Depending on what you were replying to, I could see how that is transphobic. Like if you were replying to someone saying they don't like to be called dude and you end the post with "get over it, dude!"?
You said it yourself. Context matters.
For what it's worth, I've met trans women who dislike the term dude. It might be more common than you think.
Also, after thinking on this more, I feel more confident it has to do with the hypothetical "if you're offended [by me calling you dude], get over it dude" as doubling down on using a term someone doesn't want you to as soon as they've told you not to.
babe the person you replied to stated that the context of the initial post matters.
no matter the intention, it’s important to consider what the actual impact of the post could’ve been. you just took the piss. my replies to you are reiterating that the context DOES matter, and isn’t just “vibes”.
The context here is that OP was posting on lemmy.world when got accosted by some random person about usage of word "dude" being transphobic, which is not true.
no matter the intention
ohh really intent don't matter no more?
what sort of clown position is this? accusing people of "crimes" and it does not matter if they even meant to commit the crime?
it’s important to consider what the actual impact of the post could’ve been
If you are going to harass people online about their choice of words, they will clap back. This is internet 101.
they clearly weren’t banned for an intent that they only expressed in the post complaining about being banned. i hope you’re being willfully dense, because i can’t help you if you GENUINELY think this bullshit.
yeah it sounds like that instance is a bad fit for you. probably similar situation for most everyone incurring bans, and most likely the case for the folks who come to places like this to complain about them.
seems like the moderation is working perfectly! ^^