My father kept us imprisoned in the house. He would take me to and from school, and my mother to and from work.
Sometimes I would be allowed to go with him to do the weekly food shopping. That was it. The rest of the time, we were props from him to unleash his insanity onto.
As I grew older, my mother convinced him to let her take me to the doctor with her, by ourselves. She would then tell me to go visit with friends, then we would meet back up and go home together, with him none the wiser.
Sometimes my mother is in my dreams and for a split second when I wake up I have forgotten she has passed away.
What a life it has been.
I'm glad you made it out and are here now.
Stories like this one, make me tear up knowing there are families out there living in forced nightmares.
Wouldn't hesitate to sue if I can. All proceeds from the suit for a parenting licensing scheme, with an in-person exam that's on par with or harder than a Masters degree university course.
Both my parents were the prison wardens of my life; without hijacking your post I'll just say I grew up in a very uncharacteristic way for someone born early 70s. All those memes where they say they rode bikes all day with their friends and had to come home before the street lights came on and mucked about building cubbies etc., I cannot at all relate to. It's hard when you can be long out of an abusive situation and it still just randomly pops up for no reason, like you're out of it but never really free. It took a shamefully long time into my adulthood to realise that I am an adult, and have to employ my own initiative in life. I'm glad you're out of that situation, and I hope the random "pop up" trauma doesn't trouble you too much 🙏🏼
I'm sorry you went through that.
I truly understand how you feel ❤️
Bro. thats.... thats so shit. I'm glad you are free now. Cant physically hug ya so go stand in front of a mirror give yourself a big hug and pretend for me, ok?
I appreciate the kind words man. Today wasn't too bad. Tomorrow is a new day.
Everyone gets a present.
Does my bum look big in this?
No girl. You look beautiful.
That means she's just going to appropriate a smaller box.. or all of them.
Kitty!!!!
Hello beautiful!
The trap is working
I am patient when it comes to technology, I am well trained, I read instructions very carefully
pisses me off no end when i am gaslighted telling me I don't know what I am doing , godamm fucking air cleaner has the wrong filters and I can't fix it without the right parts, just like I said 2 years ago
thank you for listening to my rant
Is this a cannot operate a screwdriver with genitals situation?
more a fragile ego
My birth certificate got lost somewhere in the house a year or so ago and after many unsuccessful attempts to find it, I'd decided today was going to be the day I'd apply for a new one. Checked the Justice services joint in Broady was open and off I went on the bus and train. Sign on the door apologising for inconvenience but they are no longer processing BD&M requests, scan the QR code for a list of other locations and go there. Ok, so I did and Reservoir was the closest, so off I went on the bus and train. Get to Reservoir and the same sign is on their front door!
Ended up getting photocopied notarised documents and submitted online, which I didn't want to do because I hate sending personal ID documents online, would much rather do in person. I just don't feel safe. The website is an utter shitshow, wouldn't accept my postal address, I've seen window cleaning junkies work more effectively.
So I got home and baked brownies with the kids, and they are fudgy and delicious (the brownies not the kids)
They look great!
Yum!
That is so frustrating!
Sorry to hear about the trouble you experienced today.
It must have been frustrating as hell to deal with.
Those brownies look so nice. I could really use a batch of them warm right now after the shitty day I’ve had and fall into a blissful food coma.
they do look good 😋
I think I’ve overdone my stress eating.
I've already had about half a cup of rice but I'm about to chow down on some chips... definitely craving the carbs tonight as well.
Yummy chippies.
As ambitious as it was I wasn’t able to eat the whole lot so I have dinner for tomorrow as well.
Yipes - got a phone call on my break between clients - major shit has gone down at work.
Better not say too much even semi-anonymously, but it's time-to-join-the-union-and-get-representation shit.
I see many phone calls in my future...Boys being synchronously cute NOT on their cushions. Cats will cat.
