Some drunk dude with a blue lives punisher tattoo calling themselves something and laughing obviously isn't in good faith. No matter what words they choose.
The drag poster who is the troll that started the whole thing literally posted a meme about being accepting of the attack helicopter meme in that thread!
So you do want someone to be the arbiter of what is acceptable for how someone lives their lives... you just want it to coincide with your thoughts on the matter.
How do you even get to that from saying we should call people what they want to be called? You keep trying to make this about some kind of imposition on you but it's really not.
I mean, a troll came in and said drag should be a pronoun. You gleefully picked up the torch and started arguing it for them, it kinda feels like you were looking for an excuse to argue this.
Good for you being the arbitrator of what is acceptable for how other people live their lives. That's sure a big responsibility! Running with your example, I'm now using the only two pronouns I feel comfortable using for people like you: gobshite/broomstick.
Look at broomstick over here. Gobshite actually thinks that language rules are immutable instead of a consensus amongst users! Gobshite is silly and clearly lacks any linguistics knowledge, but the most ignorant are often the most confident.
It's really up to broomstick, but gobshite already gave us carte blanche to use our personal pronoun preferences on others. I'm going to say it's at the user's discretion.
Today I learned that speaking only in third person is a pronoun, and that telling depresed trans people to die in a not-yet-happening war as an alternative to dying from depression is perfectly fine, actually. As long as you're totally not trolling, it's all good!
I feel enlightened, and touchable grass is but a distant memory.
I think it's the mismatch between Reddit and Lemmy. Yeah the mods screw up sometimes but it's nowhere near the quantity of Reddit. So they're trying to bring any ban into this community, even tiny cooling off period ones.