Am I the jerk here?
Am I the jerk here?
Aunt: I'm going to Walmart, do you need anything?
Me: no thanks, I'm going there later to do some shopping myself
Aunt: But we could combine trips! It's wasteful to both drive there on the same day! The responsible thing to do---
Me: ok, I give up. Please get me cat litter and cat snacks.
Aunt: Ok!!!! :)) Which ones? And what isle? What color is the package---
Me: exasperated Are you serious? I caved and gave you what you wanted. Now you're asking for more information? I told you I wanted to do my own shopping, and you fought me on it. I'm making a peace offering by giving you two items to buy for me, and you're saying I need to go find the names and package colors and isle numbers? Please just be satisfied with what I gave you.
The thing that she wants is to feel good about buying me something. But I don't want that. That's the disagreement.
I imagine most people would see me as the asshole here: she can't buy the right item if I don't tell her what it is. But I clearly don't care about those details; if I wanted something specific I would have told her that. The only reason I mentioned them was to appease her. I'm giving her something she wanted, something I wanted for myself, and she's demanding more.
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Yes
Why? What part of my behavior was jerky?
The parts that made you go "I should ask the internet about this".
Are you the same person as Crackhappy? I was asking them for details about their answer. I'm not sure if your instance allows multiboxing but if not you might consider logging in with the correct account before posting.
Are you high? Why would you simply assume someone responding in the same thread was the same user you last interacted with.
There is more than one person on the internet.
If I had said "Yes", I would have ended it with a period.
Why did you come here and ask a question if you were simply going to ignore all of the answers?
Have you considered being less of a jerk in your day to day life?