[Support] Men of Lemmy, what do you need to talk about, or get support for from other men?
[Support] Men of Lemmy, what do you need to talk about, or get support for from other men?
What's happening in your life? How do you feel about where you're at?
I'm at peace with myself and life choices and have had a rather interesting time navigating my way through all the tough times. With that being said, I think men should be more honest and take the moral highground and delete their egos and pride. Most men seem to be advocating all the wrong things and in many cases are weaker than they proclaim to be.
As men, we're up against a lot and we're designed to battle through just about anything life throws at us and we'll pretty much do whatever it takes to get to the top but the process of elimination can be subject to degradation of a moral climate and standard within our home and work place and even times, we push our closest support back into the corner and keep it chained up.
I believe we've been taught wrong and how important our women are in our lives... especially for those of us who are married... women play a valuable role in our success too and we must find understanding and reasoning with each other as a collective effort to conquer our goals together as we raise our children to have the confidence and ability to help contribute to a broken down society truly divided by the very basic principles we all want to aspire to.
We must hold ourselves and others accountable but do it in a way where we don't destroy one another.
Just my thoughts, nobody has to agree with me. It's just a problem I've seen time and time again as a whole of society with diverse backgrounds and beliefs.
Toxic masculinity is such a broad term that you've touched on quite a bit. I, too, grew up with this idea that men aren't allowed to cry, or really feel any emotion outside of rage. My last marriage broke up because any time I tried to express my emotions my wife would shut down and simply not be able to handle it. We are still friends, but she is the last person I would ever try to find comfort for. My nesting partner is a dream in that respect though.
I'm good, I guess.
I was listening to Cats in the Cradle the other day and the message was hittin' pretty hard.
I'm reaching the end of my mid-career stage and I work pretty much all the time, and have never had friends as an adult. Looking back, I'd just advise y'all young guys to value time spent with friends over trading your time to get nice stuff. Fun with your friends and some shitty gear is better than nice gear and no friends.