i'd wife my mrs again if she did that. Shes already my wife so not totally sure how that'd work. But when they say the stomach is the way to a mans heart: for me thats Chocolate Mousse!!
Preso is done! Went better than expected and there was one question for me (didn't have enough time for more as the previous speaker took up a lot more time). Got a few good comments as well after! Go me 😄
Made a new friend today. A new young neighbour introduced himself and asked to be friends. I asked if he liked dinosaurs and of course the answer was yes, I said if he and his grandma could wait a moment I had some dino puzzles he could have. He danced with joy. 🥰🦕🦖
Got a referral for a CT, a blood test, and if they don't show anything, then an MRI.
GP also suggested shingles, and to return if I develop a rash, especially because it's my face. Amazing lol.
She's new to my clinic, but literally the best, kindest experience I've had. So thorough, and intelligent, and it feels like she cares. I'll defo be returning to her.
New Malatang (kinda hotpot where you choose ingredients yourself, then hand them over to be cooked in a soup) place on corner of Elizabeth and la Trobe for lunch today. As usual I chose too many ingredients and it was like $32 but it was delicious and I'm stuffed:
I have absolutely got pathologic rejection sensitivity of some description. The way my stomach turned just now because I noticed a specific person had unfollowed me on Instagram is crazy.
There’s lots of good reasons people unfollow, eg grew appart, or they are going through some life events, cutting back on social media, etc. When you unfollow someone, do you expect them to feel the same? Might help with the perspective. Meaning, do you think it’s ok for you to unfollow someone but don’t like it if others do the exact same?
Oh totally, I have no issue coming up with a hundred perfectly reasonable explanations. It's the initial sting of rejection -- rational or otherwise -- I can't seem to avoid ;)
Me too. I don't use instagram anymore and it's made a world of difference for my mental health. No need to keep up with people I hardly know.
I think being aware of the rejection sensitivity is awesome. Know that your feelings are valid. That initial sting is probably unavoidable :(
Some people blow it out of proportion and use those feelings to guide behaviour. I once met a guy who said I made him the most depressed he's felt in five years because he asked me on a date and I rejected him. It has helped me pinpoint the rejection sensitivity, self-soothe and remember not to catastrophise.
Morning all! So now Elder minipeeler has tested positive for covid ☹️ Being stuck at home with a covid sufferer who repeatedly left his room without warning hasn't worked out very well for him. Luckily he just seems to have a slight sniffle, but as an introvert he is more than happy to stay in his room with a supply of snacks and drinks and tech 😆. Miniest has some cold and flu symptoms but tested negative, but I'm keeping her in her room with a similar supply of drinks and tech. Mr P has pledged to stick his head out the window for a smoke if he needs one and not leave his room at all today, but it's a bit bloody late for that. I'm still testing negative and have no symptoms, but I have constantly been wearing a mask since Sunday and being as meticulous as I can.
Oh thank goodness today is pretty cruisey at work. Some family drama that cropped up and left a bad taste in my mouth. Angling to leave early and go meet my friend for dinner earlier and bring some positive vibes in. This weather is really lovely too.
Complaining about money and wishing I could penny pinch better
I’ve been buying some things I’ve needed and watching the bank balance go down…
I really hate the way having disabilities, sensitivities or food intolerances adds unnecessarily to the budget.
If everything was default and my body worked I could just have porridge or eggs for breakfast every morning, sandwich/hotdog/leftovers for lunch, and eat a batch made chickpea curry or stew for dinner until it was finished. I could have ramen. Beans and rice.
Edit: I could walk around gathering fruit from public trees. Bike to the op shop.
Buy an 8 pack of whatever bar soap was cheapest and use it head to toe. The dirt cheap highly scented laundry detergent. Wear literally whatever was on clearance without discomfort or alterations or be physically large enough to shop in the men’s section.
If it wouldn’t lead to being targeted (perhaps violently in my area/circumstances) I might be able to buzz my head at home to not need to pay or fuss around with technique on home haircuts.
It’s really blocking the financial min-maxing I could be doing.
The highly scented cheap laundry detergent could set off my cat’s asthma as well. (I hate how unscented basics are more expensive even in homebrand - if you can find that.)
And if she wasn’t allergic to chicken I could have her on cheaper brands or on proper prescription renal food 😭 As it is I’m looking at a really swanky brand that isn’t prescription but happens to be lower in phosphorus to try and slow her kidney disease.
I would cook the nutritionist diet for her but she refuses to eat it and my physical capabilities are limited
This is what all this money fretting is in aid of. Making sure I have the financial stability to weather what difficult times come.
Should I keep making the frugal and gardening megathreads? I’m trying to make Lemmy more active and encourage posting
I might also share my egg recipes if it’s not a bad time for it. (Are eggs still limited?) They’re not glamorous but will feed your family cheaply in a pinch. They deserve to be passed down.
I like them even though I have been slack about commenting (sorry). And egg recipes would be great! I get mine from the farmers market so I haven't had supply issues. Still they are cheaper then red meat!
Eggs are still limited, but don't let that stop you. The shops round here still have a 2 carton limit, but that's 24 eggs which can go quite a long way.
Sometimes I get super stressed about buying a house, as in I never will. But then I read about people getting their deposits scammed away and I'm kinda okay with being relatively poor lol
I'd feel so so bad if I got scammed out of a $500k deposit, so I'm just gonna enjoy the little things I have that bring me happiness haha
The thing no one tells you is if you buy an established house, everything breaks within the first 12 months. Oven, heater, hot water, it’s a never ending money pit. Being a renter sucks no doubt, but you can always breach a landlord if they refuse to fix shit.
