Smoking is certainly not the only way to acquire lung cancer, it’s merely the most popular. She might have spent years living in an apartment that used asbestos for insulation, very common for the boomer generation.
At any rate, I am sorry to hear about what you and her are going through and I wish both of you — well, I’m not even sure what to say here without sounding cheesy or cliché — but whatever is needed to make this journey more bearable.
Yes, but it's usually not the building residents that take them down. The vast majority of mesothelioma cases are people who worked with asbestos as part of their job.
Sure but I've definitely heard of cases where residents ended up getting exposed too. Lack of proper maintenance, accidents, ill-advised wall drilling, etc.
Asbestos insulation is actually perfectly safe, in the wall.
Older apartments, particularly ones that have been regularly renovated or poorly maintained, don't do a good job of keeping asbestos inside the walls. Also, asbestos itself tends to break down over time and become more difficult to keep contained. This makes asbestos cleanup extremely difficult and expensive.
You're not alone. The human body is an amazingly complex and intricate series of systems, and watching them fail in your parent one after another is.. One of the worst things I have ever witnessed.
Like some illnesses just affect a specific area or part of the body, like when you break a bone of have the sniffles, but this? It is... very "creative" in the destruction of your loved one.
I wish your mom, yourself, your family, the best of luck.