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Green text, but men's health is a disaster and this has been me in the past before therapy and meds.
To be fair though I have several lifelong comorbid depression and anxiety disorders that I didn't get treated until I was 30. No 7 year old should have to be be suicidal.
I wonder how many other men are similar but never get treatment? Too many.
Yeah I know typically we're all here for a laugh, but I genuinely can't bring myself to make light of stuff like this.
There are millions of men in the world whose lives would likely be revolutionised if they had someone they felt this secure and safe with.
But our modern society doesn't reward (and in most cases, actively punishes) emotional vulnerability in men, so instead many of us either lean into toxic masculinity or drown in our depression. Sometimes both.
I'm fortunate enough that I do in fact have someone in my life who I could be this vulnerable with, should I be so inclined, but I also acutely remember the days when this was exactly what I craved in life and thought I would never have, and the suffocating feeling of isolation as a result.
I hope things change.
Emotional vulnerability comes later in a relationship. These people arent failing to get in a relationship due to no emotional vulnerability it's because they are socially stunted with obscure hobbies and humor that's incredibly jarring to most people.
Yeah I was fwb with a guy for a couple of years and it was very clear that one of the benefits he enjoyed most was using me as an unpaid therapist.
I'm not saying this to complain, I'm saying that a lot of men only seem to be comfortable talking about emotions with someone they're having sex with.
Yeah I was fwb with a guy for a couple of years and it was very clear that one of the benefits he enjoyed most was using me as an unpaid therapist.
FRIENDS with benefits
JFC, what do you say when the friends that don't bang you come to with emotional problems, laugh in their face?
Friends with benefits implies sex without the emotional baggage found in a relationship. Or at least that's how I understand it.
Therapy would honestly do me good, I need somewhere to talk to where the recipient would keep it at least anonymous away from people I know and give me advice that they are literally trained to do