ADHD Women Weekly Check-In for Nov 26-Dec 2: How is everyone doing?
ADHD Women Weekly Check-In for Nov 26-Dec 2: How is everyone doing?
Once again, let’s be human and check in with each other.
How are you doing? How do you feel about the week behind you and the one ahead of you? Any rants or raves? Share whatever feels right!
Discussion can be about ADHD or off-topic.
As I am not a mod of this community, I do not have the capacity to pin this post. I plan on making a post on Sundays where we can check in throughout the week as needed.
Please let me know if there is a better way of doing this - any ideas are welcome :). Grateful to be a part of this community.
I'm pretty new to being a woman. It's been a rough week, but I've done my best to reach out to friends for support, and that resulted in me finding a nice tiny volunteering bar, with a lot of queer folks and I had a wonderful time
I'm sorry you had a rough week. Asking for support is so important, and it sounds like it may have led to a new beginning, a door opening up. I hope you make new friends and connections! And maybe this coming week will be better.
Thanks you for asking. I'm still just learning to even be a human, but little by little I'm getting there, and having friends I can call and ask for help means a lot. I feel so sorry for guys who are suffering from the stigma about asking for help with feeling and emotions. Are you feeling okay btw?
I had a week off work, which is nice… but it lacked structure, so I ended up not getting much done. I’m trying to follow my own reminders I post here about just taking a break and not worrying about being productive. I folded laundry and cleaned bathrooms, that’s something!
I had a low moment this week where I felt like a broken person who needs to take medication to do basic things… and it passed. Now that I look back on it… it felt awful, but it passed, and I know I am definitely not broken.
That same feeling got triggered a bit when we had a troll in this community this week (to those of you who didn’t see, it was someone critical of neurodivergent people, just the typical bs calling us lazy). I don’t understand why people feel the need to take the time out of their day to leave a mean comment in a community where they don’t belong, but whatever.
I have a long and busy week ahead of me, so wish me luck. I’m determined to get through it with grace and self-compassion 😊
You got this!
Thank you, I appreciate it!
Oh hey, we presumably have one of these issues in check! We'll keep these streets clean of trolls `-`
I forgot how much a work out can do to help with my mood. I have been a lot more sensitive to sounds and triggers this last week, and I've been feeling so much better today, after going to the gym. How's everyone else approaching this, any tips for motivating myself to go to the gym when the weather sucks and you just want to stay at home?
Exercise helps me too. Unfortunately, I don’t have tips on getting my butt to the gym in winter cause it’s a struggle.
The only thing that works for me is moving my body in a way that feels fun, so I will dance around and then stretch for a workout. I know it’s not the same as hitting the gym, but it makes my mood better for sure.
New hyper focus: Trigun. I watched the "retelling" Trigun: Stampede anime and it was awesome. It's reinvigorated my love of the IP and I'm re-reading the manga for the first time in like 20 years. My poor emotions.
My lovely boyfriend is out returning a standing desk for me because it has a cracked desktop. He knows I would have delayed returning it because of executive dysfunction. He did everything, including chatting with customer service for me.
Not looking forward to returning to work tomorrow after my 4 day Thanksgiving weekend though.
Yay for the new hyperfocus, sounds like it's quite a fun one! It can be so sentimental to go back and re-read something from so long ago! I'm always on the lookout for shows I can watch with my son who is into anime, so maybe I'll check out Trigun.
And isn't it amazing when we have a partner who gets that making calls and following up is incredibly difficult, so they just help out? Three cheers for your boyfriend!
Tomorrow is going to be dragging-ass day. I think all of us who took time off are right there with you. Here's hoping it's not too bad.
Late to the party finally starting meds. Mixed emotions and increased productivity so overall win. Now how do I get caught up on the insane things I haven't gotten done....
Congratulations on starting meds and feeling more productive! I hope it bring more peace and calm into your life.
Now how do I get caught up on the insane things I haven’t gotten done…
Slowly but consistently. Remember that you want to be building new habits while catching up on things. Everyone is different, of course, but I find it helpful to schedule small consistent bursts of productivity instead of that all-consuming focus we can have. I love the concept of "slow productivity." It can be defined as working at a slower pace on fewer tasks at a time to increase productivity and satisfaction. It's really hard for me to do, but it's done really good things for my mental health. You've got this!
Thank you. I appreciate it and I will definitely try this. Between increasing life stress several moves (for both myself and my friends and family) job issues and a med journey (tried several ssris before finally getting prescribed Ritalin, though they want me to stay in my current meds despite feeling like they aren't helping) everything has gone off the rails. Perhaps slowing down is the best course of action.
Happy to hear the meds are helping though the emotion affect does not sound cool. Hope I didn't misunderstand. I feel you on the task overwhelm. The meds definitely helped me be more productive and to use the actual strategies I've been trying to learn to deal with it, but it's slow going. They help but they are not a magic fix all. I have come to the acceptance that it's going to take me a long time to get "caught up" if that's even possible and am learning to be okay with that. Years of not dealing with stuff can't just be completed overnight. Be kind to yourself and take it day by day, one step at a time. You got this.
I'm okay. This has been a weird week. Working Black Friday was fun, but yesterday definitely came up negative in the end of day calculations. I abruptly lost a friend (like we're not friends anymore; she's not dead) mid day. Then one of my budtenders cut the hair of another budtender, right at the end of the night. So that's a problem. But tomorrow I'm off work. Time to regroup. Next week will be better.
one of my budtenders cut the hair of another budtender
like, suddenly, without consent? Work can be so weird sometimes. I hope this week started off well for you!
Yeah, yeah.. idk. I got all my details after the fact from a third party. When it happened, I had already pulled drawers and was focused on counting money and closing. Neither of the people involved felt the need to say anything to me about it. Apparently there was some joking around about cutting hair? It was "haha what if..." playing until suddenly it wasn't? Then almost everyone fucked off as soon as we were fully closed. Of course BOTH of the budtenders involved have been having their own independant behavior and performance issues. So it's complicated.
Fortunately I don't have to see either of them until at least Thursday. I'm actually at work right now covering for the hair cutter... Hopefully he won't be too mopey about getting written up, because he could have been fired for assault if she really wanted that.
Last week was pretty good, only worked 3 days because of Thanksgiving. Ended up having dinner with my inlaws and then going to my best friends later that day. All in all I can't complain. It was nice having 4 days off, i managed to have a productive day of yard work yesterday, wanted to finish it today but that was not in the cards. not sure what my issue today is, spent most of the day in bed not feeling well, hopefully I feel better tomorrow as I have a full week at work next week.
I am also a bit frustersted at myself right now because I need to find a second reference for my passport application. I have not been great at keeping friends/acquaintances so I'm trying to figure that out so I can finally get my passport situated. Not really sure what to do so I've been avoiding it.
So yeah, my week wasn't too bad, aside from me feeling under the weather today and the passport issues and also trying to figure out how I'm going to balance school and work come January. But I will get it sorted. At least I'm finally trying to get my crap together. It's been one hell of a year but I am coming out the other side better off than when I went into it last january.
It’s been one hell of a year but I am coming out the other side better off than when I went into it last january.
It's great that you are able to say this! Still plenty of time to regroup for 2024. I hope you are able to find that second reference and get your passport sorted - any travel plans for when you do?