The other thing they don't mention is that even if you buy a new house or do a full renovation, all the big things like kitchen and bathroom renovations and replacing decks, roofs etc - they all need doing about the time you want to retire. So just planning to pay off your house before then is not enough, you need to plan to also have enough to do some major work on it.
The timing is something that worked fine when you could buy a house by 30 and take 20 years to pay it off, you had plenty of time to then pay for extra work on the house etc. after the mortgage was paid, but when you push back the age you can purchase and extend the loan period it makes it a lot more difficult.
I got very lucky this morning, had an incredibly clear run on the Eastern/Alexandra Pde even though I didn't leave when I normally consider is the best time to avoid the worst of it.
That was then cancelled by spilling coffee all over the centre console 🥲 I wiped up as much as I could but it got in some nooks and crannies and I'll have to use a little pin or something to try cleaning them out... Sigh
Ha, maybe that was why it was so cruisey near the Alexandra Pde exit. Usually by 7:15 it's chockers but it was completely smooth sailing the whole way - guess everyone was held up earlier! I'm lucky I get on at Chandler Hwy but I do have to go all the way to Elliot Ave and through to Epsom Road. Today's only jam was the lead up to Flemington Rd.
One of the boys learnt how to say 'more'. Not just the word but the meaning as well. We've also been teaching the boys a bit of sign language because apparently kids can pick up on it quicker and it's good to know anyway.
In reality, signing 'more' allows him to ask for more food whilst his mouth is already full
I travel into Melbourne for work. About an hour and a half drive.
I used to come in via Sunbury Rd near the airport but that route has shit itself getting in or out since roadwork is increasing.
So I’ve started using the Calder and Ring Road near Keilor.
I thought the Sunbury Rd area was dangerous. Jesus Christ, if you decide to ever drive on the Ring Road you’re really just hoping you don’t die. Just the short stretch to get back on the freeway out of Melbourne is basically a suicide run.
Yes. Clogged with tailgating trucks, aggressive drivers, people who don’t know indicators exist, debris on the road, short on ramps, etc. The roads north and west of Melbourne are the Mad Max zones. Source: commuted on these roads for many years, glad I don’t have to do it any more.
They are also quite terrifying when you don't drive them very often - there are a bunch of intersections that are pretty much impossible to navigate if you are not familiar with them. You get in the wrong lane and end up on a freeway going in completely the wrong direction.
Temu day today - all 4 packages marked on board for delivery. Many sewing notions are included, I am looking forward to finding out what sort of quality they are. Especially the impulse purchased embroidery kits, they could be either really good or really bad! I will also now have way more sticky tape than I probably need, as after ordering I found three rolls in a drawer I didn't realise I had, so I should now have a lifetime supply.
I got a bronze medal at the British National Championships in Birmingham for under 11 in 1990 by lucking out on my first throw. 2nd throw, foul. 3rd throw, foul. 1st throw good enough to get to final round. 4th throw, foul. 5th throw, foul. 6th throw.......foul. Bronze awarded for my first throw.
There was a story from my old high school. One kid launched one a bit too well and went through an umpire's shoulder. He pulled it out and put it where he thought it was meant to land then went to hospital. Suffice it to say that was the last javelin event at that school.
Had a fantastic time chatting for hours into the night with my friend. Helped put aside my woes and stopped me from ruminating. It's lovely to feel wanted and connected
I have done some random tidying, a load of washing and some sorting of shoes - insoles in one pair, and relacing with elastic for peak laziness in another. I might try walking Mr Woof and hopefully we will return home to packages.
Edit: walk has now been completed. It was lovely out, but still no packages.
Removing and rebuilding this 10m long retaining wall is a bit harder than I thought. 1m down 9m to go!
Digging a metre down found a bunch of mysterious old ceramic pipes (which seriously don't move) that would've been there since 1914 (when the place was built). This place used to be a double block and had a tennis court before it was sub-divided waay back (1950's-ish). Starting to think it was part of the plumbing for a little bougie tennis viewing / outhouse thing.
Sort of conjures up romantic images. Sunny Sunday arvo in spring, everone dressed in their finest cheering on, looking crisp, sipping champagne.
These days though it's someone arse up in the air, coinslot not leaving much to the imagination, digging dirt out of a ditch with their hands (too tight for a shovel) trying to get shit level wearing trackies and a t-shirt.
Maybe you need to make a lego kitchen with teeny tiny spice jars that need filling. Or make and furnish a dolls' house. Just to make sure they don't go to waste.
Dinner tonight with a friend who has (to his utter shock) just managed to buy a house. He wanted to talk solar. All the solar. ALL THE SOLAR. And he got a very very pleasant surprise when we went over the paperwork and he realised just how little a 6kw system could cost him. In fact i had a quote from when we got ours installed for a 6kwh and even factoring in the 2 years inflation, i believe the noise he made was w00t!
What a real good luck-bad luck rollercoaster. Got to leave work early and had a good run of traffic... stayed too long on High St while at MKS and got a fucking $200 fine... ugh
Does anyone have any idea what to use a really tiny funnel for? I apparently misjudged scale on these ones and they are about the width of my fingernail 🤣. I have three of them!
Still feeling shitty about my (deserved but painful) $200 fine, that was going to go to the dentist... I'm going to ask for a payment plan to soften the blow.
Finally arrived. A few thing a bit dodgy that I might return, but mostly looks pretty good. I'm very impressed by the cross stitch kits - stamped patterns have come a long way, these are all really clearly marked square by square, the ones I remember from years ago were horrible to work with because you had to make a lot of guesses about which colour to use for all the stitches where two colours joined. Given that these kits were mostly around $3-$4 they are amazing - some include an embroidery hoop, and one has a pair of thread cutters as well.
Now I need to go through all the various hemming tapes and things and make sure I know what everything is.
The universe must have been listening about my over-ordering of sticky tape because it seems to have been missed.