My mom says I'm very important ... so I'll assume this was a state actor
But yeah, this is most likely. I changed my settings to lock faster with a longer pin
Yeah. Definitely setting that up now haha. They used my phone to call my contacts, so I don't have their number
Yeah, but the calls were from my phone, so I think they would have to open it
Fingerprint and pin code. They left the phone at a store nearby and I went to pick it up
Yeah. It was clearly good will. Even the banking, they probably didn't realize the app was banking (foreign bank). Signal was Molly, so they honestly were personally confused since I run KISS Launcher.
The problem is that they used my phone to call my contacts.
Someone opened my phone
I'm running Graphene on a Pixel 6. I lost it and someone opened it somehow and called two of my contacts to give it back.
I'm a bit confused how this even happened. When I got the phone back, they were going through my contacts. I checked app usage stats and they went through a banking app (not missing money), maps, signal, etc.
Is there a way to figure out how they even unlocked my phone?
Yeah. Honestly, 99% of the time my kid is having a fit, it's because he's hungry. I never yell either. Never have and probably never will (barring seriously dangerous things that need to immediately stop).
After a couple months of feeding him when he's upset, watching him calm down, apologizing if I angered him and then asking him if maybe he was so angry because he was really hungry, now he'll actually tell me mid-fit that he's really hungry. Or sleepy, scared, etc. Talking basic needs, not just hunger.
Honestly I'm really happy. The emotional maturity of a toddler that can recognize that in large part his anger is being hungry it's pretty cool.
I got ads for sexual assault therapy after I talked to my friend about my assault. I was livid. The audacity to try to make money off assault victims.
Demisexual would fit perfectly if "deep emotional connection" were replaced with "the right energy". I don't need a deep connection in the traditional sense, but I need a very particular energy which is rare.
The last person (woman) I had this with could barely understand me when I spoke (different English accents). We danced and I felt a strong connection. Ultimately it's emotions, but it was like we move and breathe the same. Like our bodies flow together and connect. We only danced and kissed, but I'd rather dance with her than fuck some beautiful person who I didn't have that with.
So maybe a deep emotional connection, so long as "emotional" includes a wide variety of emotions.
So part of my issue is these norms. As a man I'm supposed to be out conquering, so many men I talk to dismiss my feelings completely. It annoys me, so I end up being friends with women more.
Plus I can easily get sex if I want. I can walk into a gay/kink/bisexual sex party and get fucked left and right. But the cost-benefit ratio is off. Even at sex clubs where I get some of my best sexual experiences, the amount of pleasure I get simply doesn't justify the effort. Sex in relationships has typically been worse than in parties/groups.
And yeah, I'm not distressed about my sexuality. I'm just annoyed with people (mostly men, but some women) who presume to know what I need to be happy (meaning sex).
I have a really long password on Bitwarden like 30+. I use OnlyKey to store this password on a hardware device.
You mentioned phones. My problem with using another 2FA app is that it's still on my phone.
I tried last night to do toes to bar like you mention. I'm weak on the last 60 deg of the pike movement. I can cheat by using my shoulders to lean back (front lever type movement), but this puts a lot of strain on my upper back (not injury type strain, just in weak).
Straddle V-hang pullups are also a bit weak. Can't do close leg V-hang pullups yet.
Basically just need to get my pike/toes to bar stronger and work on front lever I guess.
Thanks!
Assistance exercise for dynamics
I'm starting to train circus dynamics on rope. Doing various types of beats is really hard on my upper back and neck. This is what I'm training (not me), https://www.instagram.com/reel/CwPdTmlMOLp/?igshid=ODhhZWM5NmIwOQ==
I'm around 1-3 rep range for this movement, which means long recoveries and injury risk.
Are there any good assistance exercises? I'm looking for something I could do around 5-8 reps of so I can get stronger for this.
Here. I have lots of energy since the patriarchy can't fuck me without being gay. Sadly it's empty
Yeah. I was worried about the fighting against it thing. So far he seems to like speaking English, but just limited. I try to make it really cool that he speaks two languages. We also have a thing where he teaches me the local language and I teach him English, which is true since I'm not native in the local language.
Basically trying to balance pushing and being careful of being overbearing.
Yeah. I've tried to press that sometimes I don't understand when he speaks the local language. It's true because I used to not understand children in the local language, but I do now 🫣.
