Why is it that there’s always something out of balance. If it’s not work life then it’s health or money. When they are all broken then it feels hopeless
I'm guilty of this kind of thinking too. Been recently starting to realize the balance isnt how things feel to us, its our ability to "ride the waves" so to speak, and you can find balance wherever you look even if you may not like how it feels.
Not sure I fully believe that myself just yet, but the more I explore it the more it seems like there might be something to it.
The woman buying my sewing machine just picked it up. She did not accidentally overpay me by thousands of dollars. I guess the dream was not prophetic.
I know someone who had this problem about 15 years ago when she tried to get an entry level job. Her PhD made her a less attractive candidate because she was over qualified and employers didn't trust she'd stick it out. But, she couldn't apply for senior positions because she didn't have enough experience.
It was the worst Catch-22. A very difficult period for her.
this is a difficulty for people who go straight from undergrad to PhD. It can also be a slight warning sign (but absolutely not always) if a phd grad has no experience at all, because usually phd students need to supplement their scholarship/RTP, and supportive supervisors will give good students a boost with some casual work to give them experience/time on the books.
But yes - I often encourage students to get some experience, one way or another, while studying. Often, the type who go straight from one degree to the next are precisely the type who worry that taking a few hours out to do paid work each week will negatively impact their academic performance, etc, and they need to be gently reminded that a well rounded application is stronger than a straight H1 student who has never seen or done anything!
After hearing of the last psychologist I found not taking new clients, I went through the whole process of finding another one with a trustworthy and empathetic face (yes I judge people entirely off of their face. Don't @ me), getting a new MHCP, getting a new referral, making another appointment, trying to organise for the session to be paid in advance again. I'm finally done, and have found one that seems fine. I hope it works out. I don't want to have to find yet another one
Don't feel bad about choosing a nice face. Bedside manner is so important.
Imma relate my experience here and it was quite self revelatory at the time.
I had an injured shoulder, from an assault, and was referred to a surgeon for diagnosis and treatment. He was very kind and friendly and reassuring. Even when we had to demonstrate the actions that caused the injury I felt safe.
Later in the week I had to get some xrays. The technician was very professional and he had a neutral face. I was triggered and had a panic attack.
Attackers have uncaring or neutral faces.
later I was thinking how my doctor put on a kind face on purpose , he knew my history and knew how to make me comfortable. The xray technician either knew and didn't care or didn't know how to handle my case.
I'm better now tho seeing a disinterested face always worries me. That is a face of violence.
Such a pain trying to find a psych you click with so you can make the most of therapy ugh. I'm glad you have found someone and booked and appt!! That's awesome!
I’m not sure if you’re already doing this (apologies if you are) but you can get a certain number of counseling sessions and a security camera funded through Victims of Crime. Wish I’d remembered to tell you that earlier
Good idea, but I believe that they only provide support in cases of violent crime. A burglary while not home probably doesn't classify.
I'm still a minor, so for the next 6 or so months, I'll be able to have my sessions paid for by the department. I think the place I've chosen is $100 out of pocket after the MHCP Medicare rebate, but I don't really know how that works, so that's a them problem for now.
I'm not too sure what the plan is once I turn 18. At the moment $100 out of pocket is pushing it, but still affordable once a month, but I'm unsure how my circumstances will change. Plus the MHCP is only like 5 sessions a year or some stupidly low number. It's one of those things I don't think I'm going to spend much time thinking about since I have zero clue what's going to happen
Oof, I feel this. I got a little more sleep, but only about 4. I was awoken an hour earlier than needed by a fire truck that went right past my window and seemed to linger out the front for a few seconds, and I didn't sleep 3ish
Fell asleep for a bit, but have a GP appt tomorrow morning. I'm trying not to get overly anxious about this, because it's probably nothing, but its such a different pain than I am used to.
Like, sharp, and then achey, and sharp if I rub my eyes (which I do without thinking).
I have no idea what I could have done to it, like it's a weird spot. Just under my right eye, where the orbital hole ends, on my cheekbone. I know I keep posting, but I'm anxious ugh!!!!
I have a big preso tomorrow. To about 100 attendees. I have to talk for about 10-12 mins and I'm prepared. It's just that I get so nervous my heart starts pounding crazy fast.
My previous presos have also been in front of the same crowd but that was for like 2-3 mins as I had someone share the time but tomorrow am all alone. Which means that I need to take questions as well.
