Fellas, easy way to get on a girl's radar is to ask if she can peer review your drafts for the textbook you're writing and give her editor/writer credit. Apparently girls love that shit.
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That's some w science rizz right there!
Double bond.
I wonder what catalysed that
Heat is often one.
c/textbookhumor
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Disadler.
My wife & I never even discussed whether she should or would change her name. She’s not my property.
it doesn't have to be about property, it can be about showing off that your officially one family now. And i think that's a valid reason for changing your last name (aka family name)
You can always opt to take on a double name, you can both take on your wife's name if you prefer that, or whatever. But just because a woman chooses to take her husband's name, doesn't mean that she's now his property. Your children also aren't your property just because they have your last name
Edit: And before someone brings up the fact that the historic reason is property: Things can change and people like to stick to certain traditions regardless of the history that the tradition carries.
Just because your last name is Smith doesn't mean that you need to become a blacksmith, even though that's where the name originates from
A bit off-topic the last part reminds me of Terry Pratchett - Lords and Ladies
The Lancre Morris Men the mixup of name and occupation is a good gag.
- Jason Ogg (occupation: smith and farrier)
- Baker (weaver)
- Bestiality Carter (baker)
- Obidiah Carpenter (tailor, poacher, cesspit cleaner, and carpenter)
- Tailor (weaver)
- Thatcher (carter)
- Tinker (tinker)
- Weaver (thatcher)
Absolutely, for many it's nice to be under one name even if there is no legal need. I do think though that in a world where taking the male family name is not a default and anything can happen, double barrelling becomes problematic as a solution. You can only double barrel so many times! We need a new tradition that is equal for everyone and scales well. My favourite is what I once witnessed at a fantastic wedding. Before cutting their cake, the happy couple literally did a coin flip to choose who would take the other's name. It was easily the most exciting part of the day.
I can relate in that I've never had a desire for someone else to take my name. But my ex-wife wanted to take my name because it would replace her father's name, and that name was problematic to her. She has since changed it to a name she chose for herself. When my current partner married her ex, they both changed their name to one they chose to identify their new family. Those all seem like pretty good reasons.
I tried to convince my wife we should come up with a dope new last name for both of us to take but she wouldn't bite. "Mr and Mrs Bonesaw" sounded pretty cool to me...
Calm down, MBS
I get what you're saying but having a single last name is convenient (doesn't necessarily have to be the dude's name). Especially if you plan to have kids.
If your kids have two last names, and they marry someone with two last names it could theoretically be a compounding problem. You gotta draw the line somewhere
You just hyphen the names, give the kids the hyphen last names, and find out when they get married who there favorite parent really was.
It's extremely common for people in Iberian and Mediterranean cultures to get two surnames, some of which get compounded. Nobody thinks it's a problem.
I don’t doubt it. I’m not sure what we would have done if we’d intended to have kids.
Good the fuck for you?
Tangentially relevant at best.
Literally nobody gives a shit, though...
I thought no one would give a shit, but a lot of people really, really do seem to, given the number of up/down votes and the length of this conversation thread.
Cool story.
Just do what you want no one cares.
If a wife takes her husband's last name, that doesn't mean she is seen as property. If a wife doesn't want to, that's fine too. No one cares what you want to do.
I appreciate your progressive attitudes, though I wonder whether you considered how your comment may be received by married Lemmings who’ve already made a different decision than you. Could they perceive an unjustified attack you didn’t intend?
What if she wanted to take his name?
I took my wife's name.
That is honestly quite adorable. I considered it.
