Ask the children. Act in the interest of the children. We or anyone else has no business deciding this without taking the individual needs into account. Blanket yes or no would be stupid
Children have a right to education. Parents do NOT have a right to withhold an education. Teacher's obligations are to the student, NOT TO THE PARENT. Parents can fuck right off.
Sorry, I thought this was a Canadian sub. Probably, your children don't have a right to education. But I still think any teacher's moral and ethical responsibility is to the student, not to the student's parents.
There's a lot of hypocrisy around. The issue isn't pronouns, the issue is: Does a child have a right to keep secrets from their parents?
The ones saying "no" are probably keeping or kept a fair amount from their own parents. I mean, the ones who say "yes" probably did too, it's pretty universal, but they're not being hypocrites about it.
I wonder, if you changed this question to some other hypothetical secret, how would the responses change? What about... "Does a teacher have an obligation to report if a student is dating someone?" Or maybe, "Does a teacher have an obligation to report every book a student reads (on their own time) in case it's a book the parents don't like?"
I get it, too. I'm a parent. The idea that my kids might have secrets kind of bothers me. I want to be a part of their lives, I want to help them with any problem they have. But they have a right to their own lives, and the only way I could even try to prevent it would be immensely damaging to them in the long run. I can only do my best and hope they'll see that and be comfortable talking to me about the important stuff.