My heart rate is already high thinking of tomorrow 🤕 can someone give me some tips to calm down? Please don't say slow breathing because it just makes it worse for me 😭
I've also been told I give great presos but I gaslight myself into thinking it was bad. I've prepared pretty well but still nervous as shit as this is the biggest one so far.
Am off to the gym now to take mind off things and just relax. I'll go crazy otherwise
You're nervous because you know you are good and don't want to disappoint. And you're nervous because you're doing a good thing that you want to do. So being nervous isn't such a bad thing. The adrenaline helps with performance too.
So many hugs. You can do this. We're so proud of you. 🌞😘🌞😘🌞
My late bloke was an excellent after dinner speaker, but got horribly nervous beforehand. To the point of vomiting with nerves. He eventually figured out how to manage his anxiety by playing cats cradle while he was waiting to be introduced to the audience. The simple repetition of the hand movements helped him through those awful minutes before he started to speak. He was fine once he got going. Zillions of vidjos on youtube on how to do it. He liked doing the apache door more than the eiffel tower or witches broom one as it was more complex and required more attention. And the evidence could be stowed in a pocket quickly when he stepped up to perform. Pre-performance anxiety is very real and can be very debilitating, but tends to evaporate once the performance starts. Hope this helps a bit.
I like to get there early so I have time for a last stress poo. Acute stress goes to my bowels, sorry. And to check out the venue and stuff.
Also you can overheat a bit when you're in a stressful situation, and that feeling of being too hot makes the stress worse. If you can lose a layer or two it can help.
Normal, peanut, crispy, mixed or one of the bullshit limited edition flavours?
(note, there are a couple of good bullshit limited edition flavours but not out at the moment or haven't made it to Australia yet such as dark chocolate raspberry)
I didn't mind the brownie ones, but they needed to be served warm, otherwise the brownie bits were like little stones. I haven't tried any other limited edition ones
As I was pulling out of my driveway, an evil looking Tom cat was in my backyard judging me, which is a cheek cos I don't shit on other peoples properties.
I’ve had a weirdly positive day… I mean, a little unexpected. Even though I was running late, I made good time. Even though I missed tea break, had a shortened lunch, wasn’t all that hungry and ran out of time (and verbally road raged a little on the way home), I:
made it to a Uni appointment
had some meaningful conversations in intervention deliveries
made it to my extra-curricular session on time
had some more meaningful conversations
And just all round one of those days where for a moment you feel as if you’ve woken up, are about 95% yourself and things feel somewhat good… like a distant memory.
I’m even in one my fav burger shops that is always empty and there are about 8 or so other people eating in and it feels… nice.
No guarantees for tomorrow, but I think being grateful for just even the ability to even get out of bed is underrated. ✨
I felt the good vibes rubbing off on me from your comment with how wonderful your day was! Savour the feeling, it's totally ok if tomorrow doesn't reach today's heights, because it sounds like you filled your cup plenty with today 😊 (okay I say this because sometimes I feel a bit sad when the next day's been a comedown from a Good Day. But sometimes it's easy enough to just enjoy the Good Day for what it is)
What a bonus that your burger shop was lively tonight as well. The owner must be having a nicer than expected Monday too
I'm at the point where the movie shelf is full. I can't buy any more blu rays unless I sacrifice something. It's a great system: it means I'm very resistant to impulse buys and anything I do buy will improve my overall collection by design.
Dropped off the transfer of shares papers to the executor of my grandma’s will today.
I wanted to mail them off so I didn’t have direct contact with the executor but it wasn’t to be.
Drove out of my way and got stuck in a one sided conversation I didn’t really want a part of due to the family feud going on between the executor who is my Aunty and half the family which consequently made me get home later as well.
Hopefully with that out of the way the distribution of the will can go ahead.
Parts of my family suspect that the Aunty has an unfair share of the will or has been stealing or misappropriating funds related to the will. She dumps all her emotional baggage on me because she considers me the nice one of the family but all I wanted to do was run away from her.
It's often the case that when a someone is living, the relatives even though they can't stand each other keep the peace to some degree .
Then they die, the estate and the money comes into the picture and that's when shit starts getting real. That's when folks start to show their true colours.
At least you have one executor. Joint executorship gets even uglier and messier.
