These stories are always bullshit. They can't afford a 3000sqft single family home on an acre inside the beltway of a HCOL city. Anyone making $250k can easily afford a condo or townhome anywhere in the US. If you really need useless interior volume or wasteful yard space then you can move farther out and afford that.
I live about two miles from the city center of one of the 20 biggest cities in the United States by population. The nearest suburb to me is over ten miles away, in the opposite direction. The density of my neighborhood, according to the most recent census data, is over 3,000 (the definition of "city" is over 1,500). We're governed by city government and have no HOA. We get city trash pickup and our roads are maintained by the city DOT. We have city bus service and bike lanes maintained by the city. Our address includes the city name and zip code.
By pretty much any definition, I live in a major city and not in a suburb.
What do you mean? Almost every major city has suburbs (at least in my country). I live in one of the top ten most populous cities in the US and I live in the suburbs.
Do you think the municipalities that surround major cities exist as part of the city? Is Brookfield 'Chicago'? Is Ferndale 'Detroit'? Is Long Island 'New York City'? Is Somerville 'Boston'?
The entire point is that urbanization permits the kind of development patterns which expands access to larger public green spaces, rather than wasting space on individual yards. Then everyone has access to recreational areas which are not only more sustainable and efficient, but which also act as gathering points for the local community, helping to prevent exact the kind of harmful isolation which makes the suburbs notoriously depressing.
God I love frisbee. I miss when I was young and had friends who enjoyed it. I have two frisbees in the trunk of my car just begging to be flung across a wide-open space. I'm gonna bug my partner and make her indulge me a bit this weekend.
Rough math after maxing 2 401ks, taxes and paying 1000 a month for insurance they should be making around 12k take home a month. Even with only 5% down they should be able to get into a 7-800k house and still have 4k-5k a month for other expenses. I found 25 results under 700k in the greater Portland area some as low as 479k (actually in Portland) for 2.5k sf min 4+ bedrooms 2 bath min 1/4 acre lot.
I'm in Canada. The outskirts of Miami are exactly the same price as Swift Current, Saskatchewan. 300 grand American or 400 Canadian. Exact same, except the canadian housing market is so fucked that a place in the literal center of buttfuck nowhere everyone is depressed suicide rate 27x national average....is Miami priced.
Please don't disparage others situations or minimize a situation because you have the benefit of living in a place you can afford with a job that lets you live there.