So this just came to mind, since it's kind of related.
My wife's family recently did another round of "family cookbook" reprints, since her sister died earlier this year and reminded the older generation of their own mortality, so they better make their additions and pass it on.
My wife did not receive one. The reason? "well you didn't have kids, so it's not like you can pass it on"
Due to genetic disorders, she decided to make sure she couldn't have kids. The doctor that performed the TL asked her about it in his opening small talk, "but you're so young!" then he opened her file, started reading, and apologized.
Her mother and remaining sister agreed with the decision and refuse to give her a copy.
Jesus that is so messed up. It's such a weird obsession too, furthering the family line. Like are we all royalty all of a sudden? Which hearths will I inherit, mother? Or will I inherit a bunch of debt and grandma's Beanie Baby collection? Get off your high horse.
Having said that, this shit must hurt. Sorry she went through that. It's such a stupid thing to be this shitty about.
It was baffling to me. Like holy shit you, by your actions, are saying you don't consider her family because she won't have biological children. It's a family cookbook. Therefore it goes to family. If it doesn't go to someone, they aren't family.
Little Bourgeois like to pretend they're rich and imitate the rich because of that. It's why people have lawns in a desert climate and eat way too much meat.
The doctor that performed the TL asked her about it in his opening small talk, "but you're so young!" then he opened her file, started reading, and apologized.
Way out of line. He was probably about to ask what her husband would think.
Because not all people have toxic extended family, lol. Most of my extended family are awesome, friendly folks. I think you meant, "avoid toxic people in general," versus, "avoid extended family specifically"?
There are some good families out there as I've dated myself into some of them over the years.
However there are many where you can hear the banjos playing a little too close when you go to a family event like a wedding.
It takes having your own banjos at times to know which ones are really playing them and which ones to cut out which is hard for many. I've been able to do it over the years but it wasn't easy for others to understand. I know I'm better off for it in the long run.
I've never understood old cookbooks. Why would I make cow cunt boiled in fish oil with kale when I have the internet ,and can make food meant for human consumu?
Yes but we have a society wide peer pressure system called 'arranged marriage', which I'm fairly certain, is much more crazy and persuasive than any other community.
Every person on earth comes from a long line of ancestors that goes back to the earliest humans. That means that if you don't have any kids, you'll be the first one ever in your line to not have kids.
Having said that, I would bet that a "line coming to an end" is a pretty common scenario. Even if the average couple has 2.1 kids, there are going to be families with 10 kids, and others with none. I wonder if anybody has ever collected stats on what fraction of people never have kids. Maybe it's something you can search for if you know what the right search term is.
The line doesn't go back to early humans. The line goes back to the the very "trunk" of the tree of life, a microbe known as LUCA - the Last Universal Common Ancestor.
Ancestry doesn't just run through the history of man, it runs through the history of all life on Earth.