I haven’t looked at the will in awhile but there was a slight bias to my aunty’s side which has fuelled this fight and I sort of agree that it was slanted in that way too which I thought was unfair as well.
The problem partly being that she’s the executor as well and also had power of attorney for my grandma.
Anyway I don’t really want to be her emotional dumping ground, i just want this to be done fairly and split properly without stressing me out in the process as I have my own things to worry about.
I'm ok with the pre - recording, but don't say it's live when it's not. It was especially galling to find out even the pre recording has been pitch corrected.
Which is probably more common with recordings than I would care to know, but it's just shows how everything is so fake these days.
I think there more to come. People will use AI to generate art, music, writing, design and claim it as their own original invention. I guess that’s misrepresentation rather than fake, but there’s gonna be a flood of it.
tried to book a camping trip for cup day weekend. Limited to "glamping" (ie: power and a hot shower) cause I was gonna bring the little fella, but no joy. Everythings booked out. Prom, Eildon, Bright, Philip Island, all totally booked out. The fact that it's still months away and its booked out blows my mind.
Some nice glamping further inland - try Macedon, Mt Erica, Walhalla, Maldon, Wedderburn, or if you are willing to drive - Mt Buffalo, Beechworth maybe Rutherglen. The Grampians and Otways will probably be booked out too, but there's Horsham fairly closeish to the Little Desert National Park, and Rainbow near Hattah-Kulkyne. Off the beaten track may be your friend here.
EDIT: maybe farm stays? The little tacker will loooove that but might be a bit young.
yeah the drives kind of the hurdle. Trying to keep it under 3 hours. The mrs said last time he went to the prom the drive was the biggest hurdle. Sadly a bit young for farm stays.
Seems like you need to book popular areas for cup day by Easter these days. More people competing for the same spots. One of these days they might introduce a timed ballot system or something
Toddler took my phone. I asked for it back, he disappeared for a moment then handed me back the purple ring from his tower toy thing. He looks satisfied with our "trade" and buggers off again, only to leave the phone behind on the floor anyway.
There's someone stood in front of the Magistrate court on William St with a couple of big posters behind him, handing out flyers. He keeps repeating "Judges are motherfuckers" nothing else. At it for over an hour now
omg, I have finally cleared all 50 levels of bubble town. it only took a few years and many thousands of attempts. I took a screen shot. I'm a bit numb...lol
I don't think my manager understands my job. As in, I don't think she has done the same day to day work as me to be able to understand what goes into what I'm expected to do.
I can tell because some things have the name of the last user to modify them, and I don't see her name on anything or any of the documentation
Bloody COVID. Bloody people who smoke, more specifically Mr P. What's the point of quarantining if you're going to wander through the living room where we're all sitting to go out for a smoke every half hour. Fucking ridiculous and I am fuming 😤😡
Round 2 of using the vegetable and tomato paste. This time with frozen pesto, frozen green veg, and canned springwater tuna mixed with pasta. Another win, definitely added an extra depth of flavour without tasting tomatoey for very little cost and effort. I will say I'm also proud of my little habit of chucking in some cardamom seeds to pasta or other non Indian dishes. It adds a certain je ne sais quoi.
Pretty good meal for zero prep. Cost about 3.32 a serve minus the homemade pesto, and most of that would've been the tuna and Fancy Expensive Pasta
Ah, our familiar Force is back after spouting such alien statements this morning... And yes I'm very proud of this concoction. I really do love a quick and dirty pasta meal. Bonus it was sirena 185g on special. Tastes nicer I reckon 😛
My monday morning activities fell through, so now I'm just tired. I don't know whether to go back to sleep for a bit, or stay up. If I stay up, I'll be cranky by tea time. If I sleep, I run the risk of missing packages (I know I have at least 1 coming)
It takes a lot to get the brits of any persuasion off their arses and out in the street protesting, but when they do ... it gets pretty brutal. There'll be more of these riots. Imo the root cause is that brexit didn't deliver the earthly paradise that they were promised ..
The rioting was set off because they believe the stabber of the kids in the dance class was an immigrant Muslim. Nope, born in Britain Christian. Was fake news spread by Andrew Tate and other questionable sources. It’s the idiot olympics, and utterly terrifying how easily people can be set off.
I finally heard back from the school lady (I'm a bit concerned with how many times I've had to follow up), and she fixed the issues with the enrolment paperwork, which I've now signed!
