Messages from my friends are the one kind of message I don't do this on, because I'm way too online and also doing anything mean to my friends makes me feel way too guilty (and I mostly fuel my motivation through guilt and fear of failure)
I feel a preemptive pain when I receive a message, almost as if I’m going to get yelled at for taking too long to reply or for not fully understanding the message from every contextual angle possible to understand a hidden meaning that I’m supposed to infer from, or for expressing the wrong emotion/tone.
It even happens when I just see the message notification
I have a bad habit of getting into fights online and then not having enough energy for a high-intensity reply, or getting the resources needed to keep going, so I'll clear the notification and then just never go back to it.
I know it probably gives troll vibes sometimes which I hate but... I just remind myself that this isn't something I'm doing maliciously and try to forgive myself.
Same. I see the notifications and think "Oh no, here it comes..."
Usually it's surprisingly positive, but I skim the negative ones, and even think to myself "Yes, I do on fact mean exactly that", but I can't be arsed to respond.