The idea of “soulmates” or “the one and only” is inherently dangerous because it threatens the honesty of a relationship at a fundamental level. And what’s more important to a relationship than honesty?
Right? Any relationship takes work to maintain, so expecting things to just magically work without putting in any effort is a recipe for disappointment.
Also, the whole opposites attract thing is kinda bullshit when you look at 40+ year marriages.
I think opposites and sames are bad frames to think of sex and relationships. Aggro top and meek bottom are either a recipe for a wonderful night or a terrible one depending on communication and tastes. Likewise I’ve had good sex with fellow bottoms even though it might’ve been better had she been a top. Additionally a generous vers will find no better company than another generous vers. What works best is one’s complement.
Oh absolutely. My wife is literally the closest thing there could be to a soulmate. That being said, we both know that there are billions of other people in the world. There’s always an option to find someone else, so we always treat each other right.
Communication is critical but it's kind of related to honesty. You can definitely imagine a relationship where there is honesty but not enough communication or there is honesty but there is miscommunication without the issue ever being addressed.