The recent position of the admins is that you don't acknowledge dragon rider as a gender? That's a mighty strange position for an admin to have. It seems more like your personal opinion than Ada's.
Honestly, at the time, I hadn't interacted with Drag at all for months, and Drag had been banned from 196 by then anyway, and 196 was the vast majority of my Blahaj activity. For me, it was just that I didn't feel comfortable staying in an instance that was going to hand out bans and remove comments to ensure the existence of dragons wasn't questioned. I 'got' the underlying logic of it, but didn't feel comfortable sticking around for an instance that was going to go to bat for someone who literally and verbatim repeated the old conservative "Attack Helicopter" canard.
This thread is the first time I've interacted with Drag since, I believe.