vanilla sex bores me and idk how to tell it to my partner..

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/nocturnemagician on 2023-06-27 22:51:18+00:00.

Idk how to tell my partner (20f and im 21f) that I just don't like vanilla sex.. It's just boring for me.. I don't feel anything..

I don't even know if im normal anymore haha for a little background I started masturbating myself kind of young? So i'm like "did I used all of my sensitivity down there???" 😭

I feel like I just need more, I need pain and all kinds of things than just vanilla but I don't know how to tell them, im just too shy tbh and im their first partner they ever have sex with so I feel like it's even harder?? (we've been together for 2years!!)

I don't know when I should tell them? Last time we saw each other It took me 2weeks to tell them that It was hard for me to do the first move because I don't want to force them to do anything 😭 (because im always the one to make the first move, ig if im shy they must be too??)