I’m doing my part🏴☠️
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Arrrr! 🦜
The surf is roaring in the distance.. 'bout 1.5km away, honestly one of my favourite sounds. Then every few minutes the neighbours' cow moos and I lose my shit. I don't know why a random cow mooing at 1am is funny but it is. Dog barking isn't funny, plovers squawking isn't funny.. but when the cow goes it hits different.
the sun has set and my room is dark
i should get off the bed and the phone
and clean my room
as mother instructedToday's the day I know for sure I need antihistamines this season 😢
Today's the day I've ramped it up to nasal spray + tablets. And I'm still a bit concerned I could be coming down with something.
I'm so itchy it's not funny 😣
I’ve wrecked myself today as well but stress could have contributed to it.
Slept for 7 hours uninterrupted. Luxury!!
This level of sleepage is unheard of by those in my household aged between 13 and 79 lol
Okay I've definitely had way too much caffiene and too much work time because my eyes feel very googly and I got that wired/tired thing going on. Someone make me dinner and take out the rubbish and put away the clothes and pack my bags for me please...
...wait, that someone has to be me? Bummer. 😮💨 Gotta remind myself of my trip, true rest and recuperation is around the corner...
e: somehow made it to the finish line, plus the dishes and a shower. I can't wait to just do nothing
Ive been playing (reading?) this compilation of interactive stories. Not quite a choose your own adventure, but you make choices for the main character (it reminds me of a dungeon master narrating a DnD game and you choose what spells or how to approach a situation). It's very compelling, I've finished the Wizard's stories.
However, this shows me that amateur male writers generally do not know, or care to know, how to write a good female character. I loved the cleric woman whom the main character teams with, but no, she would not wait in a room for days/weeks while I'm cavorting in The Abyss/Hell. She is a cleric who has been in combat and has bashed goblin heads and smote nasty evil. She would not wait in that room on the off chance I would return. Ffs.
It appears most of the series' in this collection are from a male point of view, and while I don't mind the 80s/90s-esque style of writing (calling women pretty things, etc) as it fits the silliness of medieval fantasy heavily inspired by DnD, I do mind when women character are just treated as props.
I got so many things on my to do list done today 🙂 , just niggling things
I have every cupboard sorted now and unwanted stuff put aside, most has already been taken to op shop or distributed to neighbours
As a list queen I can relate. It’s so nice getting things crossed off and some decluttering done
I got everything youse asked for and I gift wrapped them 🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁. Now who's gonna help carry everything in and put it away?
I picked up some German cotton thread. It scanned at $30. I declined.
Ps. Also went to Coles because I can't live without cheese sticks.
I'll give you a hand iyl. How about you do the fridge stuff and I'll sort the pantry stuff?
Thank you.
me me me! 🦾🦾
I didn't put an order in so I'm gonna sit there and raid your booze cupboard whilst you're all busy.
Eeeee. Just don't touch my Hennessey or I'll knife ya.
Oh I forgot to mention their rose moscato isn’t bad. I no longer drink and it’d be too sweet now but I remember $5 used to get you some perfectly cromulent lolly water. Aldi booze is apparently good.
There’s a Halo top knockoff and from what I remember the party pies and fish fingers are solid.
The handwash from what I remember is fine and the peanut butter was too. The classic lipstick tubes were nice.
(Just some tips on what was ok in case you wanted suggestions)
I occasionally pick up the pink moscato because I love the taste profile it has and they were still around 5 dollars from memory.
This week has been the 7am start work week with lots of uni stuff due. Tired but wired. Sleep deprived but slowly sleeping earlier! Submitted stuff a little late but getting through it. Next week will be better
You got dis one!
Sounds like you've got this 🙂👍
Hehe thank you :) I'm sure I will get through it!!
I keep waking up swinging my arms. it started a week or 2 ago I dreamt the toddler was falling off the bed and woke up basically throwing myself over the mrs to catch him, only it was 3am and he was in his own bed. Happened a few times last night where i woke up jolting my arms out or something. Worried its only a matter of time till I hit the mrs or a cat in my sleep. Not exactly sure what I can do stop it.
cuddle a big teddy bear in your sleep
some chocolate bikkies would be nice
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Thank you. nom nom 🙂
I have spilt coffee on myself twice today, which is twice too many. First I was walking along a footpath/bikepath and stepped on my partners heel accidentally, and he stopped to fix it and I just walked into the back of him and spilt coffee down my front. Glad I had a raincoat on lol.
