The entire point of blahaj is to protect queers, especially trans. If you see it as over protective that's totally fair, and feel free to find a different instance! It's part of why Lemmy is great :)
It's well known why downvotes are disabled. From your comment it looked like you didn't know. It's reasonable to comment how it works in that situation imo.
you're right i didn't know the reason (or rather, i remember the reason a long time ago being something along the lines of "we disabled downvotes to improve conversation", so that may be a memory issue on my part). i would have interpreted the first reply more charitably if it weren't for the "blahaj is to protect queers, feel free to move instances :)" as if i wasn't a transfem who's been on fedi (and other sites) for a while now and seen her fair share of shit thrown at her.