Honestly I think I need more non native friends with children.
Yeah. I did this unconsciously just to verify I understood since he's a toddler. It did seem to help with comprehension. I just can't get him to speak English 😅
Yeah I've been trying to do this. He definitely had this because he gets excited and surprised when people speak to him in English.
Helping child speak non local language
My kid [3yrs] speaks the local language with his other parent (separated. 50/50). and English with me (my native language). I speak both and my kid knows this, so I can't hide it.
He speaks the local language well, but English is a struggle. Comprehension is 100%, but he only speaks random words. He mostly speaks to me in the local language. Where we live, he will learn English in school, so I'm not worried about that.
I've tried various things to get him speaking English, but it's a struggle.
Are there any strategies that might work?
Cheap Cloud/Photo Storage: BackBlaze + Rclone + Round Sync
I didn't see this on any privacy guide, but with minimal work, you can have a cloud drive that's accessible from your phone and laptop.
Basically setup Rclone mounted => Rclone crypt => Rclone + Backblaze. Dump all your files and it works like a normal cloud drive. Android Rclone client is here https://github.com/newhinton/Round-Sync/releases
Round Sync let's you setup Cronjobs so you can backup all your photos or whatever automatically. I have a job that syncs all my photos to my drive every couple days.
I store a lot in Backblaze and it's <1USD/mo. I can provide details if there is interest.
Best Yoga for Contortion
There's no circus contortion studio near where I live, so I was thinking yoga might be a good alternative. I know next to nothing about yoga, but I'm more interested in contortion aspects.
My studio has the following,
- Yin
- Hath
- Ashtanga Vinjasa
- Kundalini
Which one would be the closest to contortion?
How to prepare for retaliation?
I'm preparing to file a complaint that may result in retaliation. My company might try to lay me off to make me go away. What should I do to prepare?
I'm currently,
- collecting performance reviews
- evidence that they are not planning to lay me off at the moment
- evidence to support my complaint
Anything else I should do?
Children's [4-5yrs] books that normalize poly parents
I'm in the market for books that normalize poly parenting. I have the Red Stroller for normalizing different family types (eg. single parent, gay, interracial).
My child's other parent (separated) is very conservative and my family is too. I'm not trying to "push" poly, but prepare my kid mentally/emotionally if people say shit about me. I still have several years before I would need to come out.
Do any hardened Linux distributions exist?
For example, ones that implement these guidelines? https://madaidans-insecurities.github.io/guides/linux-hardening.html
Alternatively, packages for Fedora that would set this up automatically
Download Google Maps Routes as .ics
Where I live, Google Maps is the only mapping option.
Is there anyway to download the route as .ics to add to Proton Calendar?
Recommendations of Science/History shows for toddlers [3+ yrs]
I'm particularly interested in highlighting the scientific method or historical method. Preferably with short episodes of ~10min and not too flashy/magical.
Any recommendations?
Unassuming word for people I have sex with
I called some people I'm seeing partners, but got scolded by a friend because I guess partner means a relationship that's more "serious". My friend suggested calling them lovers.
I'm emotionally involved with all my people and I care about them. I just get an ick from labels and relationship ladders (abusive family).
I'm looking for a word that's unassuming, but clearly says "I'm not single" so I can easily be honest with monogamous people.
Any suggestions? Lover sounds a little too much like cheating.
How to improve tendons recovery time
I'm not on a program per say, but in aerials, when I start training new movements, my tendons (eg. elbows) get really sore.
I normally just lay off them until they recover. Are there any ways to make the recovery faster?
Finding Local Polyamory Communities
What are your ways of finding the poly people in your local area? Do you have a community and meetups?
VPN for Work Profile
I'm trying to run my work profile over VPN. The best thing I've found so far is external GL.iNet router and put my phone on airplane mode.
Are there any better solutions?
Groceries without plastic
How/where can I buy groceries without plastic? Everything at local stores (like Albert Heijn) is wrapped in plastic.
Finding gay/bi sex parties in Europe
I currently find my parties on Fetlife, but it's mostly just bi women and straight guys. Maybe like 10% of men are bi/gay. The parties are great, but leave some holes in my life unfilled ...
Any other platforms like Fetlife for finding good parties, but with more men?