Second was just now, and just out of pure unco-ness I just slopped some of my coffee onto my oodie.
Put a fork in me, I'm done 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
There's some kind of onepass members deal weekend thing happening from today til sunday. Considered posting in the frugal community, but although they are deals, everything is branded so it doesn't really compare to just buying home brand everything (I mean who the fuck is spending 30 bucks (on sale!) for "One Summer Eau De Toilette Spray"??). But these are some of them that seemed okay:
Kmart
- 110 pack Finish Classic dishwashing tabs - $15 [13.6c per tab]
- 1.25L Morning Fresh original dishwashing liquid - $7 [55.9c/100ml (I think)]
- Handheld physio massage gun set - $49
- 10 piece Sistema Storage Set - $22
- 188 Piece Mega Art Set - $29
- 4L Duo washing liquid [$3/L]
- 5kg clean and soften washing powder - $12 [$2.40/kg]*
(NB on the washing powder: Coles sell a 4kg box of homebrand washing powder for $5, so that's what I mean by homebrand still being cheaper. That's what I usually buy)
And a couple more from Kmart that seem like more kiddy things. Idk if they're worth it, or would even appeal to kids (they seem like stuff nobody else bought so ended up on special buy to me), but I know a lot of parents like to buy things on sale for chrissy time through the year, so maybe they appeal to someone:
- Heroes of Goo Jit Zu Jurassic World assorted dinosaur thingies - $10ea
- Disney Sorcerer's Arena Epic Alliances Core Set - $15
- Hot Wheels City Super Loop Fire Station Playset - $19
- Crayola Multi-Colour Light Board - $10
- Monster Jam Garage Grave Digger Playset - $49
- Nickelodeon PAW Patrol All PAWS Gift Set - $15
- DreamWorks Gabby's Dollhouse Kitty Fairy’s Garden Treehouse Playset - $29
Elsewhere
Catch, Bunnings, Target, and Priceline all have deals on, too, but I haven't had a chance to look through them just yet. Plus I'm trying not to impulse buy all of the things.
Officeworks has 15x flybuys points on Apple products, and half price standard photo printing in store.
That’s totally cool to go in there. I’m not a mod or anything but if people prefer brand for some reason and use deals or coupons that’s still frugal
The cost of selling my name and details is not worth "deals".
You have a fair point. Personally, I've pretty much just accepted my details probably already are up for sale somewhere. Everywhere seems to either have data breaches once a week, or basically is a data breach (selling everything they know to the highest bidder). The "deals" aren't really anything special for the most part either. Half price/home brand pretty much makes the first list redundant anyway
I'm gonna recreate The Slab from KFC for dinner tomorrow night for me and the kid. Soft rolls, bbq sauce, cheese sauce, popcorn chicken. Easy.
The Slab is an affront to god (that I would have tried by now if I wasn't certain it would inflict on myself severe gastrointestinal distress).
Had a dream that UFC was on at the MCG and I had lounge tickets, so I went and took my cat. Just carried him around with me and he was entranced because there was a parade of women wearing huge, sparkly ballgowns. The food in the lounge sucked and tbh it kind of resembled some old rich person’s house with pale pink carpets and curtains. Pretty sure I went ringside and watched a fight, but the cat wasn’t enjoyed it, so we went back up to the lounge. Cat and I went home where I found out that Lizzo was going to be playing at the AFL Grand Final alongside Katy Perry.
Better than dreaming about needing to prove myself at work, I guess!
Can’t believe the bear on a bike at Barkly Square was stolen?
Ahoy there m'hearties! It do be Talk Like a Pirate Day! 🏴☠️
1 seeder 200 leachers.
Arrrrr!
I feel a pirate song coming on.
https://youtu.be/5kjpaPdM_jE?si=5RcOxeWk4Rf3rUVz
As requested
My hayfever is still raging. 😠
Well fuck, there goes any plans getting anymore food. I fucking hate my life.
Maybe we should become like Russians. Accept that life is mostly awful with a few moments of happiness.
