a make-up policy, especially if you're not customer-facing. I doubt it'd be an issue, I've worked with many a lady nerd who went without - and they're often the coolest peeps to work with. :)
Oh true? Thanks for your insights, it makes me feel a bit less anxious about it haha
I just want to do IT jobs smh I selfishly don't want to change stuff like that about me hahaha
Are women who work in IT sort of expected to wear make up?
Depends on the IT stream I guess? Sales? Maybe. Dev? Mate they are lucky if you washed the hoody in the last 3 weeks.
I'd be trying for help desk/service tech roles ...
I think that's fair why you wear it 😃
It sounds silly but even the thought of wearing it makes me feel uncomfortable, and I don't think this is like a "you get used to it" thing - it's the same as dresses. I just sort of can't if that makes sense haha
My brother sent a belated birthday gift over and I wanted to just save it. But he sent it because yesterday I mentioned Wynton Marsalis was coming to town and he knows how rarely I go out. So I looked up tickets casually just now and there was exactly one left so I decided yolo and booked it. I dunno if the MSO likes creating artificial scarcity to drive yolo purchases like mine, and I'm sure more tickets will be released, but if not, woops I guess I bought the last ticket.
The cool Winter air carries hints of Spring,
Soft scents of flowers, light wind brings.
The shadow of earth rolling over from East,
Carried up by the dusky pink Belt of Venus.
The Sun sets sights on lands far away,
Gone just long enough to start a new day.
Maybe I'll see those places too, I wonder,
Drifting back down into a restless slumber.
Why was it showcasing Regional Victoria? What in regional Victoria is WORTH showcasing?
I'm not saying the country is shit, the country is beautiful! but the major towns with the infrastructure to host such this ARE shit. Geelong is a shithole, Shepperton is worse. Bendigo is okay-ish but in the middle of F'n nowhere. Wodonga and Wangaratta both suck.
its SUCH a Melbourne idea. As in, someone from Melbourne whos never gone to the country! These towns don't want upgrades to stadiums. They want better schools and hospitals. And more frequent trains to the city!
Yeah, if cash is injected into regional Vic, it should be infrastructure and actually improving the towns. Not a ribbon cutting ceremony in front of an aquatic centre that the local council will have to upkeep for the next 20 years.
Ahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Oh geez. My colleagues did some work on the prelim stages over the last few months. I am surprised but definitely not shocked
I'm playing my latest op shop vinyls. Winners so far. The traditional Hawaiian music was nice, some I recognised and it was the first time I've ever heard the Hawaiian language spoken or sung. Menuhin playing Delibes, omg, it is so beautiful. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErBCmWcr41c
Day 23 of exercise program and day 7 of tummy exercises completed. Once again I swapped out some of the exercises that might upset foot recovery for more tummy exercises. I'm not really getting the cardio I set out for, but at least I'm sticking to an exercise program for the first time in my life. I just keep saying to myself, there'll be time enough for that when your foot is better.
So far my plan has been to just get into a routine and stick to it. When I've finished this set of exercises, my next step is to begin another set but actually focus on my diet this time. Normally when I come home on pay day I'll bring a bottle of spirits and some alcoholic ginger beer to enjoy for the week. I've decided to cut that out, starting from yesterday.
(You've inspired me Hongophones!) Also will benefit Mr Peeler as I noticed that the vodka and GB is disappearing quicker than my consumption alone.
Thanks for listening to the extended remix of "I'm getting healthy!" Have a great day everyone!
Yay! Well done. You're well on your way to better health and in turn better self esteem. Being lighter on your feet is a wonderfully free feeling.
Alcohol gets turned into sugar by the liver or some other process. I've lost a bit more weight since I stopped drinking and started counting kms walked and my job is a workout in itself, which is nice. Waist is down from 34 last year to 30 though a bunch of that is atrophy of stomach muscles I think. I donated my scales, but I think I've lost about 10 kilos or maybe more. I'm shrinking and it's giving me a more femme silhouette, which is pretty amazing.
You hit the nail on the head, as usual. I remember when I was lighter and it was easier to get around. When I was younger and drank like a fish, my metabolism was different and the consequences weren't the same weight-wise and in general on a personal level as they are now. I'm also inadvertently enabling Mr Peeler's drinking, which as someone with a heart condition he shouldn't be doing it. I'm not sure he'll ever give up drinking or weed. The way I see it, life is a journey of continual self improvement, so I can always be better even if those around me aren't on the same path.
Did my first ever trip (as captain in a 4-wheeled vessel) with my wife tonight. 60km round trip to Burwood and back.
Uneventful, except the construction muppets on the city-bound Eastern Freeway decided, in a space of 2km, to put up an 80, then 40, then 100, then 80, then 40 sign again before actually encountering any road work. Other road muppets simply ignore it and blazed past at 80 in the adjacent lane.
I remember being on the CityLink from the east once approaching the burnely tunnel and they closed every single lane into the leftmost one, opened it up, then closed every single lane into the rightmost one. So it went 80, 60, right lane closed, 40, middle lane closed, 100, 80, 60, left lane closed, 40, middle lane closed, then back to 100. Each section only lasted for one of the overhead speed limit gantry things, no wind, no roadworks, no roadworkers, no machinery
Deffo seemed like someone in the control centre was bored
If you got a dashcam, just block the road and force them to reverse.
If they choose to respond with violence, just close the doors and windows, keeping the camera rolling, while you just sit there giving them the death stare, without saying anything. See if this also baits them into a assault charge as well while you're at it.
Then send it to Dashcam Owners Australia to be published for all to see.
I'm thinking about maybe upgrading my phone. I have a Google Pixel 3, and it's fine, just the battery dies quicker. Also the back glass on it is smashed a bit. But I'm just wondering if I should upgrade either to the 6 or 7. Or am I just thinking I need the "newest best thing". But also Google has (stupidly imho) stopped support for the Google Pixel 3. So if I at least buy a 6 or 7 I've got a few more years of support.
how long have you had the 3? the model is 4 years old now, so IF you had it from new and its served you that long I'd be inclined to go the latest model you can get in the hopes of replicating the longevity. With that said the Pixel A is usually just as gooder phone, if not better than the OG.
Personally though, I'm apple after the whole "Android letting Facebook steal my wifes fertility data" fiasco.
If you're fine fiddling around with custom ROMs, then you can squeeze more years out of any existing phone. OnePlus, Samsung and Pixel being the easiest. OnePlus because of support, Samsung because of popularity and Pixel because it's the closest to "pure". Otherwise Motorola or Sony have the least bloatware after Google.
End-of-life: The Pixels 4 XL, 4, 3a XL, 3a, 3 XL, 3 are no longer being updated by Google, so the CalyxOS releases for these devices only contain the fixes to the open source components, such as the OS code and the Linux kernel. Proprietary components such as the bootloader, modem firmware, and other firmware no longer get updates.
You could save some cash and get a refurbished 5, 6 or 7? Check out reebelo or phonebot. They get refurbed pixels through quite regularly.
I had a 4A up until recently. It was a great phone, I much prefer it over this Motorola.