For some classic bureaucracy related reasons, they need a photocopy of a guardians personal identification. Probably going to be a difficult thing to obtain when my guardian is the secretary of DFFH. But as of now, that's no longer a me problem, that's something they'll all have to work out together.
It's....
A non issue though, as I've been through this process dozens of times. Usually they just provide a copy of my court order and a stat dec and it's all g. But it's worth noting if you ever decide to run an organisation and impose restrictions you can't possibly foresee anybody not being able to meet, you'll eventually meet somebody you'll have to make an exception for 🤷♂️
Enrolment bonanza day! Mine got processed today, after running around realising I had the wrong email address, then the process had changed from last year and a bunch of manual stuff was required... I'm in nowhere near the same situation as you but somehow throughout all my schooling years I've ended up needing all sorts of exemptions and it's taught me a lot about patience when dealing with bureaucracy.
In a way, I'm kind of glad for some of the bureaucracy I've had to deal with. It would be a lot more difficult to navigate the byzantine systems every organisation even remotely involved with the government seems to be obsessed with if I didn't have years of experience already!
I just checked the status of my Temu orders, there are four packages in the country and ready for delivery. They should arrive tomorrow, and if they don't I get $5 credit for each package.
Grateful for my MIL. She really stepped up after my mum died and tries her best to help, even though she's 90, and I try my best to help her when I can. We agree on most things, disagree well, and our relationship is easier than the one I have with her son.
Mr Woof's meal prep has been done for the next 6 weeks. This batch features some home grown pumpkin, potato and parsley, as well as some fancy diced meat from the free market (his normal meat is all minced).
Miss Meow used to quite like the raw food, and the meal prep was just dividing up the bulk bag to smaller containers for the freezer. But the vet advised not to feed her that because of her immune issues, so now she gets Whiskas and meal prep is just mashing it with a fork when I serve because she can't deal with chunks now that she has no teeth. She still manages the dry food somehow though!
um. 1 tube green garden lemon grass. 1 tb garlic. 1 tb ginger, 2 tb fish sauce, 2 tsps hot curry powder, 1 tin coconut milk, 3 cups water . Then add chicken and vegetables of your choice. eat with rice and chopped fresh coriander
I find the Thomas dux ones are nothing special, despite the fancy branding. Australian cheeses like King island or Millawa are a much better brie. If you want a more flavoursome soft imported cheese, try a d'Affinois. Very $$ but omg so very delicious.
I loved Archer, the first 2 series made me laugh out loud so often and many of the following episodes also had their laughs.
Series 13 is a pale ghost of a show comprising running jokes, boring character repeating one liners they've said a hundred times and vulgarity for no reason. A vulgar joke is funny, these aren't even jokes.
Any sport in particular I should catch up on from overnight? I need to put something on in the background while I power through some boring monday morning stuff
If you have Stan, just pop on one of the big ones. Like "Athletics day 8" or one of the main Olympics shows, and it'll just show you what is on the stadium. I watched the Athletics Day 8 one last night, to see all the 100m heats. It was really great, because it meant I actually knew a little bit about all the runners in the 100m final and had seen them all run before.
Note on that Jamaican kid who came second by 0.005 seconds: This event was his international debut, and he ran 9.77 in June. He's one to really watch. No idea why that US dude was so cocky when he learned he'd won after waiting 30 secs on that photo finish. It was hardly a resounding victory.
No but I have been watching the overviews on the 9 app
Mainly landed on athletics today. The high jump final was pretty awesome..looking forward to the Sport climbing tonight
I've been playing Red Dead Redemption 2 a lot. It's my first playthrough, but 3rd time attempting to get into this game.. it's actually sticking this time though and I'm 35% through now. Enjoying it. It's crazy how many hours I've put in and it says I'm only 35% this game is hooooge.
Anyway the game is absolutely GORGEOUS. Playing on my PC with the graphics almost maxed out and riding around has made me desperately miss America's parks and mountains. I ache to go back there. I don't think we have anything in Australia which directly compares to that place, as unpatriotic as that sounds.
Also I found out that my tablet runs RDR2 fantastically (it's a stupidly expensive one with it's own discreet graphics card) so I can actually play it in bed too. It's not as gorgeous on that as on my 4k monitor with HDR but it still looks and plays great using my PS5 controller.