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[2023-11-10] Fri snak fredag
  • Har fået en mail fra EDC om at de er blevet hacket, og de anbefaler at oprette en kreditadvarsel på borger.dk, for at undgå at der kan optages lån i mit navn.

    Jeg er så også igang med at købe bolig, så jeg skal lige præcis have godkendt et nyt lån i denne måned…

  • Do you struggle with Interoception? How does it manifest in your life?
  • I don’t really notice that I’m thirsty, so I used to go full work days without drinking anything other than a glass of water that my colleague gave me at lunch, then feeling strangely tired when going home.

    The end result was a kidney stone. After that painful experience, I always have a bottle of water in my office, and make sure that I drink one bottle before lunch and another in the afternoon.

    On days off from work, I still forget to drink, because I don’t have my water bottle there to remind me.

  • DAE Feel the Urge to Connect with an Old Friend Again but at the Same Time Feel Afraid/Relunctant?
  • At my age, this has happened more times than I care to admit. With some people, it’s like no time passed at all, and everything is great.

    With others, it has become very evident why we lost touch.

    I haven’t discovered a way of seeing who is what type without just trying to reconnect and seeing what happens.

  • Need help learning how to read books again
  • I run into this in periods due to working too much and just not having the energy. The key for me is to give up on any intellectual ambitions for a while, and just go for something that’s quick and easy to read.

    After I’ve started reading regularly again, I can then ramp up the difficulty until I suddenly reach that stage again where I feel like “it’s weird how I just don’t read anymore”, and I have to start over.

  • How to connect?
  • Thank you, that's a helpful analogy. I'm self taught in most of the things that I enjoy, but since this is something that I don't enjoy, I might try to find myself a coach for this one. :)

  • How to connect?
  • You're making a lot of sense. I also struggle with phone calls, and the only way that I've found to make them work is to take out something that I can take notes on (or I will forget what was said during the conversation), and then just dial the number before I even have time to think about it.

    It can be hard to remember in the moment, but I try to remind myself that the other person probably also wants the conversation to succeed.

  • How to connect?
  • Thank you. Looking at my own progression, it actually makes a lot of sense that practice without feeling anxious won't help (apart from training on what to say, or for example spotting when people lose interest because a story becomes too detailed.) I can talk all I want with those people I feel comfortable with, or in situations that I know how to navigate. As soon as someone I'm not comfortable with shows up, I still go numb.

    So the only way to break down the barrier is to deliberately and repeatedly set it up and punch through it. I think I have something that could work for that, which happens regularly and which I have sort of wished that I could be a part of. Do you think it's possible for me to practice by myself, or do I need a therapist in the mix?

  • How to connect?

    I just got back from two days at a giant conference. Every year I go, and my dream is to join in the community that it is a part of, and every year I come back, having talked to no one at all.

    I can plan things to say, and then just shut down when the opportunity comes. I can also plan too far and figure that I won't have anything more to say after the initial contact, so why bother?

    I've read various books on social anxiety and the old "How to win friends", but I just don't feel like they're helpful. Does anyone know of any resources that take autism and selective mutism into consideration?

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