I’m mostly in person but I’m at a college and they are big on making sure people are there for the campus environment, even though many of us don’t actually interact with students. But I also have my own office and feel like I can focus better in my workspace setup there, and communicate with people best when I can stop by their office to ask a question, so as it is now I do prefer it.

That said, with my kids’ ages and how many remote jobs are available now, it still may make sense in the next year or so to look for something that offers more remote time so I can keep childcare costs to a minimum. They are old enough that they aren’t distracting, can get their own lunches and snacks and entertain themselves while I work, but not old enough that I could leave them alone while I head to the office all day.

She said she didn’t feel an emotional connection with me, so that’s my fault I suppose.

Not having an emotional connection doesn’t mean it’s someone’s fault, it just is or it isn’t. There’s not a set playlist to follow that will make someone have one with you.

I agree with other posters, NAH but a lesson learned for your next relationships in being clear with each other and understanding each other.