Should be, and usually is, but if you've never been in a healthy relationship you may not expect it. Especially if you've been in an unhealthy relationship.
I remember my husband-then-boyfriend being super happy he could just ask me to do stuff and I'd do it. I mean, yeah, of course, that's how relationships work?
Took me a long time to figure out that for most of his previous relationship, that really wasn't so obvious.
When people mention wanting something or if I get an idea for a gift in general, I write it down. Now I have plenty of ideas for all the people I usually give gifts. It has made giving good gifts a lot easier.