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When in doubt, or fed up, I just go hard on "no subtext".
There is a limit to how much I allow people to demand I decode their words for things they are not willing to say out loud.
Tbh a really good lesson I learned was not to look into subtext too hard, you'll often over analyze and come to the wrong conclusion.
Exactly. Not only does it take a lot of energy, but getting it wrong and reading subtext where there is none causes unpleasant and confusing situations. Missing subtext, at worst, causes mild frustration.
demand I decode
Maybe some people do this, but I get a malingering vibe from this perspective. I think it's more likely that people are just about "If you get what I mean, we can connect and feel closer". And if you don't wanna connect with them, that's fine!
Yeah, probably closer to my intent. To me, "demanding" isn't a heavy and loaded word implying evil intent.
Another thing that adds to the fun: the meaning of words to different people.
A more extreme example is a story I vaguely remember where one person thought of "it tastes good" as somewhat negative, while the other actually meant "really good"/quite positive. Or something along those lines
fed up. its usually fed up.