I'm trying to keep a hold of my stress and anxiety but I think it's blowing out.
I won't feel better about it till tomorrow or the day after to see if I can get some extra payments come in hopefully.
Totally ruined my plans for for the next few days.
It’s an underrated philosophy 😂
What’s wrong dude? Do you at least have some basic food to last you a few days or can get some?
I can find some resources
Edit: Food organisations
(If you have or can get basics) Boris's budget cooking
Ps. I hope this isn’t as serious as it sounds and that I’m only jumping to conclusions. But this isn’t a sneak diss or anything, the economy being what it is I instantly worry when someone says they can’t get food
I got enough food in the freezer, tons of pasta and noodles to get me by.
I was hoping to be able to treat myself to some extra food like homemade burgers and stuff but something unexpected happened and drained my reserves to be able to do that.
Also can't afford to fill up on petrol so I'm basically going to save as much travelling as I can for the moment.
I must now acknowledged I have reached levels of revenge procrastination…
🤔 Wait… Maybe it’s just that I have a word for it now…
Anybody want anything from Aldi while I'm down there? Milk, bread, power tool?
Ooh, may I please have some salted pretzel chocolate? Thank you! And if there's something crafty and cheap from the Middle Aisle of Dreams, that would be so fun, thank you!
Will do.
Some beef mince, burger buns, cheese, bacon and sauce if you wouldn't mind.
I'm craving burgers!
I think I am too now.
2 boxes of spinach and ricotta flavour potato gratin please.
Noted. I'll also grab you a box of their spinach mini quiches to try because they are really good.
Gin! mine is always out of gin!
Noted. Tonic with that?
Hmm… I’m a fan of the Trimat sensitive laundry sauce, the dark chocolate, and I used to like the Lacura red tub face cream. (Do they still have it?)
The soy milk and bread are also the same thing as elsewhere, pretty solid
They have a lot of alternative long life milks for cheaper.
I think they still have the red Lacura but it's a special buy. I'll see what I can magic up.
Anyone know how Chemist Warehouse's App works for ordering prescriptions? Kinda getting annoyed at the 20 minute wait and would like to be able to order to pickup
Big day in the garden today. Managed to piss off a fair few bull ants pulling weeds out. Been bitten a couple of times before and what I learned was when that formic acid smell hits, take a break to let them chill.
That brings us to the rave once again, from Fred again. Ants are saying everybody... leavemealone
I think last time I made waffles I must have done a half batch. This time I did a full batch and I now have 16 waffles in the freezer for future consumption, along with a couple in my tummy.
I also stewed up my remaining apples and pears with some spice & brown sugar, a couple of serves are in the freezer, one was eaten on the waffles and one is waiting to be topped with yoghurt for a future snack. I'm starting to run out of room in the freezer!
Good night everyone.
Nice emoji choice 😺
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wtf this weather, just keep getting random rain , I have painting to do 🫥
have zero motivation anyway 😔
ok, i'll just do easy stuff like putting everything away in it's right place, at least that's something
Aussie WT20 Vs NZ on tv at the moment.
5/119 NZ at the moment, 17 overs.
I missed the start but at least I get to see the Aussie bat. Hope we get them!
Ahoy 🛶
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Does anyone here have any knowledge on share dividends and what it means to have it fully franked?
no
prolly one of those things where wiki would be useful
here you go, easy as abc https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Australian_dividend_imputation_system
I still sort of don't understand it.
Does the franking amount get added to a dividend payout?
It's a bit like when your employer pays part of your pay to the ATO in anticipation of future tax. If the company distributes money they have already paid tax on you will have a dividend that is paid directly to you, plus an amount that has been paid in tax. Fully franked means the company has paid tax on the whole lot, partially franked means they only paid tax on a part of it. When you come to do your tax return the ATO will work out how much you actually owe (based on the tax rate for your income) and either ask for a bit more tax or refund the extra.
Fully franked you get a credit for entire dividend amount and can offset your tax with that credit.
talking about YT I've been watching this
just a calendar about lotr, it's short and nice, no drama 🙂 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEJ33hPu2cY
