I just discovered my wife's secret credit debit
We've been together for 20 years and married for 15. We're a great couple, the kind our friends think of as "couple goals". We rarely fight and when we do it's normally over something trivial. And almost never about money.
We tend to be frugal and usually discuss things before making any large purchases. I became disabled about a decade ago and she's been the "bread-winner" of the family. She works hard and I'm proud of her. With the sudden contraction in income we had to file bankruptcy about 7 yrs ago and we've been good about staying out of debt since.
I handle the finances of the house, which really just means I file our taxes and check our bank statements. Yesterday, I was trying to reconcile our bank statement and trying to build a budget using our banks new software. This required me to categorize these transactions, which is a pain when a lot of them just say Amazon or PayPal. So I go digging into this only to discover she has two PayPal accounts and one is carrying $2500 in debt! We're not well-off people and that's a lot of money.
I was heart-broken. It was like my soul was just sucked out of my body. I felt something between anger and disappointment. I couldn't believe it. She must have noticed my sudden shock and saw what I was looking at because she began to reassure me that she's about to pay $600 towards it. I didn't reply. I went for a long walk to clear my head.
We still haven't spoken about it yet. I don't know what to do. I'm not mad anymore but I'm so deflated. We were supposed to be partners in all things. We don't even buy each other gifts without conferring usually it's just a joint anniversary gift.
To make matters worse, I can understand how she'd do it. She's got impulse control problems because of her untreated ADHD. She tends to self-medicate with alcohol to unwind and likes "retail-therapy" for self-soothing. She also has rejection sensitivity and is aggressively defensive. So even asking her about this may cause an involuntary lashing-out. But I must. I just don't want to.
That consciousness arises from matter as some emergent phenomenon. Integrated information theory, micro-tubules, or whatever: no.
I believe consciousness is fundamental.
Humans as a power source was the dumbed-down plot point. The original concept was the human brains acting as parallel processors, but the writers thought the average movie-goer wouldn't get it.
I hate this for them. I feel like the new store location has been a lot of trouble.
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No offense taken
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These are salient points
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I edited my post
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I hope it's easier to digest now
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Thank you for the constructive criticism
"You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago" - Alan Watts
This one is a bit hard-won for me. You see I used to be an asshole. It was my brand. I thought "it's just in my nature".
Fortunately, I was also a student of religion (mostly because I was a militant atheist. Know your enemy and all that). Studying Buddhism, I began to observe the nature of self. I found enough distance from it to see its transient nature.
I realized being an asshole was a choice and I could just as easily choose otherwise. Soon I began to discover this was true of most character traits.
I'm not saying you don't have consistent patterns of behavior. I'll hopefully always be curious and analytical. But for the most part, the way you conduct yourself and where you focus your attention is a choice.
So, if you're not happy with who you are maybe don't be so attached to the idea of 'who you are". And if that seems hard, observe what you pay your attention to and try to find the distance between observation and behavior. In that gap lies the choice you make, consciously or not, to be "you".
Use a vacuum cleaner with a detached hose. While applying suction from the screen side, slide the nozzle up while dragging the card with it.
This one was actually quite entertaining. When the episode switched from the Live Action "previously on" recap to the animated Lower Decks crew, I was tickled. The second Jack Quaid came through the portal as Boimler, I was invested. He nails the live action portrayal. I also loved him as Hughie in The Boys.
Possible to Block an Instance?
Is it possible to block a specific instance (e.g. lemmynsfw.com) not just a community on an instance (e.g. [email protected])? I'm looking in the settings, but don't see that option. The goal isn't to block all NSFW posts, just filter out the majority of them coming from specific instances. Yes, I know I can just blur them and I do.
“What is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?” — Paarthurnax, Skyrim
For an example -NSFW strong language-, here's an AI imitating/mocking the US presidential debate
Fire in the Sky Just no. I couldn't even look at an image of a grey alien for years. Had to look away during the opening credits of X-files because they flashed an image of a grey. I got over it. I actually rewatched it during the pandemic lock-in. It holds up pretty well.
I named my truck Artax because I'm gonna cry like a little bitch when it finally dies.
I have been doing this for the most part, but the muscle memory of over a decade of RES is hard to overcome.
That's what I was thinking too. I'll try again this evening after work. rn I can't drop my LAN.
Is there a way to have links automatically open in a new tab?
I'm so used to RES that this is mildly infuriating. I click on a link expecting is to open in the background for review later and instead it opens in the current tab obliterating my current position. Hitting back will get me to approximately the same place I was but it's usually a whole page behind.
I tried that once. Held the reset pin in for 7-10 seconds. Nothing happened.
Netgear Nighthawk Router is Randomly Denying Connections
This is driving me nutty. I've got a Netgear Nighthawk router. It is set up with two WiFi SSIDs one for 2.4 and 5 GHz. Both are set to DHCP. I've got about 30 devices connected at any given time. Most of those are my smart bulbs, which are all connected on the 2.4 GHz channel. Occasionally, and seemingly randomly, my phones will drop connection and will not be able to reconnect. The phone can see the SSID broadcast for my network, it will attempt a connection, but the connection will be refused. I've tried forgetting and reconnecting to the network on my phone but that does nothing. I've tried a static IP, nope. The only thing that resolves it is restarting the router.
Whenever the routers reboots, it will deny all attempted connections unless I turn off all my smart bulbs and reconnect one at a time. If I do this I can get everything connected. But eventually my phone will get disconnected, usually from leaving the network range, and then won't be able to reconnect.
To make matters worse, I can't connect to the router via the gateway address, which I'm certain is correct. Neither the IP nor the netgear RouterLogin.net connect to the router's maintenance portal. I've been using the Nighthawk app to manage my network, which is limited to say the least.
I could use some helpful advice here. I'm about to just chuck the thing and get a new router.
Good read, if a bit lengthy for so little content. But it's an interview transcript. Nevertheless, Whittaker makes some good points. I do find it odd that privacy invasion is always justified by those in power under the rubric of protecting children. Yet, time and time again we can see that their true aim is always more authoritarian overreach. At least we are seeing less claims of "fighting the war on terror" mostly, I believe, thanks to Snowden blowing that myth out of the water.
I for one will be continuing to use end-to-end encryption whenever possible. I've used Signal for years and have dragged many a friend onto the platform. Unfortunately, one of the downsides, Signal up until recently was able to be used as a complete replacement for your SMS app, utilizing E2E encryption for Signal users. This meant I could just convince my friends to change messaging apps. It was so simple my mother could do it. Now however, Signal is no longer routing standard SMS messages, which means you must have Signal for Signal users and another app for SMS. This is often too much a barrier for the less tech savvy. At least RCS between 2 individuals is ostensibly E2E encrypted.
Is there a way set the default language for my posts and comments?
I've tried setting this option in account settings but I still get asked for every post and comment. The drop-down defaults to "Select Language" with "Undetermined" and "English" as the options within.
I know. You're right. It's just an old habit.
I'm not certain, but perhaps some games are pre-cracked. For instance, some from that girl who's fit.