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nugmeister64 @lemmy.world
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You should be able to ask "I want a CIS mate" in a dating app without being shamed.
  • The mental gymnastics you go through to avoid saying people who aren't mentally healthy enough to feel comfortable as their birth sex and then rejecting people's desire to have an individual preference about not dating them is the reason why people have a difficult time wanting to date them in the first place.

    I hope you're content with that realization. Most people feel uncomfortable talking to you because it's like walking on eggshells even when it comes down to somethint as simple as wanting to draw a boundary about who we date.

    It's just very tiring listening to tunnel visioned rambling about the semantics of your definitions of various mental illnesses. I know your next response is going to be calling me a transphobe or a bigot, but at this point, I almost feel bad for you.

    You deserve to hear the truth behind why people feel uncomfortable talking about this subject. I genuinely hope you learn to respect people's opinions better instead of patronizing them for drawing a simple boundary and find happiness in life. Good day.

  • You should be able to ask "I want a CIS mate" in a dating app without being shamed.
  • I hope you don't take this the wrong way but realistically speaking, trans people aren't the same as cis people, they are the opposite biological sex of what they present as and it is okay to not be attracted to that.

    If you have an issue with that and see it as "hostile to trans acceptance", it may reflect an internalized sense of entitlement to power over the choices others make, and maybe you should reconsider your values and realize that it's okay for others to have preferences different from yours.

    Have a good day!

  • How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?
  • I'm not sure about you, but the best partner I could ever think of is one that is also your best friend; they are easy to talk to, comfortable to be with, you can joke with them, appreciate the world with them, and generally see them as your best friend, with the layer of also feeling profound physical, emotional, and (possibly) sexual intimacy. You genuinely love each other in the most pure sense of the word and can depend on each other more certainly than anyone else, because you can share anything with them, because they are your closest friend in the world.

    However, most of it depends on what you want. Simply think about what you want most in a partner, and then look for that. Are you looking for someone who is also figuring out what to do in their love life? Do you need someone to push you in a direction? You have far more agency in your choices than you think you do.

    Perhaps first, you should meditate on what you are looking for before you begin seeking it.

  • What is an obscure piece of media or videogame that you think nobody else here has heard of?
  • The Belgian 80's metal band Ostrogoth.

    Their website doesn't exist anymore and the only band-run social media page is on Facebook.

    If you're a fan of retro heavy metal, give them a listen! They still tour, though you won't be finding much about it online.

  • Americans, what are your plans if Trump wins in 2024?
  • I would like to make you aware of the fact that it's been proven most of the people in the Jan. 6 insurrection were government employees. I'm sorry simply having a discussion with you makes you feel like you have to defend yourself, but many of your sources and statements are either false or misleading, and clearly it would be a waste of my time conversing with someone that absorbed in their point of view. Good day!

  • Americans, what are your plans if Trump wins in 2024?
  • and it's in the tens of thousands now that Joe is in office, do you want to explain that, or will you decide to pin the blame on the politician of the day to be a scapegoat? If you haven't realized, the "hate crimes" aren't being committed by just people who you politically disagree with, and saying they are is just pushing the blame onto others

  • Americans, what are your plans if Trump wins in 2024?
  • don't worry too much buddy, the worst that can happen is your political view gets relentlessly strawmanned, treated as an attack on freedom, and most of the internet will find it acceptable to openly mock, ridicule, and threaten you for your beliefs and overexaggerate the candidate most closely associated with your point of view (whether true or not) as an unstable hateful fascist dictator, as well as adopting the most dramatic persecution complex possible, whining that their election will result in your shunning and death.

    Oh wait...