Men are like volcanoes. They can be quiet for decades before suddenly erupting their accumulated suppressed feelings
As a woman, the secret is the unload your baggage to friends one at a time as to not overwhelm them.
Having a crappy day? Talk about it.
Relationship issues? Talk about it.
Feeling stuck in your career? Talk about it
But don't do it all at once, otherwise people will feel like you're misusing them as free therapy, and takes away from the natural give and take between friends/partners.